Zonke iintombi zintombi ziye zahlala ixesha elide, kwaye ezinye zazo zingumyeni osemthethweni, kwaye umntwana unokuziqhayisa, kodwa nonke nicinga indlela yokuthabatha uthando olutsha ebomini bakho? Yonke into iyazama, ukususela ekutshintsheni ukubukeka kwithuba elide kwiindawo zokuthandana, kwaye isikhulu asikho ngokukhawuleza ukuba sibonakale ekugqibeleni? Ngoko ke, ngokucacileyo, kucinga ngokugqithiseleyo (ngendlela eyiyo yelizwi) kuyadingeka.
Unokutsalisa njani uthando lomntu ebomini bakho?
Iindlela zokutsala uthando lomntu endlwini eninzi, kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo benza ngokukhawuleza. Kuphela kuphela "kodwa" - kufuneka ukholelwe ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba izenzo ozenzileyo ziya kunceda ukufezekisa okufunwayo, ngaphandle koko umphumo uza kuba mncinane okanye awuyi kuba.
- Ngaphambi kokuba ufumanise indlela onokuyityelela inhlanhla ngothando, kufuneka uhluthe i-ballast, ukususela kumandulo, ungagqibekanga, unamathiselwe. Ukuba awunjalo, akukho uthando olutsha oluya kutsalwa, awuyi kumshiya indawo. Kwakhona, ungazami ukufumana umntu othile, hlala kumntu, kaninzi singaboni mntu. Kodwa ukhetho lwethu alukwazi ukuphumelela nokuba. Kwaye kuvela ukuba yonke imikhosi kunye nexesha lichithekile.
- Indlela yokudweba amandla othando? Khumbula umthetho omdala-awawunikayo, wanikwa. Kwaye ukuba asiyi kunika ihlabathi ngaphandle kwezikhalazo zethu malunga nokuphila nokuphelelwa yithemba, akukho mfuneko yokuba silinde ukubonakala ngokukhawuleza kwonwaba. Ngoko ukuba udinga uthando, ngoko kufuneka ubenike. Inokwenziwa ngezindlela ezahlukeneyo, izenzo ezintle, uncedo olungenabugovu kubahlobo kunye nabaziwayo okanye izipho ngendlela yeempawu zentlanzi ezimbini okanye amadada aseMandan (ngo-feng shui, umculi oyintloko wokutsala uthando), iintliziyo, iimbini zeengelosi, njl. Kuphela kufuneka uyenze yonke into ngokunyanisekileyo, ngenhliziyo engenanto kunye nokunganakwa kweli shishini akudingeki ukuba ufike-oko unikezayo, ngoko uya kubuya.
- Yintoni enye eya kutsala uthando? Ukucinga okufanelekileyo, cinga ngokuqinisekileyo okuqinisekisiweyo kuwe kwaye uhlale ucinga ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Ngokomzekelo, yile: "Intliziyo yam ivuselela uthando, kwaye ndivulelekile ulwalamano olutsha," "Ndiyifumana uthando apho ndihamba khona," "Ndifanelwe ukuthandana kwaye ndiyifumana," njl njl.
- Ukutsala ukuthandana? Akukho nto ilula, kufuneka uqhube umkhwa. Kuye sidinga isepha, i-fresh air kunye nelanga. Ukuqhuba esi siko kuyimfuneko kwenyanga. Ngobusuku, xa ilanga liqala ukusondela, sihlala phantsi ngefestile okanye kwi-balcony kwaye siqeqesha ngokubetha. Xa baqala ukukhupha enkulu kunye nenhle, sicinga umfanekiso wethu kunye noxinzelelo lwakho ngaphakathi kwelinye ibhola elimi ngecala kwaye uvumele ibhola liye kwicala lenyanga. Konke kwenzeka ngokukodwa, ukukhulula ngaphezulu kweyodwa ibhola.
- Ukutsala uthando, ungasebenzisa ezi ndlela ezilandelayo. Sithatha iphepha kwaye sibhala kuyo into enjengokuthi: "Ndiyathandeka kakhulu. Ndikhanyisa ukukhanya kwangaphakathi kwothando, umkhwa kunye nesondo. Ndiyakhanga abantu kum. Umntu wam undifumana. " Sifaka iglasi yamanzi kwiphepha. Intendelezo yesithathu enye, emele phakathi kwazo i-clot yamandla. Sibeka ingilazi phakathi kweentende, ngaphandle kokuthinta iindonga zeglasi, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo sichaza ngamagama kwiphepha, kungcono ukuba uthumela konke oku. Ukuhlawulwa, ngoko ke amanzi, siphuza. Yenza le nkqubo ekuseni, njengoko uvuka, kwaye kusihlwa, ngaphambi kokulala.
- Ukuze ufumane umphefumlo wakho iqabane ungasebenzisa umculo kunye neentyantyambo ezithandayo uthando. Ngokuphathelene nomculo, unokuba njengeengqungquthela ezikhethekileyo ukutsala uthando, kunye naluphi na uhlobo lomculo odibanisa kunye nolonwabo (ngokwenene uvuyo!, Intsebenzo yothando inqatshelwe) ngothando. Iintyatyambo zothando zifuna obomvu, ezisezantsi kunye nezantsi-ntshona kwendlu yakho. Musa nje ukuwabeka kwigumbi lokulala, kuya kubachaphazela kakubi ubudlelwane phakathi kwabalingani. Kwakhona, awukwazi ukugcina iintyatyambo ezisemzimbeni ekhaya, ukuguqula izimbali, i-ikebans, ukusika izityalo eziwela phantsi. Uze ulahle i-cacti - iinaliti zabo ezibukhali "zinokugwaza" naziphi na, kwanezinye iimvakalelo zothando.