Kubonakala ngathi nakutshanje uye wafunda ukuba uza kuba ngabazali, kwaye sele sele iinyanga ezili-9 sele ivele, kwaye umntu omncinane onokuzivikela uye wazalwa. Wiletha ekhaya lakho kungekuphela nje uvuyo kunye nethemba, kodwa kunye noxanduva olukhulu, kuba unjani uhlobo lomntwana olusakhula luxhomekeke kuwe.
Inendima enkulu yentsapho ekukhulisweni komntwana, kuba kuseli seluntu kuluntu ixesha elininzi. Kulapha ukuba yenziwa njengomntu. Lapha uziva unomdla, uthando kunye nothando. Kwiintsapho apho kuqondana khona ukuqonda, kunye nokuhlonipha ngokuqhelekileyo kukhula abantwana abalungileyo. Abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba into ebaluleke kakhulu ekukhuliseni umntwana, ukuba umntwana wasondliwa, ahlambuluke kwaye alala ngexesha. Kodwa lo uluvo oluphosakeleyo. Imfundo - umsebenzi onzima ofuna amandla amaninzi namandla. Emva koko, abazali abafanelekanga kuphela amagama, kodwa nomzekelo ngamnye wokufundisa abantwana babo.
Ukususela kwiintsuku zokuqala zobomi bakhe umntwana uvakalelwa yimpembelelo kamama noyise. Le ngenye yezindlela eziphambili zokukhulisa abantwana kwintsapho. Kodwa akusoloko umzekelo wokwenu unceda ukufumana umphumo omuhle. Ngoko kuyafaneleka ukusebenzisa ezinye iindlela zemfundo. Abini kubo siyazi indlela "isanqante" kunye ne "kroti" indlela kakuhle. Imisebenzi emihle umntwana uyakhuthazwa, kodwa ngenxa yobubi - ijeziswe. Ngamanye amaxesha ufanele uchithe umzamo omkhulu ukuze uqinisekise umntwana ngokungahambi kakuhle kwezenzo zakhe. Mbonise ukuba wenza kakubi kakhulu. Kodwa ukuba oko kwenzeka, imemori yakhe iya kugcina zonke iingxabano esinike zona ixesha elide. Ukusukela ngenye indlela yokukhulisa umntwana kwintsapho.
Isiseko sokukhulisa abantwana ukususela kwiminyaka sasingumsebenzi. Kubalulekile ukufundisa umntwana ukuba asebenze ukususela esemdala. Ngaphandle koko, ithemba lakho kwixesha elizayo lingafanelekanga. Abantwana baya kukhula ukuba babe yizonka kunye ne-egoists. Awukwazi ukuwakhulula kwimisebenzi yomsebenzi. Kungakhathaliseki, yintoni imeko yezemali yentsapho, ngamnye umntwana kufuneka abe neemfanelo zakhe ekhaya. Kumele kwenziwe ngokufanelekileyo kwaye ngaphandle kokubakhumbuza.
Musa ukulibala ukuba ukhulisa umntwana wakho, akufanele uvumele ukunyaniseka. Umntwana ngamnye ngumhlaba ohlukeneyo: abanye abantwana banomnye umthwalo, abanye banesibindi kwaye banqabile, kanti abanye bekunxamnye, beentloni kwaye banentlonelo. Kodwa indlela kufuneka ifumaneke kubo bonke. Kwaye ngokukhawuleza le ndlela ifunyenwe, iingxaki ezingaphantsi komntwana ziya kudala kwikamva.
Kwiintsapho ezininzi, iimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo zomntwana wakho ziziswa ngaphambili. Ngokuqhelekileyo, yeyiphi yabazali abazama ukuvavanya umntwana wabo, siyayithanda kwaye siyayamkela njengoko kunjalo. Oku kuyona nto iphambili ekukhulisweni kwabantwana kwintsapho. Kwaye nangona sivame ukuva ukuba awusoze wonakalisa uthando lomntwana, akunjalo. Ngenxa yothando olukhulu senza konke okusemandleni akhe, silungele ukuzalisekisa nayiphi na iinqwenela zakhe. Ngale ndlela siziphatha kakubi umntwana wethu. Ukuthanda umntwana, simele sikwazi ukumgatya. Ukuba asikwazi ukwenza oku, ngoko sinenkinga ekukhuliseni abantwana kwintsapho. Ukuvumela ukuba inyana iyenze nantoni na, sigubungela ubuthathaka bethu nothando.
Imfundo yokuziphatha yabantwana
Ukuthetha ngemfundo yabantwana kwintsapho, asimele sikhohlwe malunga nokuziphatha kwabo. Yintoni na? Ukususela kwiintsuku zokuqala zokuphila, engasakwazi ukuthetha nokujikeleza, umntwana uqala "ukuvavanya" imeko kwintsapho. Ithoni elambileyo kwingxoxo, inhlonipho ngomnye nomnye iya kunceda ukuphuhlisa iimfuno zokuziphatha kumntwana. Ukumemeza rhoqo, ukufunga, ukunyaniseka kuya kukhokelela kwimiphumo emibi. Imfundo yokuziphatha emndenini iqala ngoku: ukuphendula, ububele, ukunganyaniseki ukubonakalisa ububi.
Kuzo zonke izinto ezithethwa, sibona ukuba indima yentsapho ekukhulisweni komntwana inkulu. Ulwazi lokuqala, ukuziphatha, imikhwa umntu ayifumana kwintsapho, iya kuhlala nayo yonke iminyaka yobomi.