Ngokuqinisekileyo, akukho mtshakazi omnye, ubeka ingcongolo ngezandla zokuthuthumela, akacingi ngokuqhawula umtshato, ukuba umntu omileyo uya kuba mnandi kangangokuthi akafuni ukumbona okanye ukumva. Nangona kunjalo akuqhelekanga, inani lee-akhawunti kule akhawunti lidabukisayo. ERashiya, i-57% yezibini ziqhawule umtshato, ngelixa i-Ukraine inqanaba lomtshato li-48%. Ziziphi izizathu zokutshatyalaliswa kweentsapho, kutheni umtshato usuka kwisigqibo sokugqibela esiya kubomi obuqhelekileyo? Masizame ukuqonda izizathu zokuqhawula umtshato.
Izizathu ezibalulekileyo zokuqhawula umtshato
Kutheni i intsapho ziphula? Isiqabane ngasinye esiqhawule umtshato sinembali eyahlukileyo yokuqhawula umtshato, kodwa izazi zengqondo zichonga izizathu ezithandathu zokuhlukana kwentsapho, ezithathwa njengezona ziphambili.
- Ukuba sithetha ngezizathu zokuqhawula umtshato weentsapho ezincinci, umgca wokuqala kwoluhlu luya kuthatha isizathu esinjalo, njengokuba ungenalo umtshato. Ngokuqhelekileyo izibini ezinjalo zigqiba ukutshata ngothando oluthandayo. Kwaye ababaziyo malunga nobomi bentsapho. Ngenxa yoko, ukungafuni ukuphulaphula omnye umntu, wenze imvume, kwaye ekugqibeleni uqhawule umtshato.
- Omnye, isizathu esingaziwa esithandwayo sokuqhawula umtshato, ngaba izilingo zomnye wabatshatileyo. Utywala, ukuxhatshazwa kweziyobisi, umlutha wezemidlalo, konke oku kwenza ubomi bentsapho bubekezeleleke. Kwaye ukuba umlutha akafuni ukuwususa umkhwa omubi, kukho enye indlela yokuphuma - umtshato.
- Phakathi kwezizathu zokutshatyalaliswa kweentsapho ngokuqhelekileyo kuthiwa ukukrexeza. Utshintsho lungaqondwa, luchaziwe, kodwa kunzima ukuxolela. Abaninzi abafuni nje ukunyamezela isimo sengqondo esifanayo somlingane kwaye bangeniswa ngokuqhawula umtshato.
- Ngokuqhelekileyo isibini sinquma ukuqhawula umtshato ngenxa yokungabi nemali kwintsapho, ukungakwazi ukuphucula imeko yabo yezemali. Inendima ebalulekileyo idlalwe ukungabikho kwemali yokubonelela intsapho yokuhlala ehlukeneyo-ukuhlala nabazali kuhlala kuvivinywe kakhulu.
- Mhlawumbi uya kumangaliswa, kodwa xa ebuzwa ukuba kutheni iintsapho ziqhekeka, izazi zengqondo ziphendula ukuba abafazi bajonga imibono eyahlukileyo ebomini, ngamanye amazwi, abavumelani nabalinganiswa. Lo mmahluko uchazwa ngokukhethekileyo kwimanyano yabantu abavela kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo zentlalo. Ngokomzekelo, omnye wabafazi abanezemfundo ephakamileyo, umsebenzi omuhle, uye wasebenzisa ukuphumla kwiindawo zokuhlaziya (nakwabasekhaya), unomdla wokufunda iincwadi zengqondo. Omnye akazange azame ukungena eyunivesithi, uthanda ukumba egadini endaweni yokuphumla kwaye akanakuqonda into enokufumaneka kwiincwadi zeencwadi. Nangona uthando lunabo, ukungafani okunjalo akubonakali. Kodwa emva koko, xa iimvakalelo zincinci, kuyacaca ukuba aba bantu abanalo into efanayo, kakuhle, luhlobo luni lentsapho?
- Kwakhona, izizathu zokuqhawula umtshato zinganelisekanga ngokwesini okanye iingxaki zempilo, ngokukodwa, nangempilo yokuzala. Ngokuqhelekileyo, endaweni yokujongana neengcali ekuxazululeni iingxaki, isibini sinquma ukuqhawula umtshato.
Iimpawu zokutshatyalaliswa kwangaphambili kwintsapho
Ukutshatyalaliswa kweentlobano zentsapho akunakwenzeka ngokukhawuleza, ukunganeliseki komnye nomnye kuqokelela ngokuthe ngcembe, imihla ngemihla, kude kube neziphumo zokuqhawula umtshato. Uyakuqonda njani ukuba kukho ukungqinelana kwintsapho?
Eyona nto, kubanda kubundlelwane. Sithetha ngesondo - esi sibini sinqwenela ukulala ngokufanelekileyo ubusuku bonke. Ukuba sithetha malunga noqhagamshelwano lwemihla ngemihla, kukho izinto ezimbini ezinokwenzeka: indoda kunye nomfazi abaqhelekanga ukuthetha, bazibandakanya ngamazwi abomileyo, okanye bathetha rhoqo, kodwa ngaba bantwana, iingxaki zemihla ngemihla, ngaphandle kokuzama ukufumana isihloko esifanayo kwingxoxo. Abatshatileyo bayeke ukubelana nabo ngokuzonwabisa kunye neengxaki zabo, abafuni ukufunda okuthile ngomnye nomnye. Ummelwane ebhedeni ubonwa njengowongezo oluvuthayo, okwenza ixesha lixhomekeke kwimpumelelo yezinto eziphathekayo, isimo somntu osapho, abantwana abaqhelekileyo.