"Umtshato womtshato awukho umhlobiso olula," uhlabelelwa kwingoma enye edumile. Lo mqondiso wesothando kunye nobomi bentsapho kuthetha intsingiselo engcwele. Umbuzo wohlobo luni lwesandla olugqithwe ngendandatho yokubandakanya ayinayo impendulo engabonakaliyo, kuba kuwo onke amazwe kukho izithethe. Kukholelwa ukuba isithethe sokutshintsheliswa kwamakhondlo siyinkokeli yonqulo, nangona kunjalo ukuba ihambelana ngqo neziko lemibutho yomtshato.
Ayaziwa xa isiko lokugqoka iimfesane zomtshato sibonakala, kodwa kukho uluvo lokuba amaYiputa ayengowokuqala ukutshintshisa. Bawuthwala ngesandla sakhe sokunxele ngomunwe ongachazwanga. Ngokomlando, ngumnyo womnxeba "unxibelelwano oludibeneyo" lweentliziyo kunye nemithanjeni, kwaye ubonisa uthando.
KwiMandulo yaseRussia, abasandul 'ukutshata banokutshintshela iisondo, kwaye babezenziwe ngetsimbi okanye kwiintlobo zemithi. Umngcipheko awupheli kwaye akukho siqalo, ngoko amadoda asetshentshiweyo asandul 'ukukholelwa ukuba ukuba ngosuku lomtshato baxolelane, uthando luya kuba ngonaphakade.
Ngaloo nto bafaka ingubo yomntu?
Njengoko sithethe ngasentla, umbuzo wohlobo luni lwesandla olugqithwe ngumngci womtshato womntu luxhomekeke kwilizwe kunye nezithethe ezamkelwe kuyo. Ngokomzekelo, amaSlavs anxiba lo mqondiso wothando kumnwe wesandla sokunene. Imithetho efanayo iyasebenza kubemi baseGrisi, ePoland naseJamani.
Kwaye ngakwesobunxele (kunye nangomnwe womyeni) umtshato womtshato ugqitywe eSweden, eMexico, eMelika naseFransi.
Ukukhethwa kwesandla kufakwe isimo, okokuqala, ngonqulo. Kwintsimi yaseRashiya ne-Ukraine, ubuKristu buxhaphakile. Kwaye kumazwe amaninzi aseNtshona, amaKatolika kunye namaProtestanti anqoba.
Ngendlela, inomdla kukuba iArmenian - kwaye ixhomekeke kunqulo lobuKristu, bhinqa intsimbi yokubandakanya ngakwesobunxele sabo. Le nyaniso ikhuthazwa yinto yokuba kusetyenziswa kwesokunxele ukuba indlela eya entliziyweni isondele. Ngako oko, amandla othando aya kubonakalisa kakhulu kunzima ngexesha lobunzima kwi lamano.
Kwikolo lonqulo lobuOthodoki, isandla sokunene "sinamandla" -kubhaptizwa, izibhambathiso zokunyaniseka nokunye okuninzi. Ngawo mazwe apho umkhonto womtshato ugqitywe ngakwesobunxele, cinga ngesandla sasekhohlo kubaluleke ngakumbi, kuba sisondele entliziyweni. Oku kuthetha ukuba emva komtshato, abasanda kutshata "banikela iintliziyo" omnye komnye.
Kukho uluvo lokuba ekubeni abaninzi abantu banesandla sokunene "esisebenza" kwaye bafika kwamehlo abo rhoqo, abanye baya kuqaphela ngokukhawuleza ukuba umntu akhululekile, kwaye oku kuya kukusindisa kwiimvavanyo ezingadingekile zokuziqhelanisa.
Ngasiphi isandla intombazana enxiba ingxowa yokubandakanya?
Abathandi banesinye isiko. Xa umfana esenza isipho somthandi, uyamnika ngendandatho yokubambisana. E-Rashiya nase-Ukraine, abafazi banxiba ingxowa yokubandakanya ngesandla esifanayo esifanelekileyo, ngomunwe ongenagama. Emva komtshato, kunye nomtshato, unokuwugqoka kuphela.
Emva kokuqhawula umtshato, ngokuqhelekileyo abo baqala ukutshata amaqabane. Ukuba omnye wabesilisa uyafa, umhlolokazi okanye umhlolokazi unxiba ingxowa yokubandakanyeka - kukholelwa ukuba ngale ndlela bahlonipha imemori baze bahlale benothando.
Enyanisweni, umntu ngamnye unquma kwisiphi isandla sokugqoka intsimbi yokubandakanyeka, kuba abathandi bayifaka intsingiselo yakhe kwisangqa. Kwaye kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba akukho ndoda eminwe okanye isitampu kwipasipoti kunye nesatifikethi somtshato sikwazi ukugcina ubudlelwane kunye nokugcina ubomi bentsapho. Ngoko ke, kufuneka sisebenze rhoqo kwiintsebenziswano zethu, kwaye ngokubalulekayo-ndawonye, ndawonye, ngokuba umtshato awukho kuphela amasiko, izithethe kunye nomtshato omhle.