Amaphupha ethu anokubangela ukuba sibe nolonwabo, kunye nokusinika ubunzima kunye nokulingwa, ngoko ukuqonda ukuba umbala obomvu kumaphupha esibhakabhaka ngakuphi, akuyi kuba yinto engathandabuzekiyo, ngokukhawuleza kuya kukunceda uthathe amanyathelo afanelekileyo kwaye ugweme ingxaki.
Kutheni kukho umbhobho oqaqambileyo?
Okokuqala, siya kwiincwadi zephupha, zichaze kakuhle ukuba ulophu luphupha ngani. Ngokutsho kwabo, ubumnandi bubonakaliso bukaThixo, kwaye buhle kakhulu.
- Ukumbona ephupheni, unokulindela ukuba kungekudala ubomi bakho buya kubakho umcimbi ovuyayo, mhlawumbi kuya kuba yimali eninzi, okanye intlanganiso kunye nomthandayo.
- Kukho ukuphakama okukhulu ukuba iphupha lakho elixabisekileyo liza kuzaliseka , umnqweno uya kuzaliseka okanye uya kufumana isipho esilinde ixesha elide.
- Uphawu oluhle kakhulu luqwalaselwa ukuba ngephupha umntu ubona i-arc kathathu esibhakabhakeni.
- Kwimeko apho umfazi oyedwa ebona umlobo, unokuqiniseka ukuba kungekudala uza kufumana iqabane elifanelekileyo, oya kumthanda, kwaye uya kufuna ukwakha naye ubudlelwane obunzulu obusekelwe ekuthembeleni nasethempelini.
Kutheni uphupha umbala obunemibala emithathu?
Lo mbono uthembisa impumelelo engafanelekileyo, kwaye kuzo zonke iimeko, ebomini emva kokuba isiganeko esinjalo siqala iqela elimhlophe.
Ubukeka njani umlombo kumntu?
Iphupha lomntu ngokuphindaphindiweyo lithembisa ukuphumelela kwimpahla, kwaye ungayithandi, umfana, kunokwenzeka ukuba kukho ukuphakanyiswa, ibhonasi okanye isiphakamiso seshishini esingenakuchithwa, sikhangele kwaye sinenzuzo.
Iphupha lomlobo kaFreyd
Ngoku ke makhe sijikelele ekuchazeni loo mbono ngoFrud. Wayekholelwa ukuba isalathiso esinjalo sithetha ukunganeliseki ngokwesini, umnqweno wokudibanisa ubomi bakhe obusondeleyo. Mhlawumbi umntu obona iphupha elinjalo ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuphazamisa iminqweno yakhe, akavumeli ukuba aphumule embhedeni. Iingcali zengqondo zisoloko zicebisa abantu abanjalo ukuba bathethe neqabane labo malunga neengcamango zabo ngobomi besondo, ukuxelela iingcamango zabo nokuziguqulela ngokwenene. Freud, uthetha malunga nawaphi amaninzi emvula ephuphayo, wathetha ngokusondeza, ukunyanzeliswa, mhlawumbi nje kwiminyaka yakhe yobutsha, wafuna ukuba kube yingozi kakhulu, kuba umntu ophikisayo inxalenye yakhe akayi kuvuya kwaye akanakuphumelela kwezinye iindawo zobomi.
Okokukholelwa, iincwadi zephupha okanye i-Freud, zichaza ngamnye ngokwabo, kodwa izazi zeenkwenkwezi kunye neengqondo zeengqondo zincoma ukuba zihlalutye ukuziphatha kwazo kwaye zikhethe ukhetho lokulala okuza kulandelana nawe.