Wonke umntu usetyenziselwa ukuba iikati ziyakuthandana kwaye ziphazamise imikhosi yazo emininzi imizuzu yokuzonwabisa kunye nemidlalo yazo. Kodwa ezi zizilwanyana emva kwazo zonke, kwaye izilwanyana zabo zokuzingela zigazini labo. Kwaye kwenzeka ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukuba ikati ibuhlungu ngethuba lomdlalo okanye iqhube kwiinyawo zenkosi. Xa isilwanyana sincinci, umntu uthinteka ngemidlalo yakhe kunye nomnqweno wokuluma isandla sakhe. Kodwa inkonyane ikhula, kwaye amazinyo ayo abukhali aqala ukulimaza abanini. Kwaye abaninzi abanini bezilwanyana bazibuza ukuba benzani ukuba itekiti ibetha?
Iingcali zikholelwa ukuba isijeziso asikwazi ukuncedwa apha. Kwaye ngaphambi kokuba ujamelane nokuziphatha okungathandekiyo kwezilwanyana, kufuneka uqonde izizathu zayo. Kukho uninzi.
Kutheni i-cat ikoma rhoqo?
- Isizathu esona siqhelekileyo sale nto - isilwanyana akekho owake wafundisa, ukuba oku akunakwenziwa. Ekubeni ukubonakala kwekiti ekhaya lakho, kufuneka uhlanganyele ekukhuliseni kwakhe. Ingane iya kuluma izandla zakho, ayiyazi indlela yokudlala ngokuhlukileyo. Ukuba awuyi kumbonisa ukuba awukwazi ukwenza oku, ke lo mgaqo uza kulungiswa.
- Ukuba ikati yaqala ukuluma ngokungalindelekanga, kodwa yayingakaze yenze oko ngaphambili, kunokwenzeka ukuba into ethile iyayilimaza. Ekuphenduleni kwintetho yakho, uqala ukukhawuleza aze adibezele, ugxininise indlebe zakhe kwaye angaluma. Kule meko, kufuneka ubonise isilwanyana kwizilwanyana.
- Ikati inokuba yintlonelo xa iyika into ethile. Ngokomzekelo, ngokuhamba rhoqo, isilwanyana asiziveki sikhuselekile, ngoko iqala ukukhala ukuze ikhusele. Nika ingqalelo ngakumbi kwikati, uyijikeleze nge-caress nokunyamekela.
- Ukuba isilwanyana sakho sinesizungu kwaye sithukuthele, uyakhubekiswa okanye akabandakanyi ukuzivocavoca rhoqo kunye nemidlalo, ngoko uya kuqala ukubonisa ubundlobongela ukuze akhangele ingqalelo yakho. Qinisekisa ukuba ikati ihlale inamathoyizi aneleyo, kwaye ukuze angabi nantlungu.
Xa ufumanisa isizathu sokuziphatha kanobuhlungu bezilwanyana, ungaqala ukulila. Into ebaluleke kakhulu kukuba awukwazi ukusebenzisa ubuqhetseba, ukumemeza nokujeziswa kwangokwenyama. Iingcali zikholelwa ukuba ukuphakamisa amakati akulona nzima, kubalulekile ukubonisa umonde nokunyamezela. Isilwanyana kufuneka sivale uthando lwakho nothando, kuphela oko kuya kwenza njengoko ufuna. Kukho iindlela eziliqela zokusondeza ikati ukuluma.
- Ukuba isilwanyana sakho sisincinane, uyayigcina yonke into, kuquka nezandla zakho, isizathu siba ngamazinyo. Thenga kuye izinto zokudlala ezahlukeneyo, ukuhlafuna amathambo okanye iibhola. Udlala ukudlala kunye nesilwanyana sakho kwaye akayi kuba nomnqweno wokuluma.
- Xa ikati ibambe isandla sakho, ungayichukumisi, iyayikhupha ngokuphindaphindiweyo, kuba iyisidlo. Ngokuchaseneyo, cima isandla sakhe ngesandla sakhe, unokuthi ugxile iigums yakho ngomnwe wakho, iikati aziyithandi.
- Ukuba ikati ikubetha ngethuba lomdlalo, unokumxelela ngokuthe ngqo ukuba "hayi" kwaye umise umdlalo. Yiya kwelinye igumbi kunye nexesha elithile, ungayithobeli i-pet. Xa uphinda ngokuphindaphinda amaxesha amaninzi, ikati izakuzama ukungazenzi ukungaxilisi ngexesha lomdlalo, kuba uyathanda ukudlala.
- Enye indlela yokondla ikati yokuluma kukuphonsa ithawula elikhulu kwisilwanyana ngelixa ezama ukukuluma. Akayi kuthanda oku kwaye emva kokuphindaphinda okukodwa ikati iya kuqonda ukuba ukubetha kwakhe kuya kubakho.
- Unokutshiza amanye amanzi ebusweni bekati xa ekuncoma.
Ukuze le nto isebenze, kufuneka uhlele ukutshiza yonke indlu. - Ukuba ikati iyaluma onke amaxesha, lungiselela ukukhwaza okukratshi okanye i-tin ingazaliswa ngeemali. Izilwanyana ziyesaba izandi ezivakalayo. Xa isilwanyana siyakubetha, yenza isandi esibukhali ngentonga. Emva kwexesha elithile, ikati iya kuqonda ukuba izandi ezisongayo zihlobene nokuziphatha kwakhe.
Ungalokothi udlale isilwanyana sakho ngezandla kunye neminwe kwaye ungavumeli abahlobo bakho bakwenze. Ungakhuthazi ikati ukuba ilume, ngoko akudingeki ukuba igule kuyo.