Indlela yokunciphisa umntwana ekugula kwesifo

Akukho mvumelwano malunga nokuba kunokwenzeka yini ukugubha umntwana. Ukusondeza kumama kuyimfuneko yendalo kwanoma yimuphi umntwana, ngakumbi umntwana osandula. Kwaye oku kuchanekile kwaye kuyinto engokwemvelo. Emva koko, umama wayegqoka phantsi kwentliziyo yam ezintandathu, kwaye ngoku, ehlaba umhlaba ongaqhelekanga ongaqondakaliyo, umntwana uziva ekhuselekile kuphela kwiingalo zikaMama. Ingane iyayiva intliziyo yakhe, isingqisho esifanelekileyo seenyawo zakhe kwaye iyancipha.

Ngeli xesha, bambalwa abantu bacinga ukuba ufuna ukugungqa umntwana, kunye nendlela yokukhubaza umntwana ukuba aguqulwe. Kwenzeka ngokwayo, kungokwemvelo kumama osemncinci, ehlala efuna ukusondela kumntwana wakhe osanda kuzalwa, alele aze avuke ngasemva kwakhe, ukuze abone ukumncoma kwakhe kuqala.

Kuye kwangqiniswa ngokwesayensi ukuba iinyanga zokuqala zobomi ezichithwa yintsana ebudlelwane obusondeleyo nonina zinomphumo obalulekileyo kunxulumano oluzayo.

Kodwa ngoku umntwana usakhulile kwaye kuba nzima ukuba umama alondoloze rhoqo. Kwaye umntwana, ejwayele ukufudumala nokuthuthuzela kwezandla zikamama wakhe, uqala ukumbhikisha ngokuchasene nezinto ezinjalo.

Iingcebiso ezimbalwa

Kukho iindlela ezininzi zokubeka umntwana ukulala ngaphandle kokugula kwesifo. Nangona umntwana engaphenduli omnye unyaka ubudala, ngokusemthethweni akubunzima ukuguqula ukugula okuhambayo, into ephambili kukuba nomonde. Xa ukondla kwesi sicwangciso kubulula, kuba ngokuqhelekileyo iinyanga ukuya kwabahlanu abantwana balala ngexesha lokutya.

Kodwa ngokutya okufakelwayo, xa umxube unxila ngokukhawuleza, ngokuqinisekileyo, umntwana akanalo ixesha lokulala. Yibeke kwisibhedlele. Ngomntwana omncinci kakhulu, unokwakha into efana nesidleke sengubo ephothiweyo, eyokhumbuza umama wakhe ngokufudumele. Nangona emva kokuba le nto inkunzi kunye neembhobho ezimbalwa, akukho nto eyoyikwenzeka kuyo. Isiqingatha seyure, uyalala.

Ukuba umntwana usekhulile, uvuka esityeni, kwaye akunakwenzeka ukuwupakisha, umnike ixesha ukuze alele yena ngokwakhe. Mfunela ubusuku obuhle, kwaye ushiye ikamelo, uhambe ubusuku bukhanyise. Kukho ithuba lokuba, ukuba unomntwana omncinci, ulele ebuthongweni, unokukhala kancinci. Ukuba uvile ukukhala imizuzu emi-5, ungene kwigumbi, ulibuyisele kwakhona, limboze ngengubo kwaye uphinde uphume kwakhona. Kwaye amaninzi amaninzi ukuya ekupheleni kokuphumelela. Le ndlela yindlela yezilwanyana zaseMelika uBenjamin Spock, ethandwa kwikhulu leminyaka elidlulileyo. Isekelwe kuphela ekuthinteleni kwabazali.

Akuyonto engathethekiyo ukuthenga umntwana ithoyiji elithambileyo apho umntwana uya kudibanisa khona iphupha. Kwakhona kuncedo ukuza kunye nesithethe sakho sokulala. Inokuhlamba kunye nokusetyenziswa kweoli epholileyo, ukugqoka iipasjama zakho ezizithandayo, ukufunda ebusuku. Kodwa khumbula ukuba akubona bonke abantwana aboniswa ukuhlamba ngaphambi kokulala. Abanye, endaweni yokuthoba, baxineke, kwaye mhlawumbi kunengqondo ukudlulisela ukuhlamba kwisiqingatha sosuku.

Ukuba, nangona kunjalo, umntwana wakho akafuni ukulala ngaphandle kokugula, uzame ubuncinci ukukhulula izandla zabo. Thatha isihlalo sabakhubazekile okanye ubhedu ngevili. Abazali abaninzi banomdla kulo mbuzo: ngaba kunokwenzeka ukutshintsha umntwana ngamandla. Impendulo yabantwana bezilwanyana ayinakucala - akunakwenzeka. Ngenxa yokuba i-vertebrae yomlomo wesibeleko isabuthakathaka kwaye ithathaka, kwaye ukugubha ngamandla kunye nokunyakaza okubukhali ungamlimaza. Ukongezelela, ukugula okunyamezelayo kunokubangela ingqungquthela encinane.

Umbuzo wendlela yokugubha ngokufanelekileyo umntwana, wonke umntu uyazikhethela, ngokuxhomekeka kwizinto ezikhethwa ngumntwana. Kodwa ngokuthe gqolo kuyafaneleka ukukhusela iimfuno zakho, kwaye ungenzi nto yonke ukukholisa umntwana. Emva koko, ukugxala kwisifo sokunyakaza ngumhlobo wemfundo yomzuzu. Umntwana ukususela emncinci ubudala kufuneka aqonde ukuba ngubani ophetheyo.