Kwenzeka ukuba sivuswe ngomkhuhlane obandayo, kuphela ngenxa yokuba sinesiphupho esibi. Ngokwezibalo, ngokuqhelekileyo ukuphendula okunjalo kumadoda, ukuba baphupha ukuba umfazi okanye intombi yakhe yatshintshana nomnye. Mxhaphaza umfazi wakho othandekayo ngenxa yokungathembeki emva kokuba iphupha elifanelekileyo alifanelekanga, kodwa oko kuyifunayo ngokwenene kukuziqonda wena kunye neengxaki zakho.
Ziziphi iiphupha ezimbi?
Abantu abaninzi bayazi, amaphupha adla ngokubonakalisa iminqweno kunye nokwesaba, ngokukodwa, kuxhalabisa loo maphupha awakhunjulwayo kuwe, okanye abo baphupha ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Xa phantse ubusuku bonke ubone iphupha apho kukho imeko yokungcatsha kwisahlulo sakho sesibini, kufuneka ucinge ukuba kutheni le nto ibaluleke kakhulu kuwe.
Okokuqala, makhe sibone indlela ovakalelwa ngayo xa ucinga malunga nokukhwabanisa okunokwenzeka ukuze uqonde oko kuthethwa ngumfazi. Unokufumana uvuyo kunye nokuvuswa kwesondo, okanye utshutshiswa ngokukrakra nangentukuthelo. Kwimeko yokuqala, iphupha lakho alikho nje ukubonakalisa yakho iminqweno kunye neengcamango, kodwa kwimeko yesibini, loyiko.
Imvakalelo emihle ephupheni ngokukrexeza
Makhe sicinge, xa ephupha ukuba umyeni wakhe ukukopela, kutheni uvakalelwa kakhulu ngokomzwelo? Ngaba uvuyo lwento yokuba ubudlelwane buye buthathaka, okanye ukuvuswa kwesondo? Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba ukhululekile ekubanjeni ukuba uhlala ngokuhlukana, kufuneka ucinga malunga nokuba ufuna umtshato wakho, okanye umkhwa wokuhlala kunye.
Ukuvuswa kwezesondo, okubonakalayo, nangona ukuba uphupha ukungcatsha komfazi wakho, akukho nto ekhokelela kuyo, ngaphandle kwembono yokuba ubomi obusondeleyo abuhambisani nawe. Kwaye le sizathu sokwenza iintlobo ezahlukeneyo kwi-prelude kunye nesondo ngokwawo. Ukongezelela, akusoloko ulala ngesondo okanye unika isiqingatha sesibini ukuba wenze uhlanga. Ngokuqhelekileyo imeko igcinwa yimidlalo yendima okanye ukusetyenziswa kwamathoyizi athile.
Uloyiko lokulahleka
Ukuba iimvakalelo oye wazibona, xa ndaphupha, indlela umfazi eya kwelinye ayenzanga ngayo nayiphi na into ngaphandle kokukrakra nentlungu, kufuneka uxoxe ngokutya kolahleko. Uloyiko lokulahlekelwa ngumntu osondeleyo kuthi luqhelekile, kodwa ukuba luba lukhulu kakhulu, ngoko mhlawumbi awuqinisekanga wena kwaye ulungiselela umfazi ozithandayo njengeqabane.
Njengomthetho, loo maphupha ahlala elandelwa isondo esinamandla xa kwenzeka ukungazinzi kwemali. Indoda ayiziveki njengeyokuphumelela, abo abangakwazi ukuhlangabezana neemfuno zabasetyhini, ngenxa yokuba uqala ukuphupha ukuba umfazi wakhe ushiye, ucinga-kutheni uhlala nomntu olahlekileyo? Ukuba le yimeko yakho, ke kukufanelekile ukuxoxa ngeqendu lesibini le meko uze umxelele malunga nokwesaba kwakho nokungathandabuzeki. Musa ukuhlala kunye neengxaki zakho ngomnye kwaye ukwandisa uxinzelelo kunye nokuphazamiseka kwemiba. Njengomthetho, ukwesaba okunjalo akulungiswanga, kwaye emva kokuthetha nomfazi wakho, unokuqiniseka ukuba oku, ukulahla ukuphazamiseka kwemiba kwaye ngaloo ndlela
Kutheni uphupha ukuba umfazi wakhe watshintsha umyeni wakhe ngokweencwadi zephupha?
Ukuba loo mphupha ifike kuwe kanye kuphela, ngoko kulungele ukujonga kwincwadi yephupha. Kulapho uya kufunda oko unokulindela emva kwephupha elinjalo. Iincwadi ezininzi ezinama-esoteric ziya guquka kwi nyaniso yokuba loo mbono ibonisa kuphela izinto ezimbini-iindaba ezimnandi ezingalindelekanga, okanye inzuzo yemali. Ngoko, ukuba okokuqala ngqa ubona isilwanyana sokulala, kufuneka uvuyiswe kuphela. Emva kwakho konke, imali kunye neziganeko ezimnandi zihlandlo zeemvakalelo ezimnandi neemvakalelo.