Ewe, ngokubudala, umntu ngamnye uya kuba nobulumko kwaye unamava. Kwaye kubonga kwithuba apho efunda ukubaluleka kwezinto ezenzekayo kunye nezikhathi ezilahlekileyo. Kodwa, ngelishwa, ngaphezu kweminyaka ifika kwakhona ukuqonda into esele ingenakwenzeka ukubuyela, ukuphinda okanye ukutshintsha.
Ngoko ke, phantse wonke umntu uyazi ibinzana: "Ndiyaxolisa kukuba andenzanga oku ngaphambili." Khumbula ukuba ixesha alimi, lingahambi ngokukhawuleza. Musa ukuyichitha, ukuze ungazisoli emva koko izinto ezinokuthi uzenze kwaye uzame. Siye saqulunqa uluhlu oluncinci lweemeko ezenza intliziyo ibe yintsebenziswano yokuzama ukulinganisa ixesha elilahlekileyo ebusheni!
1. Yeka ukuhamba xa kunokwenzeka.
Xa ukhula, uhambo luba yingxaki kwaye lukhuni, kuba awukwazi ukuqonda ihlabathi yedwa yodwa: ngoku kuphela kwintsapho kunye nabantwana. Kwaye olu khetho luchaza imithetho ethile, engekho lula ukuyilungisa. Ukuhamba uze utyithwe, kwaye usebenzise nayiphi na ithuba.
2. Ukungafuni ukufunda iilwimi zangaphandle.
Uyazi, andithethi iSpanish.
Xa selutsha, izinto ezininzi azikhathazeki kwaye zilula. Ngokomzekelo, uninzi aluyikunyamekela iilwimi zangaphandle, eziza kuba luncedo kwixesha elizayo. Into eyona nto iyingozi kukuba uqaphele ukuba ufunde ulwimi lwangaphandle iminyaka emininzi, kodwa ungakhumbuli nto. Ndikholelwe, kuba nzima kunzima ukufunda kunye neminyaka, ngoko ungachithi ixesha. Yiphumelela nayiphi na ulwazi njengentonga!
3. Ukuchitha ixesha lokuba nobuhlobo obubi.
Ubudlelwane obubi buphantse buchaphazele kakubi ngokwabo, ngoko kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba 'baphume' kwezo zihlobo ngexesha. Into ebaluleke kakhulu kukuba uya kuba nokukhululeka kwangempela emva kwesinyathelo esinjalo. Gqiba kwaye ungacingi ngamanye amaxesha - uyazisola ngokuba awuzange wenze le nyathelo ngaphambilana.
4. Ukukhanyela i-sunscreen.
Ukugcoba. Isiqwenga sesonka.
Uyazi ukuba zininzi iingxaki onokuziphepha xa usebenzisa i-sunscreen ngexesha. Ngokomzekelo, imibimbi, i-moles kunye nomhlaza wesikhumba ngababalandeli abakhethekileyo bokuhlamba kwelanga ngokugqithiseleyo ebusheni. Musa ukuyihoxisa impilo yakho, umnyamekele ebusheni!
5. Ithuba elilahlekileyo lokuya kwikhono lomculi ozithandayo.
Ixesha alimniki mntu, kunye nabadumileyo, ngoko ke ukuba uthanda umculi okanye umdlali ebusheni bakho, zama ukujonga umsebenzi wakhe ekusebenzeni okuphilayo.
6. Ukwesaba ukwenza okungalunganga okanye ukwenza into engalunganga.
Bonke abantu bangalunganga kwaye ngamanye amaxesha abenzi njengokuba sifuna. Kodwa into embi kakhulu kukuba unokwenza into ethile, kodwa ukwesaba into ethile. Ndikholelwe, emva kokukhula, awukwazi ukuphendula ngokucacileyo oko ukwesabayo, ngoko ke, ukuzisola kuya kukulandela.
7. Ukungafuni ukungena kwimidlalo.
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Abantu abaninzi abancinci basebenzisa ixesha labo lokukhulula belele embhedeni. Kodwa, xa ubudala bunomdla, baqala ukuzibuza ukuba kutheni bengakwenzi oko ngaphambili. Musa ukuphinda uphoso iimpazamo zabanye kwaye uphephe umzimba wakho ukususela kumncinane. Umzimba wakho kunye nempilo kuya kuthi xa uneminyaka emdala kukubulela oku.
8. Vumela abanye ukuba baqaphele indawo yakho ebomini ngenxa yokwahluka kwesini.
Khawulibale ngonaphakade! Ewe, abafazi kufanele bakwazi ukupheka, kunye namadoda-ukwenza imali, kodwa musa ukuvumela umntu ukuba anciphise imisebenzi yakho kuphela. Ehlabathini lanamhlanje, amadoda nabasetyhini banokukhetha kuphela oko kukufuphi kwimo yabo. Ngako oko, ungayithobeli ingqalelo yezesini zesigxina sexesha elidlulileyo kunye neengqungquthela - lixesha elide lokuba liphele!
