Ukuva kwakhona kwakhona kumfazi osekhulile ibinzana elithi umntwana wakhe akayihloneli abazali, umama osemncinci uyaziqhenya ngokuthi into enjalo ayiyi kwenzeka, ngokuba umntwana wakhe unothando, unothando kwaye, ngokuqhelekileyo, uyona mhle. Kwaye kunjalo ngokwenene. Kodwa ngoku. Ngoxa ungoyomntwana - umhlobo ongcono kunye naye olwabelana nosizi kunye novuyo olulula. Kwaye kuya kuba kwixesha elizayo, ukuba ekuphenduleni akayi kuva "umama uxakekile!", "Mva kamva" kunye "nantoni na?". Ngaphandle koko, umntwana uya kuqonda ukuba awunomdla ngakumbi ebomini bakhe. Mhlonele, kwaye umntwana uya kukuphendula ngokufanayo! Kwaye ke akudingeki ucinge malunga nokuba kutheni abantwana bengabathobeli abazali babo kwaye ngubani na onokusola oku.
Inhlonipho yinkalo yobomi
Ukuze umntwana abe neentlonelo kwisizukulwana esidala, imigaqo yesimo sengqondo kufuneka ifakwe ngokusemthethweni ngokuzalwa. Khumbula, inhlonipho kubadala ngumgangatho owenziwe kungekho ngosuku olulodwa kungekhona ngamagama. Abantwana bakopha imodeli yokuziphatha ababoniswa ngabazali, ngoko amazwi akho malunga nentlonipho ye-etiquette endala neyohambelanayo ayiyi kwamkeleka ukuba ebomini umntwana ubona okuchaseneyo. Ngomzekelo wabantu abaninzi abemi bomthonyama, ubona isizathu sokuba kutheni umntu ahloniphe abadala, kwaye ukukhula akuyi kuphinda ucinge ngako.
Imigaqo elula kunye ebalulekileyo
Asinakuhlala sijonga indlela yokwenza umntwana ahlonele abazali bakhe, kubonakala ngokucacileyo ukuba ukunyanzelisa kunokwenza ukwesaba okanye ukuvukela kumntwana. Zozibini ezikhethwa ngabazali kunye nosana aluhle kakhulu. Kodwa ukuqonda indlela yokufundisa umntwana ukuhlonela abazali, abadala kunye naye, kubaluleke kakhulu.
Okokuqala, umntwana usoloko efuna ukwazi ukuba akaze ahlaziswa ngabantu abasondeleyo. Ngokukodwa uxhathisa izijeziso malunga nasiphi na iphoso ngabantu abangaziwayo. Okwesibini, ubudlelwane phakathi kwabazali bubonisa indlela umntwana eya kuziphatha ngayo nabantu abadala. Ukuba umama nobaba bavumela ukuba baqonde ngokucacileyo ubudlelwane, ukuhlambalaza nokuhlaziswa kwabantwana, ngoko ke oku oku kukukhokelo kwisenzo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo sichitha ixesha ukufunda nje kuphela umdla, kodwa iincwadi ezifundisayo. Kwimizekelo yamaqhawe eenganekwane, abantwana bafunda ubomi, ngoko ke, ukukhethwa kweencwadi ezihambelanayo kufuneka kuthethwe ngokungathí sina.
Ukunyamekela nokunyamekela abadala kubonakaliswa kwizinto ezintle ezinjengekhadi ezandleni zakho zeeholide, umnxeba okanye ileta. Emva kwakho konke, oogogo bakho banokugcina igaleta yokuqala ebhaliweyo kwincwadi enkulu engabonakaliyo yomzukulwana wokuqala?
Intsapho - Inqaba
Intsapho enamalungu ahlala enenkathalo malunga nomnye into eyona nto sifanele sizame. Usana oluvela emkhunjini kufuneka luqaphele ukuba ubuncwane obunqabileyo obunabo bonke abazali bakhe, abazalwana kunye noodade, oogogo nomkhulu.
Ekubunjweni kwenhlonipho kubadala, kungekhona okugqibela
Indlela efanelekileyo kakhulu yokufundisa ukuhlonipha umntwana kubadala ngabazali bakho. Musa ukuba neentloni xa bebuya kwakhona ukuba babe ngabantwana. Ukuthatha inxaxheba kwimpilo yabantu asebekhulile, ukunyamekela ngumzekelo oqaqambileyo kunye nomhle kakhulu womntwana. Ngaphandle koko, kulula.
Musa ukulibala ukuba ngokuphakamisa inhlonipho yomntwana kubadala, awuyi kuphazamiseka nje kwi-minibus xa engakhange abuyele kumntanini, kodwa uzakukubonelela ngokukhuselekileyo kunye novuyo oludala.