Ngaba ulungele ukuba ngumzali?
1. Yiya kwiipaki zokuzonwabisa.
Ngokuza kubantwana, ukutyelela kwiipaki zokuzonwabisa kuya kuncitshiswa ekubukeni iibalati ezibiza iindleko, ukucula kweengoma kunye nezingane zokuzonwabisa. Yibambe ngoko mzuzu: thabatha uhambo ngokukhawuleza uhamba ngokukhawuleza kwaye uhambe ixesha elide njengoko ufuna.
2. Gcina imali.
Apha iimbono zibaluleke kakhulu: abantwana bayabiza.
3. Fumana inja
Abahlobo beFluffy bangakulungiselela ngokuzeleyo ukuzalwa kwabantwana.
4. Funda ezinye iincwadi malunga nabazali.
Iincwadi malunga nokukhuliswa kwabantwana zenza ingqiqo ukuba zifunde, kodwa ezininzi zazo ziya kukufundisa kuphela ukunyamekela umntwana wakho ngunyaka wokuqala wobomi okanye njalo. Iingcamango ngebali malunga nobuhlobo phakathi kwabazali nabantwana ziya kukunika okungakumbi: unokufumana umfanekiso opheleleyo womva umzali kunye novuyo lwakho, ukudumala kwaye, ekugqibeleni, ukuzonwabisa okwenene.
5. Hambisa kwindawo ohlala uphupha ngayo.
Ndololoko ndiphupha ekufumaneni into efana nokuhlala kwidolophu, kwidolophana okanye kwelinye ilizwe? Ukuba kunjalo, ngoko kufuneka uthabathe eli nyathelo ngoku! Gqiba kwiinguqulelo ezinzulu ebomini emva kokuzalwa kwabantwana abaninzi, i-goraaaazdo nzima.
6. Zama ukwenza into ebanzi.
Ukuqonda ukuba ngoku uphendule kumntu omncinci oxhomekeke ngokupheleleyo kuwe, mhlawumbi, kuya kukuthintela ukuba ungagxothi kwi-cliff okanye uthathe inxaxheba kwinkomo yenkomo. Ngoko ukuba ufuna ukwenza into embi, ngoku ngoku lixesha.
7. Uhambo.
Ukubona ihlabathi lilula xa ufuna ukuhlawula ithikithi elilodwa kuphela, endaweni yoko, uthi, ezine.
8. Ukubopha ngotywala xa uziva uzixhomekeke.
"Yeka ukusela? Ewe, andinayo ... Andikwazi ngisho ... "
Akufanele uzinqabe utshwala kuphela ngenxa yokuba ufuna ukuba ngumzali, kodwa ukuba ukusetyenziswa kwayo kuyinkathazo kuwe okanye uqala ukuba yinto enye (kwaye uyayiqonda entliziyweni yakho), ngoko uyayeka ukusela. Emva koko, akunakulungele ukuzisa umntwana kweli hlabathi, ukushiya yonke into njengoko kunjalo.
9. Cela umama wakho notata ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuba ngabazali.
Abazali bakho mhlawumbi bafihla ubunzima babo bemihla ngemihla ebusaneni babo, kodwa ngoku unako (kwaye kufanele) ubabuze ukuba kwakunjani ukuba bakhulise ngokwenene. Yintoni eyona nto yayinzima? Ngaba ukubonakala kwabantwana kuthintela ubuhlobo babo? Ingxoxo enengqiqo kulezi zihloko kuya kukunceda uqonde ukuba kubonakala ukuthini ukubonakala kubantwana kuwe.
10. Funda ngcono umlingane wakho womntu kwaye ujabulele unxibelelwano nomnye.
Ukugxininisa ekunyamekelaneni iminyaka emininzi kuya kukuvumela ukuba wenze isiseko esiqinileyo sokudlula ixesha lokubonakala komntwana, xa ubuhlobo buba nzima.
11. Fumana imfundo.
Nangona kunokwenzeka ukudibanisa imfundo nokukhuliswa kwabantwana, oku akunjalo lula! Ukongeza kwinto ofuna ukuyifumana imfundo, kufuneka uxhase ngemali intsapho kwaye ube ngumama womntu okanye uyise. Ukuba unethuba lokugqiba izifundo zakho ngoku, kwaye kungekudala, yenza njalo.
12. Yiya kwindawo yokutya.
Ngokuza kubantwana, ungadla ngaphandle kwendlu kwikhostile zentsapho, kwaye ngaphandle kwezinto ezimbalwa ongaya kuzo zokudlela zokuhlala, kodwa kunye neengxaki ezongeziweyo kunye neendleko ze-nanny, ke qiniseka ukuba uhambele ezi ziko namhlanje!
13. Jabulela ngokupheleleyo.
"Ngenxa yokuba sithanda amaqela."
Mhlawumbi waziva izikhalazo zabanye abazali ukuba abanalo ixesha lokuba bancinci baze bahlekise. Emva kokuba unomntwana, uzakufumana ngokuzenzekelayo isimo somntu omdala onoxanduva. Ngoko musa ukukhawuleza ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba unxanelekile.
14. Yenza inqanaba lomsebenzi wamanqanaba.
"Njengomphathi."
Njengoko sele siqaphele, ukukhulisa abantwana akuyinto enokuzonwabisa. Ngako oko, kunengqiqo kakhulu yokuqhubela phambili kangangoko kunokwenzeka kwizinga lezemisebenzi, ukwenzela ukudala izimo ezifanelekileyo kwimfundo yazo elandelayo.
15. Funda yonke into oye wafuna ukuyenza.
Oku akuyikukuxhasa kuphela, kodwa kwakhona kunciphisa iingcamango ezingapheliyo kwiminyaka engama-20 ezayo: "Xa aba bantwana bekhulile, ndiya kuba nexesha lokufunda indlela yokudlala igitare!"
16. Hlalani ubusuku bonke.
"Ndisele i-cocktail ezintathu kunye nekomityi yekhofi."
Unobusuku obuninzi bokulala ngaphambi kwakho, ngakumbi xa abantwana bancinci, kodwa akuyi kuba yintando yakho. Yingakho uzama ukuhlala iminyaka ngaphambi kokuba kubonakale kubantwana ukwenzela ukuba isizathu esithile sokuvuka kuze kube ngu-4 kusasa kwakungekho mnandi.
17. Thatha izigqibo ngokuzenzekelayo.
"EVasgas, umntwana, eVasgas."
Ubomi babazali buchasene nokuthotyelwa kwezenzo zangaphandle. Ngoko ke, xa ungenabantwana, kwaye kukho ithuba elide, umzekelo, ukunyuka kweNtaba ye-Everest, kufuneka uyenze.
18. Zizingca.
"Eli liqela lilizuko lam!"
Xa unabantwana, phantse njalo kufuneka ubeke iimfuno zabo ngaphezu kwazo. Ngoko bambambe umzuzu kwaye ungakulibali ukuzithoba ngamanye amaxesha xa kunokwenzeka.
19. Ukufezekisa ukuvisisana.
Ukuba ungekho ukulungiswa kweengxaki ukusuka ebuntwaneni, ukungakhuselekanga okunzima kuwe, okanye nayiphina ingxaki efuna ukuyisombulula, ngoku lixesha lokuzinyamekela. Awukwazi ukuvelisa ubuntu obuphumeleleyo kubantwana, ungaqiniseki ngokwakho.