9. Sebenza ngomsebenzi onzima.
Ndimele ndiphume apha. Ndicinga ukuba ndiza kumlahleka.
Xa selutsha, kukho phantse ingenayo imali eyaneleyo, kodwa uzama ukwenza izinto ezincinci: uthatha umsebenzi ophantsi, ukhuthaze umqeshi ongekho mthethweni kwaye awufuni ukunyusa imali ngaphandle. Xa uneminyaka yobudala, le ngxaki inokuthi ithathe ingcambu kakhulu kangangokuthi xa uvuka, awuyi kuqonda ukuba kutheni uhlala ubomi bakho, kuba awuyi kuba ne penki eshiye umphefumlo wakho, kwaye umsebenzi awuyi kuba mnandi. Khangela into oyithandayo kusukela ebusheni kwaye uhlakulele rhoqo!
10. Ukufunda ngeemakhono.
Ngaba buhlungu ukuba xa usemncinci, awunakucinga ngokufunda, enethemba lokwenza konke kwixesha elizayo. Kodwa emva kwexesha kuza ukuqonda ukuba akukho phantse ixesha lokuqeqeshwa kwaye kuyimfuneko ukuzaneliswa noko ndifumene esikolweni. Kwaye akukhona nje ukuba uvavanyo olubizwa ngokuba lubeka indawo yakho ebomini. Ukufunda esikolweni kunceda ukwazi ukuchaneka, uxanduva kunye nokunyamezela, kwaye ezi zimpawu zibalulekile kumsebenzi ontle.
Ukungaqondi kakuhle ubuhle babo.
Abantu abaninzi abaselula bayichitha phantse bonke babo ulutsha lwabo bezisola ukuba abayinto enhle ngendlela abathanda ngayo. Qonda, ulutsha lunezigaba ezintle kakhulu ebomini bomntu, xa konke kulungile. Kwaye ukubonakala kwakho. Uyakushintsha, ufunde ukugqamisa amandla obuhle bakho, kodwa uyazisola bonke ubomi obungazange uzixabise ebusheni bakho!
12. Musa ukoyika ukuthi "Ndiyakuthanda".
Ndiyakuthanda!
Xa uneminyaka yobudala, uyeke ukukhathazeka ngenxa yokuba uthando alubuyanga. Kodwa khumbula rhoqo loo mvakalelo eyayihlangene nalo okanye loo mntu. Ngako oko, ungalokothi ukwesaba ukuvuma iimvakalelo zakho - kukuvumela ukuba ube nolwazi olukhethekileyo oluya kukukhumbula yonke impilo yakho!
13. Qaphela ingcebiso yabazali.
Ngobutsha bakhe, akukho mntu uthanda ukuphulaphula imiyalelo yabazali kunye neengcebiso, okubonakala ngathi yinto engathandekiyo kwaye isisidenge. Yazi ukuba phantse yonke into abazali bayithethayo iya kuba yinyaniso yobomi. Okanye ufanele uphulaphule?
14. Ukuzingca.
Ubomi bam bunzima kunabo bonke abantu emhlabeni. Kwaye, ndibandakanya abantwana kulaba balambileyo, ngoko musa ukubuza!
I-Egoism inomntu wonke, kodwa ihluke ngokulinganayo. Xa selutsha, abaninzi bachitha ixesha kuphela ngamazwi kunye nezenzo ezizimeleyo. I sidenge!
15. Kuninzi ukucinga malunga noko abanye baya kuthetha.
Ungavumeli abazondayo bakucaphuse kwizinto ozenzayo!
Ngokuqhelekileyo abantu abaselula bachitha ixesha elide xa bezama ukukholisa abanye. Ulibale ngalo kwaye usoloko wenza oko intliziyo yakho ithetha KUPHELA. Musa ukuphulaphula umbono womnye umntu, onokulimaza izenzo zakho kwaye "ukuba" ithuba lakho.
16. Thatha abanye abantu amaphupha abo.
Ukuxhaswa kweMbali yinto enhle, emele ukuba yinto efanelekileyo. Kodwa akufanele ikhule ibe ngumgomo wakho wobomi, ngaphandle koko unobungozi ekulahlekeni kwakho kwamanye amaphupha abantu kwaye uhlala nobomi bomnye umntu!
17. Ukulahlwa kwexesha elide kakhulu kwaye lilinganise ixesha lokuzonwabisa.
Kutheni ungadluli kwiiveki? Kutheni ungabikho phantsi kwiindawo zokuphila kwaye ungenzi nto?
