Qinisekisa ukuba kuludwe olucetywayo uza kufumana into oyithandayo: ufuna - uya kufumana idayari okanye ufumane umdlalo othakazelisayo, okanye mhlawumbi ufuna ukulala ubusuku obuhle? Kuye kuwe!
1. Gcwalisa umbhede imihla ngemihla
Le ndlela yindlela elula yokuqalisa usuku ngomoya omkhulu.
2. Nciphisa umnqweno "wokuthanda wonke umntu"
Ukuba nomusa, ukulungele ukuza kunceda umntu ulungile. Ukukhathazeka ngezinto abanye abaza kucinga okanye bathi ngawe, nyathela entanyeni yakho, wenze into ekumonakaliseni iminqweno yakho ayilungile. Akunakwenzeka ukukholisa wonke umntu, vumani nje.
3. Zizenzele umdla wokuzonwabisa
Igama eliphambili apha "yiwe"! Ayikho yezithombe ezipholileyo kwi-Instagram, kungekhona kwiingxoxo zengxoxo kunye nabalingane emsebenzini, kodwa i-DL-I-CE! Ngamanye amagama, yintoni eya kuvuselela okanye ukuphumla, yenza ukuba ucinge okanye ngokuphazamisa ukuphikisa kuzo zonke iingcinga.
4. Zizenzele
Amakhandlela, itiye, iilekese, iingxelo kunye nomculo omtsha-ewe, nantoni na. Yenza le mihlali inxalenye ebalulekileyo yohlahlo lwabiwo-mali, nceda uzenzele izinto ezimnandi kwaye uyabubulele.
5. Gxotha iingcamango ezimbi malunga nawe
Yiba ngileyo kuphela kwabanye, kodwa kuwe okokuqala. Sincoma uvavanyo: "Zithande iintsuku ezili-12." Konke okufuneka ukwenze ukulandela uluhlu nsuku zonke. Ngoko:
- Njalo ekuseni, zityumzele kwisibuko.
- Summisela abadlulileyo.
- Musa ukuzibhenela kwiincoma.
- Bhala ngawe into enhle.
- Yenza oko kuya kuvuya.
- Ziqhayisa.
- Zi khuthaze.
- Ungazifanisi nabanye.
- Nika iingcebiso kwabanye abantu.
- Ukuthetha kunye nezilwanyana.
- Cinga ngesicatshulwa uze uqhube njalo ekhanda lakho.
- Cima iseli yakho rhoqo.
6. Thatha indawo yexesha elikhunjulwayo lobomi
Ngamanye amagama, uqokelele iimvakalelo ezintle. Zigqibo ukuba ungagxininisi kwiingxaki kunye nokungaphumeleli, kodwa kwiimeko ezimnandi kunye neemeko ezimnandi. Oku kuya kwenza izigqibo zakho zijolise kakuhle, oko kukuthi, ziya kwamkelwa nguwe ngokusukela kwiminqweno yokufumana iimvakalelo ezintle. Ibhonasi epholileyo: funda konke okuqokelelweyo, ngaphambi konyaka omtsha. Ukuhlawulwa kwe-vivacity kunye nomoya omkhulu uyaqinisekiswa kuwe!
7. Ncitshitshisa okanye nciphisa kwiintlanganiso zero nabantu, unxibelelwano olungenakukuvuyisa
Gwema ukunxibelelana nalabo abachaphazela kakubi isimo sakho sengqondo. Funda ukuphula izikhonkwane ezingadingekile.
8. Lahla igama "kufuneka (s)"
"Ndiza kungena kwimidlalo, kufuneka ndiyenze uxolo nomhlobo, kufuneka ndi ... ndimele." Isimo sengqondo esinzulu "esinzulu" singenza izinto zibe zibi nakakhulu. Awukwazi ukucinga ukuba izinto zingatshintsha njani kunye negama: "Ndingathanda ukungena kwimidlalo, ndingathanda ukuxolelana ...".
"Ungazigcineli kwisigqeba esingqongqo kwaye ungasongeli ngomnwe ukuze ufezekise iminqweno yakho, ukuba kukho konke. Ukufuna into into eqhelekileyo, "kusho u-Elizabeth Lombardo wezengqondo zonyango.
9. Ziphathe njengomhlobo wakho omhle.
Njalo ixesha ingcamango ikhanya phezu kwakho ukulahla ikhofi okanye ukukhawuleza emsebenzini, yikhuphe kude. Cinga ngako, kodwa ngaba usabela ntoni kumhlobo wakho? Hayi, kuba akukho mntu, kuquka nawe, ufanelwe unyango olunjalo.
10. Fumana i-psychotherapist, isiqhelo kwishishini lakho
Ukuba udidekile kwaye ungakwazi ukufumana iingxaki ngokwakho, qha ga mshelana neengcali zengqondo. Ungabi neentloni ukuba awuzange ube nolwazi olunjalo loqhagamshelwano - konke kwenzeka okokuqala ngqa. Sondela ngokucophelela ukhetho "lomncedisi ekwenzeni i-rubble engqondweni yakho."
