Umntwana akayithobeli into enokuyenza.

Abantwana, ke, iintyatyambo zobomi, kodwa kunzima kangakanani ukukhula kwazo! Ngokuqhelekileyo unokubona indlela umama ezama ngayo ukucacisa into ethile kumntwana, kodwa akabonakali ukuyiva kwaye uyaqhubeka engenangqondo kwaye engenangqondo. Yiloo nto enokuyenza xa umntwana engalaleli abazali nonke?

Kutheni umntwana engayithobeli abazali?

Ucinga ukuba wenzani nomntwana onobubi kakhulu, ubeka into embi ngaye. Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba ufungele, cinga ukuba kutheni umntwana engakuphulaphuli, mhlawumbi le nto iphoso lakho? Emva kwakho konke, ukuziphatha komntwana kuyindlela yakhe yokusabela kwihlabathi elikujikelezile, kuquka nawe. Nazi iziphambeko eziqhelekileyo abazali abavumelayo kwimfundo, okubangelwa ngumntwana onobuhlungu.

1. Kutheni abantwana bengalaleli abazali babo? Awazi nje ukuba ngubani na omele akuphulaphule - umama unqabela into enokuyenza, kodwa ubaba uvumela (okanye i-vice versa).
2. Umntwana akafuni ukukuthobela, kuba ufuna uninzi kuye kwaye ungabonisi ukuba ungathini na ukukwenza njani. Ingane iyakwazi nje into oyifunayo kuye, kwaye uyasifungela kuye.
3. Uhlala umnqabela konke, ngaphandle kokuchaza isizathu sokuba kungenzeki. Umntwana, eqonda ukuba akakwazi ukwenza nantoni na, ngaphandle kokuba uhleli eceleni komama wakhe nokubukela iTV okanye ifestile, kuya kubakho ukuqala ukumelana. Ngokukhawuleza nje xa eqala loo mibhikano, kuxhomekeke kwintsana. Abanye abantwana banokuchitha iiyure behleli endaweni enye, bebhenca iphepha lokuma komhlaba, kwaye kukho abantu abanokuphumla, okubonakala ngathi banokuvela kwiindawo ezahlukileyo zezindlu.
4. Ngaba ucinga ukuba uchitha ixesha lakho lokukhulula kunye nomntwana wakho? Ngaba kunjalo? Mhlawumbi ufumana ubunzima bokungqalelo kwaye kunye neengxaki zakhe ezingcolileyo kwaye uzama ukubonisa indlela ekuphosakeleyo ngayo.

Kuthekani ukuba umntwana engayithobeli?

Ngoku ukuba kucacile ukuba kutheni umntwana engayithobeli, kuyacaca ukuba yintoni na ukuyenza kunye nendlela yokujamelana nomntwana ongathobeliyo.

1. Musa ukukhansela imiyalelo yomnye nomnye. Ukuba unqatshelwe into kumntwana, ke umyeni wakho (ootatomkhulu, oomama, oomama) akufanele bavumele umntwana ukuba akwenze. Ngaphandle koko, umntwana uya kuqonda ukuba izivalo zomzali ziyakunqandwa - kutheni ukuthobela umama ukuba uyihlo avumela yonke into?
2. Ukuba ufuna ukuthobela kumntwana, funda kwaye uyinyaniso kwizwi lakho. Zama ukuzalisekisa izithembiso zakho, kwaye ukuba uxelele umntwana ukuba awukwazi ukusombulula into ethile kuye, gxininisa ngokwakho. Umntwana akayi kukwazi ukukuhlonela, kwaye ngenxa yoko akayi kuthotyelwa, ukuba wena ngokwakho awuyihloneli kunye nezigqibo zakho.
3. Ungalokothi ulahlekelwe ngumsindo wakho, ungamemeza kumntwana. Okokuqala, awuyi kufezekisa nantoni na ngokumemeza, nguwe kuphela ozoyikrakra yinkomo kwaye ikulethembezi. Kwaye, okwesibini, ukuba i-vagaries yomntwana kuyinzame yokwenza ingqalelo yakho, ngoko ngokusabela kwakho uqinisekisa nje ukuqikelela kwakhe - ukuba umama unika ingqalelo kum, xa kuphela xa ndiyintliziyo, ke kufuneka ndiyenze oku rhoqo.
4. Awudingi ukulawula zonke iinyawo zomntwana (ungahambi apho, ungenzi, kodwa kufuneka udlale ngomshini, kodwa kungenjalo). Ewe, umdlalo odibeneyo nabazali unyanzelekile kumntwana, kodwa makabe omele. Qala ukudlala nosana, uze unike inkululeko.
5. Funda ukuphulaphula umntwana, kungekhona yonke into yokuba iintsana zithetha ukungabi nantoni kunye nemizwa. Umntwana wakho ngumntu, nokuba uncinci kakhulu, ngoko ufanele umhlonele. Yaye nabazali, ingakumbi ukuba lo ngumntwana wokuqala kwintsapho, ngokuqhelekileyo uyayihoxisa lo mzuzwana, awenqabe inkunzi yonke into eyenzekayo, engachazi nto kuye, bathi, encinci, kodwa akayiqondi into. Mhlawumbi akazange akhule kwiintetho zefilosofi, kodwa izinto ezingundoqo zingaqondwa kwaye ukuba unina akamvumeli ukuba adlale, athathe, abeke ezo zinto azithandayo, ngoko umntwana uya kuqonda ukuba abayithandi kwaye baya kuba bengenakuqonda. Mhlawumbi uya kuqala ukuphulaphula, kodwa uya kukhula, ezayo uza kuba neengxaki zokunxibelelana, kwaye uya kumangaliswa "njani ukuba unokuthi uninzi kangakanani ubunzima?". Kwaye yonke into ukususela kwinqanaba elithile apho anqwenela ukuba akukho mntu uyamthanda kwaye akukho mntu ulindele into enhle kuye. Kakade, kuwo wonke umntwana akakwazi ukuzenza, kodwa ukukhawulelisa kakhulu, akunjalo.