Abantu abadala bahlala bejonge emva koko, bezisola ixesha elingenanto kwaye bachitha ixesha bezama ukuzifumana. Mthetho ngokukhawuleza. Ngamanye amaxesha into yokuqala efika engqondweni kwaye iba yinto echanekileyo!
18. Gcina isigwebo, ngakumbi kulabo abathandekayo.
Ukugcina isityholo kumntu kuthetha ukuyeka indawo entloko yakho mahhala.
Ngaba kukho nantoni na ekufumaneni ukutshabalalisa, umsindo okanye iimvakalelo ezifanayo? Akunanto nto, nje ukuchitha ixesha.
19. Musa ukuzimela.
Ewe, uya apho ukhona, uhlazo!
Abantu abaneminyaka yobudala abazange bavumeleke ukuba bacaphuke. Siyacebisa ulutsha ukuba senze okufanayo kwaye sihlale sinika utshintsho kubaxhaphazi.
20. Ukwenqaba ukuzithandela.
Ndingumvolontiya. Ndivolontiya njengoko ndifanele.
Ewe, mhlawumbi awuyi kuzisola bonke ubomi bakho ukuba awuzange uthathe inxaxheba kuyo nayiphi na inxaxheba yamavolontiya angenanto. Kodwa ngobudala uya kuqala ukuzisola ngokuba awuzange wenze umzamo omkhulu ukwenza umhlaba ube mnandi kwaye ube mnandi. Phatha uncedo oluxhaswe njengomnikelo kwixesha lakho elizayo. Okuhle kubuyela njalo!
21. Gcina amazinyo akho.
Xa selutsha, kubonakala ukuba impilo kunye nazo zonke iingxaki ezinxulumene nayo, zibonakala kuphela ekuguga. Kodwa, xa kwiminyaka engama-30 inyosi yokuqala ye-molar iphuma (kwaye mhlawumbi ingekayena wokuqala), kwaye ubeka umxube, ukuzonwabisa akunako. Jonga amazinyo akho ukususela ebutsheni, kuba unyango lwamazinyo luyinkqubo eyimfuneko neyiyo. Esi sifo kulula ukukhusela kunokunyanga!
22. Ukungaphumeleli umzuzu ukubuza imibuzo enomdla kubazali noomkhulu ngaphambi kokuba bafe.
Uninzi lwethu luqonda ngokukhawuleza luluphi ulwazi kunye namava nootatomkhulu abanokubelana nabo. Khawucinge nje ukuba ziphi iimpendulo kwimibandela onomdla kuzo ezintloko zawo! Musa ukuchitha ixesha, cela, unomdla, mangaliswe! Inzame yesibini ayiyi kuba!
23. Ixesha elininzi lokuzinikela emsebenzini.
Akukho mntu uxela ukuba ngaphandle komsebenzi umntu akakwazi ukuphucula ngokwabo. Kodwa kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba umsebenzi akufanele ube yinto ephambili ebomini bakho, nangobutsha. Ukongeza kuyo, kufuneka uhlale ufumana ixesha lentsapho, abahlobo, izinto zokuzilibazisa kunye neminye imisebenzi.
24. Musa ukufunda ukupheka ubuncinane isitya esisodwa.
Kakade ke, akusiyo wonke umntu ngokwemvelo unikezwa italenta yecalinary, kodwa kufuneka ufunde ukupheka ubuncinane isitya esinye, esiza kuba sesithsaba sakho kamva. Ngoxa uncedo lwayo unokuhlala ulumangalisa iindwendwe kunye nezihlobo, kwaye oku kubaluleke ngakumbi kunamaphi amaqela kunye neeholide ezikhethekileyo.
25. Akwanele ukuqonda amaxabiso abalulekileyo.
Xa selutsha, phantse bonke bazama ukufumana ubungqina obukhulu, kunye naso sonke ixesha kwindawo ethile ngokukhawuleza, belibale ukujonga ngapha. Kwaye kulo mzuzu kukho izinto ezibalulekileyo ngokubalulekileyo, okungaziphosa kuzo. Yeka ngezinye iinkhathi ukubona ubuhle behlabathi elikujikelezile kwaye uzive lixabiso lexesha elibalulekileyo elingayi kuphinda liphindwe.
26. Ukuphosa ishishini laqala ukuqalisa.
Ukuba ebusheni bakho uphupha lokuba ngumongikazi okanye umculi, kwaye wabhalisa kwizifundo ezifanelekileyo, ngoko ungayeki emva kokuhluleka kokuqala. Xa ubudala buza kuqonda ukuba amaphupha anceda ukhethe indlela efanelekileyo esilandelayo ebomini. Musa ukuyeka izicwangciso zakho nje ngokuba kungenakuthenga, kubangele okanye kubudenge ngombono wabanye.
