Ngokukhawuleza xa i-crumb iphendulela unyaka ubudala, bonke abantu abajikelezile baqala ukuthatha inzala, kwaye uza kuthetha nini? Uninzi lwabo lo mzuzu ovuyayo abazali abalindele. Kwaye ke, umntwana uqala ukubiza amagama akhe okuqala , kwaye emva koko isivakalisi. Nangona kunjalo, emva konyaka okanye ezimbini ukusuka koomama, umntu unokuva izikhalazo malunga nomntwana ekuthetha ngokugqithiseleyo. Uvakalisa zonke iingcamango zakhe, izicwangciso, izimvo malunga noko akubonayo. Enyanisweni, ukuthetha ngokugqithiseleyo kwengane kulukhuni kakhulu kubazali kunye nabasemzini. Ukongezelela, emva kwayo ingaba neengxaki ezinzulu.
Izizathu zokuthetha kwengane
- Inqwenela . Umphandi omncinci unomdla kuzo zonke izinto ezenzeka kuyo. Oko umntu omdala akhathalelekanga, umntwana unokubangela umdla, ulwandle lwengqondo, ngokufanelekileyo, imibuzo yezigidi. Abantwana abathathu abaneminyaka emine abakwazi ukuphikiswa ukunxibelelana. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ufuna ukuhlala ungathini, awukwazi ukunakana ingqwalasela.
- Umzekelo wabantu abadala . Akunakuqonda ukukhononda malunga nelokuba unomntwana okhulisa kakhulu, ukuba wena ngokwakho awunakudla ngokuphindaphindiweyo, kungekho rhoqo, ngexesha lentetho. Umntwana isibuko sobudlelwane kunye nendlela yokunxibelelana kwintsapho. Ukujonga iiyure ezininzi zomama zokuthetha nabahlobo bakhe, intombazana encinci ibamba le ndlela yokuziphatha, icinga ukuba iyinto evamile. Kwaye ootitshala abanobukrakra abanobubele, abangenakucinga ukuxoxa ngeengxaki zokuxinzelela, kaninzi banika abantwana umzekelo wokuthetha ngokugqithiseleyo.
- Ukucinga okungaphezulu . Ukuba umntwana uthetha kakhulu kwaye ngokukhawuleza, akayikwazi ukuba wakhe umgca wentetho enentsingiselo. Ukuvakalisa amagama ngokuzwakalayo ngokukhawuleza kunokuba uholele ingcamango ukucaca okucacileyo, umntwana uyazimela ngokuzithandela ithuba lokucinga ngokuchanekileyo. Kwixesha elizayo, oku kunokuphazamisa ukufunda okuhle, kuba "entabeni" uya kunika izimpendulo. Ewe, kwaye ulindele ukuba intetho yomntwana onokubhaliweyo iza kubhala, ayikho imfuneko.
- Ukungasebenzi . Ukuba unesiqinisekiso sokuthi ukuxilongwa kukuchanekile, ngoko ke ngaphandle koluncedo lwe-neurologist, isazi sengqondo (kwiimeko ezingaqhelekanga, isifo sengqondo) asinakwenza.
Njani ukuphumelela ukuthula?
- Ungavumeli umntwana akhulume ngokukhawuleza . Yeka ukuhamba kweentetho zentsana ecela ukuba uthethe ngokuthe ngcembe, ngendlela efutshane kwaye ubonise iingcamango zakho ngokucacileyo. Nangona kunjalo, ukumemeza nokufuna ukuthula akuyona inketho. Ewe, umntwana uya kuhlala ethule, kodwa kungekhona ngenxa yokuba wayeqonda ukungapheleli kwentetho yakhe, kodwa ngenxa yokwesaba. Emva kancinci, xa umama egulisa, uqala ukuthetha ngaphandle kokuyeka. Umsebenzi wabazali ukuxelela umntwana ukuba akuyona into ethetha ngayo, kodwa njani kunye noko athethayo.
- Imidlalo yePuzzles . Ngokudla ukudlala nomntwana kumdlalo, apho kufuneka ucinge ngako konke ukuhamba okanye isenzo. "Impendulo yombuzo", iigrafle, iipuzzles, i-charades - isisombululo esihle. Buza umntwana ukuba enze into engabandakanyi ithuba lokuthetha. Umzekelo, vumela kwiphephancwadi ukhethe igama elithile okanye umbala ngombala oyithandayo.
- Imfihlelo kunye neemfihlo. Abantwana bathanda ukuba ngabagcini
iintlobo ezahlukahlukeneyo zemfihlelo. Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba "ugcine umlomo wakho uvaliwe" ngokubhala uluhlu olungenakuxoxwa nabo ngaphandle kweluhlu lweemfihlelo. Kutheni na ugogokazi emnyango bengayazi apho uyise usebenza khona kwaye uninzi kangakanani, ngaba abazali bakhe baxabana kwaye ngubani oza kukubona izolo? Ingane iya kuziva ngathi i-ejenti eyimfihlo, kwaye uza kuzigcina kunye nosapho lwakho kwiingxoxo.
Ukuba imeko ayitshintshi ixesha, kwaye umntwana uyaqhubeka exoxa ngaphandle kokuyeka, zithobe! Uhlobo lwakhe. Ihlala kuphela kwiimeko ezigqithiseleyo ukuba zisebenzise i-toffee okanye i-candy, leyo, nokuba imizuzu embalwa, iza kuzigcina emlonyeni.