Ukuzimela

Abaninzi baye bakuva, kodwa abazi intsingiselo yokuzimela. Leli gama lavela ngenxa yokudideka kwegama lesiNgesi elithi "intetho" kunye negama lesiRashiya "ngokwakhe."

Ukuzibonakalisa ngobuntu njengexesha elitsha kukukwazi ukuzinceda ukuba uzibonele kuluntu, ngelixa udibana nabantu abatsha. Indlela obukeka ngayo kunye nantoni na emehlweni abanye ixhomekeke ekubeni unalo lwazi kangakanani.

Iintlobo zokuzimela

1. Yendalo - iyinto ebonakalayo kubo bonke abantu ngaphandle kokungafani. Umntu ngamnye ozelwe ngokuzalwa uzalwa ngokukwazi ukuzithetha ngokuthe ngandlela-thile. Ngethuba lolo hlobo, yonke into iyenzeka ngokwemvelo kwaye ayihlosiwe, njengoko ithi "ngaphandle kweengcamango zangasemva"
2. Izakhono ezenziwe ngokuzenzekelayo ngokuzenzekelayo ngokuzibonisa, ngesiphumo esicwangcisiweyo. Injongo yaso ephambili kukuba uzuze isimo sengqibelelo seqela eliqela labantu.

Imigaqo yokuzimelela ngokuphumelelayo ilula. Nantsi into ixhomekeke kwiliphi iqhinga lokuzithethelela ozikhethayo. Isicwangciso esithandwa kakhulu siyakhangalisa, kuba kusebenza ngokufanelekileyo.

1. Inkcazo yokuchazwa kweso sithuba kwi-interlocutor. Khetha ukunconywa okubukhali ngendlela engakhange ibonakale njenge-flattery, ebonisa, ngokubakho, ukubonakalisa kwiibinzana "indlela okhangeleka ngayo namhlanje", njl njl. Akunangqiqo ukudumisa umnxibelelwano. Cela uncedo, ngoko uza kubonisa ukubaluleka okukhulu kwimbono yakho kuwe.
2. Izinto ezifanayo. Nantoni na oyenzayo nantoni na oyithethayo, kwinqanaba elincinci, abantu bayaba novelwano nabantu ababakhumbuza ngokwabo. Ewe, oku akuthethi ukuba ukuze uzenzele wena kufuneka ulingise umntu, kodwa apha ukujonga iimpawu ezifanayo okanye imikhwa kunye nokugxininisa ukufana kwakho kwinto ethile. Unokuphumelela uvelwano ngomntu wakho ngokuthatha icala kwicala lakho loxeshanye ngexesha lempikiswano, ekutshiwo ukuba utshintshe uluvo lwakho phantsi kwengcinezelo yeengxabano zakhe. Umntu osisilumko uhlala eyazi ukuba kubaluleke kakhulu iinkolelo zakhe ezinokubingelelwa, ukwenzela ukufezekisa injongo yehlabathi. Sebenza ngokubonakala kwakho. Le nto ibaluleke kakhulu kumfazi. Izifundo ziqinisekisa ukuba ibhinqa elikhangayo ligwetywe ngabanye njengengqiqo nangempumelelo. Kukhangela nje ukukhanga komzimba akuzenzi nje ukuba yindlela efanelekileyo yokuzibonakalisa, kodwa kusengenakulinganiswa. Indoda enhle ihlale iqinisekile kuye kwaye oku akunakuchukumisa abanye.

Ukuzimela ngokuziphumelelayo kukuqinisekisa inani elikhulu labalandeli. Sekude emva kwemizuzu engama-10 yencoko, umnxibelelwano uya kuphendula malunga nawe njengomntu ontle kwaye onengqiqo onomdla wokusebenzisana naye.

Ukuze uphumelele ukumela ubuntu bakho kwabanye, unokusebenzisa enye iteknoloji yokuzimela.

1. Ukuziphakamisa. Kufuneka uzisebenzise kule ndlela yokubonakalisa kula maxesha xa kufuneka ukhangele ulwazi, ufanele kwaye ufanelwe inhlonipho.
2. Ubuthathaka. Injongo yalo mgaqo inokusebenza njengomnqweno wokubangela intlungu okanye imfesane. Sonke sidibana nabantu abahlala bekhononda ngobomi kwaye asikwazanga ukudlulela kwaye singabancedi malunga nokucinga kwethu.

Kumele kukhunjulwe ukuba okubi okanye ngamanye amazwi ukuzithemba okungekho mveliso kuza kuvelisa umonakalo omkhulu kunomfanekiso wakho kunokuba ubonakala kuqala. Emva kokungqina ngokutsha kwiqela elitsha, unokuchitha ixesha elide ukucinga komntu wakho wokuqala.