27. Musa ukuyiqonda inkohlakalo emangalisayo.
Kulo lonke ubomi bakho, uya kuba neqela lamaqela kunye nemibhiyozo. Vumelani ukuba ngokubonakalayo kumaqela anjalo apholile! Ukuba ufunda ukwenza ukukhohlisa okukrakra, ukukhohlisa amakhadi okanye ukugubungela izinto ebusheni bakho, ngoko unokubamangalisa abanye ngobungqina bakho.
28. Maye abanye bakugwebe imithetho yempilo.
Ungaze ulandele konke abanye abakutshoyo. Ebomini, kuya kubakho ukugxeka, ngoko uthembele kwiingcamango zabantu abanjengawe - bubudenge. Landela indlela yakho kwaye uhlawule ingqalelo encinci kwiinkcazo zenkampani yesithathu malunga nobomi bakho.
29. Unamathela rhoqo kwiintsebenziswano eziye zaphela.
Asingabangani
Ngokuhamba kwexesha, abantu bayahlukana. Le yenkqubo eqhelekileyo, ikuvumela ukuba uqonde ukuba umntu wakho ungumntu okanye cha. Ngoko musa ukuchitha ixesha kwizinto ezikushiya. Ukukhulula ubudlelwane obungenasidingo kwaye uthathe inyathelo phambili.
30. Musa ukunika ixesha elaneleyo lokudlala nabantwana.
Kule minyaka, uqala ukuqaphela ukuba ebusheni bakho awuzange uhlawule ngokwaneleyo abantwana, kunye nexesha lokudlala, ngelanga, lidlule. Njalo khumbula ukuba umsebenzi kunye nokukhula komsebenzi kufuneka kube kwindawo yesibini emva kwentsapho yakho.
31. Ungalokothi uthathe kakhulu.
Ndiyathanda ukuthatha ingozi. Ngenxa yokuba ndivakalelwa kukuba oku kwimeko yam.
Xa selutsha, abantu abaninzi bayesaba uxanduva kunye nokuhluleka, ngoko bahlala bebuyela emva kokuphosa. Ungalokothi ukwesaba ukuzama kwakhona. Xa usukhulile, uya kuzibulela ngokuthatha ingozi, akukhathazeki nokuba uphumelele okanye ulahlekile.
32. Musa ukuchitha ixesha lokuhlola i-Intanethi kunye nezixhobo zalo.
Uya kundinceda, ndiya kukunceda
I-Intanethi, ngakwesinye icala, inefuthe elibi kuluntu, ithatha abantu ixesha elide. Kodwa ingxaki kukuba abantu abaninzi abawaziyo okanye abazi ukuba bakhuphe ulwazi oluncedo kwiWebhusayithi yeWebhu yehlabathi. Funda ukusebenzisa i-intanethi ngokuchanekileyo. Oku kuya kukuvumela ukuba ufunde, kwaye ufumane imali, kuba inethwekhi ineenani elikhulu lezikhundla ezinokubangela umdla kubantu abatsha!
33. Kuninzi ukukhathazeka nantoni na.
Musa ukukhathazeka, vuyiswa!
Ngelishwa, amaninzi amava ethu, ngokukodwa ebusheni, ayinalutho kwaye akaze azaliseke. Musa ukuchitha ixesha kule nto. Hlala kwaye ujabule.
34. Yiba ibali elingathandekiyo.
Ndikholelwe, iimeko zihlukile, kodwa into engathandekiyo ukubandakanyeka kwaliphi na ibali elingakunciphisa. Ukuqhawula izinto ezinjalo, abayidingayo!
35. Musa ukuchitha ixesha elaneleyo kunye nosapho kunye nabahlobo.
Akukho mntu unokuthetha ukuba ixesha eliphilileyo lobomi bakhe linikwe lona. Ngoko ke, zama ukudibana neentsapho zakho kunye neentsapho ngokuphindaphindiweyo, ukuze ungazisoli ngamathuba alahlekileyo okubona, ukuthetha, ukuwamkela.
36. Gwema ukuthetha koluntu.
Enyanisweni, ukuthetha koluntu akunakuyithandwa ngumntu wonke, kungabi naluzisola. Kodwa, ngokweengxoxo, abantu abaninzi asebekhulile bayazisola ngokuba abazange bazive bevelele phambi kwesihlwele sabantu ababukeli. Umele uzame ebusheni bakho. Kwimeko nayiphi na into, uya kuba nokukhumbula into!
37. Musa ukubonga.
Ukuqonda intsingiselo yegama elithi "ukubulela", kunokuthatha iminyaka. Kodwa ngenxa yoko, uhlala uqaphela ukuba nayiphi into ehlabathini isipho esifanele sihlanganyele ukuze senze ihlabathi libe ngcono kangcono!