11. Yithi "hayi" ngokuphindaphindiweyo
Kukho iintlobo ezimbini ezikhoyo zokuphuhliswa kweemeko xa uvuma ukukwenza oko unqweneliyo: mhlawumbi ukwenza kwingozi yakho (ixesha lakho, imvakalelo, impilo, imali emva kwakho konke) okanye ungenzi, kodwa uzive ukuphosa ukungabikho ukudibanisa imithendeleko, umzekelo. Bathembisa, kodwa abazange bahambisane, kufuneka baxolise, baqikelele. Ngaba uyayifuna? Ngaphandle kokunyaniseka, ngokuthethekileyo uthi: "Hayi!". Zithande.
12. Akukho isikhalazo
Ukusoloko ukhononda, udala umfanekiso womntu ongeyithandekanga kuye, kwaye uzakuzungezela ngento embi, ekugqibeleni ekukhokelela ekuphazameni kwengqondo. Qonda ngokuchanekileyo, eli cebiso alibhekiseli kwinto yokuba uqokelela amandla akho, kodwa oko, emva kokuba uxoxe ngezinto ezibuhlungu, uyayichitha kwaye ungagxila kuyo.
13. Thatha intlungu yesimo somzimba
Yiva ukukhathala kokuziphatha, thatha usuku. Ukuba ufumana nzima nakakhulu ukukhawuleza ngexesha elidlulileyo, qhagamshelana nodokotela. Musa ukuyihoxisa lo mqondiso.
14. Ulala ngaphezulu
Ubuthongo bunjani malunga nempilo yengqondo? Ewe, eyona nto ayikhoyo ngqo. I-Nedosyp ikhulisa umvakalelo wokungazinelisekanga kwaye iyancipha imeko yoxinzelelo kunye nokuxhalaba, ngoko thanda umzimba wakho, kwaye ingqondo iya kukubulela.
15. Gcina ingxelo
"Ukwenza idayari luhlobo lwenyango olukhuthaza impilo enempilo," kutsho uDeborah Serani, umbhali we-Life Life Depression. Ibhonasi ebumnandi - mhlawumbi ukhangeleka ukusuka kwinqanaba elithile, uvule.
16. Ungazifanisi nabanye.
Thatha ulawulo, rhoqo xa uziqhathanisa nabanye, ngakumbi xa uthelekiso ungalunganga, faka iiruble eziyi-100 kwibhanki yengulube. Ungaqapheli ukuba unokukhawuleza njani ukuyeka imikhwa emibi.
17. Hlela ixesha
Sika ixesha kanye ngeveki, kakuhle, okanye ubuncinane kanye ngenyanga. Yidla kwivenkile yokutyela, uye kwiibhayisikobho okanye uhamba nje ngeenxa zonke kweso sixeko sasebusuku. Funda ukuzonwabisa lonwabo kwaye uthande ixesha elichithwe kwiinkampani ngokwazo.
18. Qalisa usuku kunye neengcinga zexesha elihle lobomi bakho
Abantu banamathuba amaninzi ngaphezu kokucinga okulungileyo, ngako konke ukusa kusasa ukubonga yonke into encinane, iphupha elimnandi, umzekelo, uyazihlaselwa yinto eninzi ngayo yonke imini.
19. Ncitshisa ixesha elichithwe kwiintanethi zentlalo
Kwixesha letheknoloji yanamhlanje, abantu barekhoda iinyawo zabo kwiintanethi zentlalo-umsebenzi, iholide, ubudlelwane. Ukukhangela amateyipu e-bloggers adumile okanye ngabahlobo, kukukhumbuza uze ubalekele kumava kunye neengxaki zakho. Zama ukugxila ebomini bokwenene kwaye ulonge indlela oziphatha ngayo.
20. Yenza indawo ikujikeleze
Hlanganisa iibinzana ezisebenzayo, kwaye uya kumangaliswa ukuba oku kunceda njani kumaxesha anzima.
21. Yenza izinto ezikuhlazisa, zikhathaze, zixhalabise
"Ngokuqhelekileyo ukhusela iziganeko ezingathandekiyo, xa beqala ukukhathazeka," kuchaza isazi seengqondo sezonyango uJennifer Tates. Zilahlekele umngeni, ngoko uhlangabezana nobunzima ngexesha ngalinye kuya kuba lula.
22. Yabelana ngezinto ezenzeka ebomini kunye nabahlobo
Kufuneka ube nesibindi ukuvula kwaye ubonise ubuthathaka bakho. Ukuba uzama ukujamelana nawe ngokwakho, ukwesaba ukuba ube ngumthwalo wempahla yomntu, kufuneka ucinge kwakhona inkqubo yakho yokuxhasa. Uthembisa ukuba kwimeko enzima uza kufumana umntu othanda nokukunakekelayo, kwaye wabelane ngamava akho.
23. Ukubhiyozela nokuncinci amancinci
Akukho nto engalunganga ngokubeka iinjongo zehlabathi, ngoko kuthetha ngekamva. Kodwa khumbula ukuba ukufezekiswa kwamancinci kwakhona kubaluleke kakhulu. Ukubhiyozela kungekuphela kuphela ukunqoba.