Umbhali wenkolelo yengqondo ye-psychoanalysis, uSigmund Freud, waqaphela kakhulu amaphupha. Ukuba ukholelwa ingcamango yakhe, amaphupha angasitshela ngokuthandayo, kwaye ukuchithwa kwazo ngokuchanekileyo kuya kunceda ukujamelana neengxaki. Iingcamango zizonke malunga nomntu kunye nentloko yakhe.
Ingqondo engenanto (okanye ingqalelo) ingenayo i-IQ malunga nama-10,000:
- Uyazi konke owaziyo;
- Uyazi ukuba awukwazi noko uwaziyo.
I-subconscious ngokusebenzisa iphupha lisazisa umntu ulwazi olwenzayo ngexesha langoku lobomi bakhe. Iphupha malunga neentsana kunye nokukhulelwa, ngokomthetho, zibonisa:
- phuhliso lwe zi ganeko;
- ukuvela kweengcamango ezintsha kunye nezicwangciso;
- okanye imeko enomdla ngokwenene.
Ukukhulelwa kwakho kubonakala ngathi?
Iingcamango zokukhulelwa - kungekhona into engavamile nje kuphela kubafazi, baphupha ngabantu. Kufuneka kuqatshelwe ngokukhawuleza ukuba kubomi bonke bomntu kuza isigaba (ikakhulukazi kwabasetyhini, nangona kunjalo amadoda) xa ecinga ngokuba ngumzali, kwaye oku kuchaphazela umxholo wamaphupha akhe. Nangona abahlobo bashada baze babe nabantwana, abantu baqala ukuguqula ubomi babo bezenhlalakahle kunye nobomi babo. Naliphi na incwadi yokukhulelwa kwencwadi ngeli xesha libhekiselele umnqweno kunye nomnqweno wokuba nosapho lwakho.
Ukuba ibhinqa inokukhulelwa, kwaye ngokwenene isesikhundleni, iphupha libonisa ukuxhalaba kwayo. Njengomthetho, kwi-trimester yokuqala ngamaphupha ngokukhulelwa kubonakala:
- zidalwa ezincinci;
- zi lwanyana;
- i ntyatyambo;
- siqhamo;
- amanzi.
I-trimester yesibili ixhala ngeengxaki zokungabi ngumama onobuchule kunye nokubonakala kweengxaki kunye nomntwana kunye nokubonakala kwakhe. Kwixesha lesithathu lokubeletha kunye neendlobongela ziqala ukuvela ukuba into embi ingenzeka kumntwana. Ngeli xesha, izidalwa ezininzi zivame ukubonakala kumaphupha omfazi okhulelwe:
- imikhomo;
- izindlovu;
- dinosaurs.
Incwadi yephupha yokukhulelwa ephupheni kwaye "ummandla kunye neziqhwala" zibonakalisa njengesimboli se-metamorphosis - utshintsho emzimbeni, ukukhula komntwana ngaphakathi komfazi. Kodwa ukuba awukho ndawo, kwaye nabahlobo abanalo intsapho, ngoko ukukhulelwa kuthi ngoku:
- Impumelelo. Ukukhulelwa kufanekisela izicwangciso kunye nethemba elivuthiweyo kumntu kwaye ekugqibeleni liphumelele.
- Uphuhliso okanye ukugqiba. Ukukhulelwa kwiphupha kuvame ukubonisa ixesha elide lokulindela eliyimfuneko ebomini, kwaye ngoku ke iqela lesigxina lizaliswa. Ukukhulelwa kuthetha ukubunjwa nokuphuhliswa kwamandla omntu ngamnye.
Ukukhulelwa kwamathambo kubonakala ngathi?
Ukulala malunga nokukhulelwa kwamawele kunokuthetha ukuba izinto ezichaseneyo, kukufanelekile ukuthembela kumava akho:
- Ukuzala amawele okanye amawele ephupheni kuthetha ukuvakalelwa kwinyani, ukulinganisela komphefumlo kunye nokuzaliseka kobomi.
- Ukulindela amawele kufanekisela umboniso wesiganeko okanye ingxabano. Ukuba usebenza kwiprojekthi, ngoko, mhlawumbi ukhangele phambili kwiimbono eziphikisanayo malunga nesiphumo sayo. Mhlawumbi umntu ebomini bakho ukholelwa ukuba ubhetele kunakho, kwaye ukhathazeke kakhulu ngale nto.
Ukukhulelwa kwentombi kubonakala ngathi?
