Abantu abanobuchule abazama ukuphuhliswa, bazibekele iinjongo ezithile, ukuphuhlisa izicwangciso zabo zokuphumelela. Abaninzi banomkhwa onjalo-ukuxelela bonke ngobomi babo kwabanye abantu. Masizame ukuqonda ukuba kutheni ungaxeleli ngezicwangciso zakho kwabanye, kwaye yintoni enokubangela ukuphulwa kwalo mqathango. Kukho isizathu sokuvinjelwa okunjalo, kuba ngokwemibare yamaphesenti angama-95, izicwangciso ezixelweyo aziyi kuba yinyani.
Kutheni kungekho mntu unokuxelela malunga nezicwangciso zabo?
Abantu abaninzi banqwenela ukuphupha, belele embhedeni, kwaye balindele ithuba lokubazisa yonke into epakiti ephethe umda obomvu. Abanye basebenzela nzima ukufumana oko bafuna, kodwa akukho nto iphuma ngenxa yoko. Iingcali zengqondo zikholelwa ukuba oku kubangelwa kukuba abantu bathanda ukwabelana ngeenjongo zabo nabanye, nto leyo eyona nto iyimqobo yokuphupha.
Izizathu ezibalulekileyo zokuba kutheni ungafanele uxoxe ngezicwangciso zakho:
- Abantu abaninzi baqala ukubangela ukungathandabuzeki kwaye bathi akukho nto iya kuphuma, ngoko kukho ukungcola kwamandla ukucacisa nokubonisa ukuba iinjongo ezibekiwe ziya kuzaliseka. Ngenxa yoko, endaweni yokuqala ukuzalisekisa isicwangciso, umntu ubonisa uluvo lwakhe.
- Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba abahlobo nje kuphela abahlala kuzo kodwa kunye neentshaba, kunye nemilayezo yabo emibi
banokuthi "jinx it". - Awukwazi ukuthetha ngezicwangciso zakho kunye neenjongo, kuba iingcamango zangaphambili, ngokomzekelo, malunga nokuqala ishishini, zingatshitshiswa kwaye zithengiswe ngomnye umntu. Ngenxa yoko, uya kuhlala "kwindawo ephukileyo."
Ungakulibali ukuba izicwangciso zingatshintsha kwaye zize ziqikelele ukuba kutheni ukuvakaliswa akuzange kuqaliswe, kuya kuba yintloni kwaye ihlazo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, zama ukugcina umlomo wakho uvule kwaye kungcono ukuphumeza oko bekucetywayo kuqala, kwaye wabelane ngesiphumo kwabanye.