Intombazana ngesithuthuthu, ukusuka kwindawo yokujonga umntu, ikhaliphe, ikhaliphe kwaye ikhohlise. Ukuba umfazi uthatha isigqibo sokufudukela kwihashe lentsimbi, kufuneka acinge ngezinto zokugqoka. Indlela yokuphumelela yokuphumelela iyisithuthuthu sokukhusela. Le nto yokugqoka ikhabethe ingenzi nje umfanekiso wesintombazana, okhangayo, kodwa nayo inxalenye yengubo eya kuqinisekisa ukhuseleko lwakhe.
Izibonelelo zeenqwelo zokuhamba ngeenqanawa kunye nokukhuselwa
Namhlanje, kukho imizekelo yamantombazana anesibindi akhetha ukukhwela ngesithuthuthu. Phakathi kwabo, iimveliso zengubo kunye neekhumba ziphuma. Ngamnye wabo unemivuzo eninzi. Ukuba ukhetha isithuthuthu sekhumba ngokukhusela, ngoko uyazi ukuba zeziphi izinto ezintle ezinikezelweyo:
- zinokwenziwa kwiintlobo ezahlukeneyo kunye nemibala. Le mgangatho ikuvumela ukuba uzame, yenza umfanekiso wesitayela, ungalibali ukhuseleko ngelixa uqhuba ngomgwaqo;
- Iibhatyi zesikhumba zowesifazane kunye nokukhusela zikhululekile, zincinci, aziyi kuzincipha ngexesha lokugqoka;
- Abavelisi beebhatyi basebenzisa izinto eziphathekayo - ngokuqhelekileyo zininzi, zinzima kwaye zinzima. Oku kuvumela ukuba umveliso ugule kwixesha elibandayo kwaye ungakhathazeki malunga nokuba unokwenza umonakalo. Izambatho zangaphandle zigcina ubushushu ixesha elide kwaye zikhusela emoyeni;
- kwimveliso enjalo akuloyiki ukuba ungene kwimvula, kuba loo nto inokuxhathisa kwamanzi;
- Ukukhuselwa kwengubo kungekho kwintlupheko yesikhumba ngokwayo, kodwa kwindlela yokuveliswa kwemveliso, ukulungiswa kwayo.
Ukukhetha isithuthuthu sesikhumba
Ukufumana into ephathekayo kulula, kufuneka nje ucinge ngemigaqo embalwa elula. Ukukhetha isithuthuthu esisikhumba esikhuselekileyo kufuneka siqwalasele oku kulandelayo:
- loo mveliso kufuneka inikwe intombazana ngokukhuseleka, ngoko ukufakela okukhuselekileyo kufuneka kufakwe kumahlombe, iindlovu, ngasemva, malunga nomlenze, esifubeni. Baya kunciphisa igalelo xa bewa okanye ngexesha lengozi;
- Kufuneka ukuba ukhethe izambatho zangaphandle ngokukhululekile ukuze ubukhulu bokukhusela bube kwindawo zabo. Ngokwenza njalo, umkhiqizo kufuneka uhlale uqinile, kodwa ungavumi ukuhamba;
- ukhetha isithuthuthu sekhumba ngokukhusela intombazana, kufuneka ubeke ingqwalasela kumandla emigangatho. Kumele ukuba zithembeke, ngenxa yempembelelo encinci, iimveliso ezingaphantsi ziza kuchithachitha kwiisigaba;
- Kufuneka ukhethe ingubo yangaphandle kunye nomkhono ovala ngokupheleleyo isihenqo sakho. Iimveliso ezinjalo zicatshulwa ngenxa yokufaneleka kwesandla emva kwesondo.
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