Uthando aluhlali luhlala luhlangene kwaye lulula. Phakathi kwabantu ababini apho kunokuxabana, ukuphikisana kwimibono ngobomi, ubunzima bokunxibelelana, kwimihla ngemihla. Zonke ezi zincinci, kodwa ezibukhali kakhulu, ameva angabhubhisa nobudlelwane obucocekileyo kunye obuqhelisayo. Ukucela uThixo ngoncedo ekugcineni ubudlelwane obuyinkimbinkimbi kodwa obuxabisekileyo, qalisa ngomthandazo olula kunayo yonke intando yintombazana-umthandazo kaYesu wendalo yonke:
"Nkosi Yesu Kristu, Nyana kaThixo, ndinenceba kum umoni."
Lo mthandazo ungasetyenziswa ngexesha lokuxabana nothando (okanye intanda), ngoko uThixo uya kukunceda ufunde ukuyiqonda, kwaye ayiyi kubangela ukugxeka. Nangona ubude bomthandazo, ukuphumelela kwayo kuphezulu kakhulu, kodwa kubonga ngenxa yokholo olungenakuthelekiswa nokuqonda ngokupheleleyo nokuqonda oko kuthetha, okuvela eminzini yomphefumlo.
Umthandazo wokubuyisela uthando lomfazi
Ukuba ulahlekile umzuzu xa unokulungisa into ethile, xozisana, ufunde ukuqonda nokukhusela umsindo wakho, kwaye umfazi wakho uzive ukuba indlela yokuphela yokuphuma, ufuna uncedo lwezinga elihlukile. Ukuba ngumbuzo wendlela yokubuyisela uthando lomfazi ngoncedo lomthandazo, funda amagama alandelayo:
Umthandazo ubhaliwe kwi-fox yokuqala kwisigxina kunye nobuninzi, njengoko kuhloswe ekufundeni okubiniweyo, kwiimeko apho wena nomfazi wakho ningazange nihlukane, kwaye bobabini baqonda ukuba ngandlela-thile ufuna ukugcina ubudlelwane. Ukuba ufunda lo mthandazo ngenxa yothando nomtshato wedwa, gxininisa lonke ixesha lakho kwiimvakalelo zecala phambi komfazi wakho nangenguqu ephosakeleyo phambi kwakhe. Gcwalisa ngokwemvakalelo uthando ngomfazi wakho kwaye uzame kumgangatho wamandla ukuthumela iimvakalelo zakho, ukhumbule ukuba zinjani izinto ezintle ezifanayo.