Ingcaciso yokuphupha yokukhulelwa kwiphupha lentombazana engazange ibe yintsebenziswano ebudlelane ngezindlela ezahlukeneyo:
- Ukukhulelwa kwiphupha njengophawu lwezinto ezintsha - iingcamango ezinkulu kunye nezicwangciso zokudala, kuquka nentombi.
- Umboniso wokugweba into kunye nentliziyo yangaphakathi.
- Umnqweno wokufumana okungenakwenzeka (ukubhekisela kwinto yokuba ukukhulelwa ngaphandle kwesenzo sokukhulelwa akunjalo).
- Indlela yokuya esikhathini (ubuhlungu bobusuku kwisisu ngaphambi kokuba inyanga ingabhubhisa amaphupha okukhulelwa kwanoma yimuphi ummeli wesini esilungileyo).
- Uthando, ukulindela kobudlelwane obusondeleyo kunye nabathandekayo kunye nokwesaba kwangaphakathi "kokubhabha".
Uvavanyo lokukhulelwa lubukeka njani?
Ukuba uvavanyo lokukhulelwa, lithetha ukuba kungekudala isigaba esitsha siza kuqala ebomini - kubuhlobo okanye emsebenzini. Olu tshintsho luya kuhlola ukukwazi kwakho ukuvumelanisa nokusebenza kwimeko entsha. Ingabonakalisa ukwesaba okwenene kunye nenkxalabo yokuba kukho imeko enomdla.
Kutheni sifuna ukufunda ngokukhulelwa?
Ukufunda ngokukhulelwa kwiphupha kuthetha:
- Enye into ebalulekileyo yobomi bomntu siqu ikhula, kodwa awukakulungeli ukuqwalasela oku.
- Ukwesaba izibophelelo ezintsha, ezicwangciswe kusasa elizayo.
Kutheni kuphuma igazi ngexesha lokukhulelwa?
Njengomthetho, nayiphi na ukulahlekelwa kwegazi kwiphupha kuthetha ukuphelelwa ngumzimba kunye nokuhlupheka. Iphupha elinjalo linokuphandelwa xa izinto zingalunganga ubudlelwane nabahlobo, izalamane kunye nabalingane - xa ubunzima bokusebenzisana bunzima. Abasetyhini banokuphupha ukuphuma kwegazi:
- ngaphambi okanye emva kokuya esikhathini;
- ngexesha lokukhulelwa.
Kwimeko yesibini, ubulili obuhle bukhathazeka kakhulu malunga nephupha legazi ngexesha lokukhulelwa, kuba iingcinga ziqondiswa ngokwemvelo kwi-negative-about a miscarriage. Nangona kunjalo, iphupha lokuphuma kwegazi ngexesha lokukhulelwa akusoloko lidala ukukhathazeka. Ifuzisela:
- ukwesaba ukutshatyalaliswa komfazi kwiphondo;
- ukuphelelwa ngumsindo kwiinkathazo ekusebenzelaneni nomntu;
- isifo.
Ukukhulelwa okukhukhulayo kubonakala ngathi?
Ukuba ukukhulelwa ngumntwana ofileyo, oku kunokuthetha ukukhathazeka ngezinto ezingahambi kakuhle, njengoko kulindeleke. Ukukhulelwa okukhenkce ephupheni kufanekisela ukuba omnye umsebenzi onzima owenziwe uya kutshabalalisa kunye nokuxhalaba ngawo. Ukuba iphupha elifanayo lenzekile ngexesha lokukhulelwa - oku kuqhelekileyo, ngelixa le-trimester yesibili, ngokuqhelekileyo i-miscarriages and pregnancy pregnancy.
Ukukhulelwa nokubeleka kubonakala ngathi?
Ukuba uphupha ukuba ukhulelwe kwaye ukuzalwa kusondele, okanye inkqubo yokuzalwa iphupha, ke le phupha licinga ukuba umntu ukhuthaza imbono entsha, iphrojekthi ezayo ekuboneni ukukhanya. Iphupha apho wena okanye umntu ozalayo kunokuthi:
- isimo sengqondo esitsha kunoma yini;
- iingcinga ezintsha, iziqalo;
- umboniso wesiganeko esibalulekileyo kunye esibalulekileyo.
Nangona amaphupha aloo cwangciso atyelela ingqalelo kumntwana wangaphakathi womntu, njengokungathi uthetha malunga nokuba unokukhula kwaye uqhubeke phambili. Iingcamango zokubeletha kwangaphambili zithetha:
- ukulungelelanisa imizamo emitsha;
- kunye nokuxhalabisa ngezoshishino ezingapheliyo.
Iphupha malunga nokuzalwa komntu ongeyena umntu uthi:
- Ukoyika ngokungenangqiqo kwempilo yomntwana ongakazalwa;
- malunga nokuxhalabisa ayenakho ukukhubazeka kokuzalwa.
