Ngaba uyazi ukuba unetyala? Phantse ngokuchanekileyo sitsho ukuba ubuncinane kanye, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo wazibonela. Ukuvakalelwa okunjalo kunzima ukudibanisa nayiphi na enye, ihlala ichitha ubomi babantu abanengqondo ephezulu. Ngaphezu koko, ingqondo yengqondo ichaza ukuba ingqondo yengqondo kunye necala lokwenene lizinto ezahlukeneyo. Ukuba ityala liyimvelaphi yimeko eyenzekayo, imbangela yophando, ngoko ukuziva unetyala ngumntu womntu okanye umntu onyanzelekile, imeko yokuba unetyala, nangona oku kungenjalo.
Uvela phi umva wecala?
Ubungqina bokuba unetyala ngokuthe ngqo kuxhomekeke kwindlela kunye nesakhiwo somntu womntu. Ukuba umntu unobundlobongela, unomdla, kwaye awukwazi ukuwufumana, ke akunakwenzeka ukuba uya kukwazi ukuvusa iimvakalelo kunye neentloni. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba umntu unobungozi, unomusa, unxhala, mhlawumbi umntu uya kujonga iimvakalelo ezinjalo ngokuqhelekileyo.
Kukho imithombo emininzi eyenza ukuvakalelwa okunjalo kungathandeki:
Ukuthotywa kudibene nentsapho
Kwiimeko ezinjalo kunokwenzeka ukuba zithwale, njengentsebenziswano phakathi kwabazali nabantwana, kunye phakathi kwabatshatileyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba abazali bazive benetyala, kuba abafundanga kakuhle umntwana wabo, ukuba abazange bamnike konke okuyimfuneko. Abantwana nabo banokucinga ukuba abazinyamekeli ngabazali babo asebekhulile xa bekhulile okanye baye bachitha zonke iingxaki zabo ebuntwaneni, kodwa ngoku bayazisola ngokukrakra, kodwa kukho ukuziva unetyala kumntwana omncinci xa eziva engumngcipheko, engeyomfuneko kwintsapho.
Abatshatileyo banokuziva benetyala ngokungaqhelekanga. Amadoda ahlala ecinga ukuba abafumani ngokwaneleyo ukubonelela intsapho yabo okanye abachithe ixesha elaneleyo kunye neentsapho zabo, kuba bahlala bephela emsebenzini. Abasetyhini bahlala becinga ukuba ngababi abafazi, baziqhathanisa nabanye abafazi. Ngaphezu koko, kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba abafazi banamathela ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunamadoda ukuba bazigwebe ngokwabo, kunokuba iimeko zijikeleze ingxaki, njl njl.
Ukuziva unetyala emva kobugwenxa
Izizathu zokukrexeza zingahluka, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuhlaselwa yinto yokuzisola, ityala. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba akukho nto yokulungisa - kwenzeka kwaye kwenzeka. Into ephambili isacacisa kwaye uyayiqonda isizathu sesenzo esinjalo kwaye awukwazi ukuxelela lakho iqabane lakho, kuba le yinto efanelekileyo xa ubuxoki buyenzela okulungileyo, ukuze kuzuze intsapho yakho.
Ukuziva unetyala phambi komfi
Kwakhona kwenzeka ukuba abantu abasondeleyo kuthi bafe, kwaye asiyazi kakuhle okanye siyazi, sizigxeka ngesizathu okanye kungekho sizathu, ngenxa yokufa kwalowo mntu. Mhlawumbi ngenxa yokuba babengenalo ixesha lokumxelela konke abakufanele bathethe, mhlawumbi ngenxa yokuba babengenayo ixesha lokubuza, okanye bazibonele benetyala lokufa kwakhe ngokomzimba. Nangona kunjalo, kukufanelekile ukukhumbula ukuba awukho uThixo, kungekhona uhlobo lomntu onamandla onke, kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo kwaye ukuba awunalo injongo yokubulala umntu - awuyikusola ukubulala kwakhe. Akunyanga kuwe ukuba uthathe isigqibo sokuba ngubani ongashiya eli hlabathi ngaphambili, kwaye ngubani ozayo. Umva wecala lokufa komntu othandekayo ungenye yezona zinto ziyingozi kakhulu, ukuba kungenxa yokuba akukho nto inokubuyiselwa ngqo, kwaye ngokuzisola okunjezela nje utyhefu umphefumlo wakho.
Ngelishwa, ngokuqhelekileyo kubantu abakujikelezile, kukho ukuphathwa
Ngoko, ukuziva unetyala rhoqo kunokukhokelela ekungabikho nto efanelekileyo, kuphela ukuxinezeleka, ukunganeliseki, izifo kunye nentlungu, iyonakalisa, ngoko ulahle loo nto kwaye ngokukhawuleza.