Ukulahlekelwa ngabathandekayo kuyatshisa. Kubonakala ngathi umnyango uya kuvula, kwaye uya kuvela kwakhona emngceleni, kwaye njengokuba esoloko emomothekayo, uya kuqala ukuxelela into ethile. Ngezinye izihlandla isandla siya kufowuni, kodwa inani eliqhelekileyo alinakuze lifikeleleke. Ubungenakumbono obunomphefumlo, njengepuzzli, ekhishwe emfanekisweni omnye kwaye akayi kuvuka kwindawo yakhe eqhelekileyo. Yaye ingcinga kuphela ehlala iphosa ekhanda lakho yindlela ongayi kuhamba ngayo, ngokuphindaphindiweyo ebuyela kwigumbi elingenanto, apho lingekho khona? Le meko inokuhlala ixesha elide kwaye ibangela izifo ezahlukeneyo zomphefumlo nomzimba. Kodwa ubomi emva kokufa komyeni wakhe kuyaqhubeka! Ufuna nje ukuyithatha kwaye ubujonge ihlabathi ngeenyawo ezahlukeneyo.
Ungaphila njani ukufa komyeni wakho othandekayo?
Iintsuku zokuqala ukuzama ukuzinqabisa nokuzama ukuphuma kwi-stupor ayinangqiqo. I-psychic ihlelwe ngendlela enokuthi "nayiphi na into yokuvimbela" ibangelwa nayiphi na ingcinezelo. Oku kunqanyulwa kwilizwe langaphandle kubalulekile ukuba umzimba ugcine impilo yengqondo. Kodwa umngcwabo kunye nomngcwabo uphelile, zonke izatifikethi zokufa ziqokelelwa, kwaye umhlolokazi uqala ukucinga ngakumbi nangakumbi indlela yokuphila emva kokufa komyeni wakhe. Amachiza ayenzelwe ukukhupha intlungu okokuqala ngcembe ibe yingozi, kwaye umfazi olahlekelwa ngumthandi wakhe kufuneka afunde indlela yokuphinda aphinde abuyele kwakhona. Ngokuqhelekileyo oku kwenzekayo ngenxa yenkxaso yabahlobo kunye nosapho. Kodwa kwenzeka ukuba akukho mntu ujikeleze kwaye akukho mnye ulwabelana nentlungu yokulahleka. Unokuhlangabezana njani nokufa komyeni wakho? Ngenxa yolu luleke ukuphulaphula ezinye iingcebiso:
- Into ephambili ekufuneka yenziweyo kukunyamezela oko kwenzeka. Ubuntu bunemithetho yayo. Abanye abantu bashiya ekuseni, abanye emva koko. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba kunzima kangakanani ukuqonda ukuba umntu othandayo akayi kuba khona, kuyimfuneko ukufumana amandla kwaye uqale yonke imihla ngamagama: "Yintoni enokuyenza, ayiyi kudlula. Umyeni wakhe akakwazi ukubuyela. Kodwa mhlawumbi siza kuhlangana ngenye imini size sihlangane kwakhona. "
- Ukufa komyeni kuyisizathu sokucinga malunga nendlela yokuphila "ngokwakho." Kufuneka ukuba uzalise into ethile engenakunqandwa ebomini. Simele siqonde ukuba lobu bomi bakhe buphelile, kwaye ubomi babo bonke buqhubeka. Ukushiya kwimemori udinga kuphela imemori enhle neyobubele. Yaye kunye nabo kubalulekile imihla ngemihla ukuba banandiphe ubomi obuye bahlala emva kokuhamba komyeni: iintaka eziculayo, amaqabunga okuqhayisa emoyeni, incwadi enomdla, njl.
- Kwimibuzo yendlela yokusinda ekufeni komyeni, izazi zengqondo zicebisa ukuba ziphazamiseke ngothando kunye nezenzo ezilungileyo. Unokufumana abahlolokazi abafanayo abasanda kulahlekelwa ngumthandayo, kwaye bancede babuyele kwiinyawo zabo emva kokulahleka. Ungabhala iileta kulabo abasinda kwintlungu, baxhasa abantu abasesibhedlele okanye bahlanganyele ekudaleni. Ngamanye amazwi, nayiphi na imisebenzi kufuneka ijoliswe ekudaleni, kwaye ingangonakalisi, umntu onengcinga rhoqo malunga nokulahleka kwakhe.
- Umgaqo ophezulu emva kokulahlekelwa ngumlingane akungena kulo. Ukuluncedo kuncedo xa bengasetyenziswa kakubi. Namhlanje, kukho indawo ezininzi apho ungafumana abahlobo abatsha, ngokukhawuleza "uphume kubantu" kwaye ungesabi ukugwetywa ngaphandle. Ukuba nolwazi oluxabisekileyo lweentsapho, unokwabelana kunye neebhangqwana eziselula.
Inkxaso yabathandekayo ibaluleke gqitha kwabo bafunde intlungu yokulahlekelwa ngumntu othandekayo. Kodwa nangona ngoncedo lwabo, akuyena onke amabhinqa anokukhawuleza abuyele kumava. Kwezinye iimeko, utshintsho obomi obutsha kuthatha ubuncinane iminyaka emine. Kwaye ngeli xesha kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ungayimi, kodwa ubuncinci ukuzama ukuhamba phambili kumanyathelo amancinci.