Olu hlobo lokulala luqhelekileyo kubasetyhini abakhulelweyo kwi-trimester yesibini. Ukuba akukho ukukhulelwa kwangempela, loo phupha ibonisa ukwesaba ukwenza isigqibo okanye ukwesaba iziphumo zento esele yenziwe. Ngethuba lokuzama ukunqoba ubunzima ebomini nokufezekisa uphuhliso lwabantu, loo maphupha angaphupha. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba ukuzalwa kwe-monster kuphupha, kuthetha ukuba amandla angaphakathi okudala kufuneka atyatye kwaye akhule. Kodwa kukho ukungabaza ngokukhulula le "monster" ngenxa yokoyika ukuba abanye baya kugweba kwaye abayi kwamkela iinjongo zakho.
Ukukhulelwa komama kubonakala ngathi?
Xa ukhulelwe komnye umntu uphupha, oku kubonisa ukuxhamla okufutshane nayo. Ukuba umfazi okhulelweyo uphupha, kuthetha izinto ezintsha kunye noshintsho ebomini. Ukukhulelwa komama wakho kwiphupha kuthetha:
- iimeko ezifanelekileyo zokuphunyezwa kwesi cwangciso;
- ukubonakala kwabathengi endleleni yokufezekisa injongo;
- ukuzithemba ngoncedo lomntu omthandayo kwimeko enzima.
Ukukhulelwa komdade kubonakala ngathi?
Ukukhulelwa kwiphupha kudla ngokuba ngumfanekiso weshishini elingagqitywanga - into esondela ekupheleni. Ukuba elinye iphupha lidityaniswe nodade, oku akuthethi ukuba ulwalamano oluchanekileyo nenjongo yobuthongo. Udade ephupheni ubonisa into ethile yobuntu bomntu ophuphayo. Ukuba udibanisa zonke ezi zinto ndawonye, iphupha elinjalo liwuphawu loshishino olungagqityiweyo kwinqanaba elithile lobomi bephupha. Unako ukucacisa ubungakanani ngokuqonda into enye efana noodade, ngaphezu kwimizalwane.
Enye incwadi ephuphayo ithi ukukhulelwa komdade ephupha kunokuthi:
- ukufumana izinto;
- ulwazi olutsha;
- hlonela abanye.
Ukukhulelwa kwentombi kubonakala ngathi?
Iphupha malunga nokukhulelwa kwentombi yinto ecacileyo:
- ukuba umama ubone intombi yakhe ekhulelwe ephupheni, kuthetha ukuba uya kudibana nomntu ozolile kwaye onothando;
- Ukuba utata unentombi esesikweni, ke oku kumthembisa impilo yakhe.
Ngoko iincwadi zephupha ziphendula umbuzo, ukuthini ukukhulelwa kwintombi yentombi kuthetha ntoni kubazali bakhe. Ukuba iphupha ukuba intombi yakhe ibele, mhlawumbi ebomini bayo kungekudala kungekudala utshintsho olukhulu:
- ukuba intombazana yazalwa, utshintsho oluhle ebomini bakhe;
- Ukuba inkwenkwe yazalwa, inxaxheba kwishishini elibalulekileyo nelingeniso.
Kutheni umfazi okhulelwe ephupha?
Umbuzo wokuba ukhulelwe ngumhlobo okanye u-ex uphuphayo, unomdla kumadoda amaninzi, kodwa akukho nto ididekile ngamaphupha kunye namantombazana abone umfazi okhulelweyo okhulelwe ebuthongweni babo. Ukuba umntu uphupha ngokukhulelwa kwakhe, iphupha libonisa ukuba unomnqweno ongenalwazi wokubuyisela ubuhlobo. Ukuba ulindele umntwana ukusuka kwelinye, kuthetha ukuba indoda isulile kwaye yamkela ukuhlukana kobudlelwane.
Ukuba intombazana iphupha ngomfazi okhulelwe enomhlobo naye, kucetyiswa ukuba ucinge ngezinto ezintathu zobuntu bakhe - ungayichaza njani le ntombazana ngamagama amathathu? Ingqondo engenalwazi isebenzisa ezi mpawu ukubonisa ukuba le nxalenye yakho ilungiselela into entsha. Ngokomzekelo, umhlobo ovela ephupheni unomusa, uvulekile kwaye unobungenisa izihambi. Ezi ziyinxalenye zobuntu ezikhula kwaye zilungiselela ukuvusa, zibonakalise ngokwabo kwishishini elitsha.