Abanye abameli bakhawuleza bachonga ngesiseko sabo sembatho, bakhethe into efanelekileyo ngakumbi kubo ngesimo okanye into elula kakhulu. Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo amantombazana bakuthola kunzima ukufumana isitala zabo kwiingubo, ngakumbi kubantu abatsha, kuba beselula, uhlala ufuna uhlobo oluthile lovavanyo kunye noshintsho. Kodwa kubalulekile kungekhona nje ukuzama, kodwa ukwenza ngokuhlakanipha. Into eyona nto kukuba isitayela ongeyithandi okanye uwa phantsi kwemizwa, kuya kufuneka ukuba ufike kuwe, kukuhlobisa. Ngoko uyayazi njani impendulo yombuzo, yimuphi umhlobo wengubo ondifanayo? Masiqwalasele ngakumbi.
Indlela yokukhetha isitayela esifanele wena?
Sinegama eliqhelekileyo elithi "ubuhle budinga umnikelo", kodwa kusekufanelekile ukuba sicinge ukuba kuyafaneleka yini ngenxa yobuhle ukwenza imibingelelo. Emva kwakho konke, unako ukufikelela ekukhangekeni kwaye ungenamnikelo omkhulu, ukuba uyazi njani. Ngoko ke, imeko esemqoka yokukhetha isitayela sokunxiba esifanelekileyo ilula. Ukuba uziva ukhululekile, ngoko uya kukhangeleka kakuhle.
Kwakhona, uzibuza ukuba ungakhetha njani isitayela, cinga malunga nendawo ohlala uhamba nayo nento othanda ukuyenza, kuba isitayela sakho kwisambatho kufuneka sifane nokuphila ngendlela. Okokuthi, ukuba uchithe ixesha elide emsebenzini, qiniseka ukuba kukho izinto ezininzi kwisigqobo sakho sarhweba kwisitayela somsebenzi , kuba ukugqoka ibhatyi elifanayo lonke ixesha alixhamli ngokupheleleyo. Cinga ngendlela ochitha ixesha lakho lokuzonwabisa. Ukuba uthanda ukuhamba epakini okanye iholide esebenzayo, ngoko uya kulungelelanisa ulutsha olukhululekile okanye uhlobo lwezemidlalo. Kwaye ukuba ukhetha ukuya kwimibutho ngexesha lakho lokuzikhethela, ngoko isitala sakho sewadi kufuneka sibe nefanelekileyo: iwesifazana, inhle kwaye inqabileyo.
Ekugqibeleni, kufuneka ndixelele ukuba kukuphendulela umbuzo umbuzo onjani oya kundenza. Emva kwakho konke, isitayela sakho sikhombisa wena, ilizwe lakho langaphakathi. Ngoko ke, ukuba ungathandabuzeki kwaye awukwazi ukuba yiyiphi impahla yembatho onzima kakhulu, ke uya kuthenga, zama izinto ezahlukeneyo, jikela phambi kwegumbi lokugqoka kwaye uqaphele uhlobo luni lweengubo ozithandayo kakhulu.
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