Isimemo somtshato sivame ukubangela ukuba amantombazana avuyiswe yinto yokuba kuya kukwazi ukugqoka, ukudanisa, kwaye mhlawumbi uqhelane nomnye umntu oshukumisayo, kodwa kunye nolonwabo oludibaniswe nelokuba ufuna ukukhangela ngokungavamile. Kunzima kakhulu ukukhetha ingubo, ukuba inxulumene nomtshato weentsapho, umzekelo, umzalwana.
Unokukhetha njani ingubo yomtshato wam mzalwana?
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ulwalamano lwakho, nangayiphi na imeko, jongela ukuthenga ingubo ngokufanelekileyo, kuba unelungu losapho, oko kuthetha ukuba izalamane zakho ziza kugweba umyeni ngokubonakala kwakho. Kukho imithetho emininzi, iimpahla kufuneka ziphephe:
- Musa ukugqoka iingubo ezimfutshane okanye ezinqamlekileyo, zishiye kumaqela anobungane okanye amaqela angamaqanda. Emtshatweni, apho kukho izihlobo ezindala, ziya kubonakala zihlambalaza.
- Ukuba awuqhelani nomtshakazi kwaye awukwazi ukufumana umbala wengubo yakhe, kuya kuba ngcono ukuba ungagqoki iimpahla ezimhlophe. Uya kuzifumana kwisimo esingenakunqwenelekayo ukuba ngokukhawuleza ukhetha umbala ongaphezulu, kwaye ukhetho, xa unabini emhlophe, aluyiyona mpu melelo.
- Musa ukuba yintsusa uze ukhethe isitayela seklasi. Nangona umtshato uza kwenzeka nasiphi na isitayela, uya kulungeleka ukubheka.
Yintoni endiyifunayo?
Indlela yokugqoka umtshato womntakwenu ukuba ubonakale mkhulu, uya kuxelela nomzimba wakho. Namhlanje, ngendlela, iingubo ezide, eziqhelekileyo ezilungele kakuhle phantse naziphi na izibalo zithe tye. Ungakulibali ukuba kufuneka ufake izambatho zangaphambili ukuze ugqoke umtshato womntakwenu, oza kugxininisa umtsalane wakho. Kwaye, ukuba kunjalo, ukuya kwimibhiyozo enjalo, kubalulekile ukucinga kwangaphambili isiqhamo somtshakazi.
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