Ingxaki yonyaka wokuqala wobomi ibangela utshintsho olukhulu kwimeko yokuphila komntwana kunye nendlu yakhe. Akumangalisi. Ngaloo jwana umntwana wayenomdla, kodwa ngokukhawuleza waba ngumxakatho, engenasiphelo kwaye engenangqondo. Kuthetha ntoni ukudala ingqondo yengqondo malunga neengxaki?
Ingxaki yonyaka wokuqala wobomi bomntwana: iimpawu
Inkathazo yonyaka o-1 kubantwana kulula ukuyiqonda ngeempawu zayo. Okokuqala, umntwana uya kuhlala engenakho. Inokubangela ukonakalisa ukulala kwakhe, imeko ngokubanzi emini. Ingane inokukhala kakhulu ("uphazamise malunga nantoni na"), wenqabe ukwenza oko sele sele yenze kakuhle (umzekelo, ukugcina i-spoon ngelixa udla, uhamba, uhleli ebhodweni).
Kutheni sifuna i-crisis year 1?
"Ngaba ingxaki kumntwana? Kwenzeka njani oku? "- Abantu abaninzi abadala bayamangalisa, ngokuba umfanekiso wobuntwana uqukethe imifanekiso engabonakaliyo yokungakhathali, inhlalakahle kunye nentuthuzelo epheleleyo. "Emva koko, umntwana akakajongene nobunzima bobubomi!" Enyanisweni, umntu oneminyaka elilodwa akazilazi ubunzima bokuba ngumntu omdala, nangona kunjalo, iingcali zengqondo zithi ukukhula ebuntwaneni kuyingxenye ebalulekileyo kwinkqubo yokuba ngumntu, kwaye akukho mntu unokulawula ngaphandle kwabo. Kwiminyaka emncinci kunempikiswano phakathi kweminqweno yomntwana ukufezekisa iinjongo ezithile (hamba, fumana into ...) kunye nokukwazi ukufikelela kwiminqweno yabo.
Kufuneka ukhunjulwe ukuba isigaba seengxaki sisicatshulwa ngabafundi bezengqondo kungekhona njengesigaba esibi sophuhliso. Ekubeni kusemzuzwana wokunqoba ubunzima bokuphuhliswa ngokwayo. Uphuhliso kunye nokuvisisana ngokupheleleyo phakathi kwehlabathi nomntwana akuhambelani. Ngenxa yoko, ukuba ngumntu womntwana, indima ebalulekileyo idlala ngokusombelana rhoqo kunye nehlabathi nokungoneleliseki imeko ekhoyo.
Akufanele kumangaliswe xa umntwana onenkinga yokuhamba ngamanyathelo aqala ukuhlambalaza unina, oye "wayefuna ukumnceda." Into eyenzekayo kukuba umntwana akayi kuphinda aneliseke ngoncedo olunikezwa ngumntu ukuzisa imeko yakhe ibe "ngokulinganayo". Kule meko, umntwana uhlolisisa ngokwakhe "Ndiyakwazi." Kwaye oku kungqubana kwakhe nehlabathi langaphandle, kungekhona unina noyise, abangazange bancedise, abazange baxhase.
Khumbula, kungekudala emva koko le ngxabano iya kunqotshwa, umntwana uya kuqonda izakhono ezitsha, athole amava amatsha, kwaye emva kwexesha elibi leememori nje kuphela ziya kuhlala.
Ungayinqoba njani ingxaki yonyaka 1?
- Umntwana ngamnye ukhula kuphela kwizinga elithandayo. Abazali akufanele bagxininise ummelwane uMaxim, osele athi "Umama" no "Tata", uhamba kwiinyanga ezisixhenxe aze adle eyedwa. Umntwana wakho akayi kulandela isicwangciso somntu. Ngako oko, umgaqo wokuqala wokunceda umntwana enkingeni awuyikuhlazisa "ukungabi nako" kunye nokudumisa ngenxa yezinto eziphumelelayo. Umntwana ngamnye unomlinganiselo ohlukileyo wophuhliso.
- Umntwana oneminyaka elilodwa akanakulungele ukuthetha kwiqela, ngoko kuzama ukwandisa ixesha lokuhlala ekhaya,
ukuthetha ngakumbi naye, kufuneka aqiniseke ukuba unokuthembela kubantu abadala, kwaye bahlala belapho. Umgaqo wesibini: uqhagamshelana nomntwana kwaye uncedise. - Ekugqibeleni, umthetho wesithathu uhambelana nombuso wengane yomntwana. Enyanisweni, ukuba umntwana uchitha ixesha elincinane kwisitrato, akalala ixesha elide, kukho ukukhathazeka kwintsapho yakhe (abazali bahlala bexabana) - zonke ezi zinto zandisa imeko yengxaki yomntwana. Nangona umntwana ejongene neengxaki zonyaka omnye, njengengxabano phakathi kwehlabathi kunye namathuba omntwana, "okwangoku esazi indlela yokuhamba," uzama ukwenza ukuba yinkinga kuphela ejongene nayo.