Yintoni endiyenzayo xa indoda yam isetyenziswe?

Kweli hlabathi lanamhlanje, nangona uphuhliso olukhawulezayo lwenkqubo yezobuchwepheshe, impembelelo yomlingo kwizimo zengqondo zabantu iyakhula. Iyenzeka ebomini kwaye, xa ngokukhawuleza umyeni onothando uphambukela kumfazi kwaye ushiya intsapho , njengokungathi uyamangaliswa omnye umfazi.

Siza kuzama ukucinga ukuba yintoni enokuyenza xa indoda isetyenzisiwe nendlela yokusabela ngayo kuyo.

Okokuqala, qwalasela iimpawu, ezibonisa ukuba ubuxoki buphazamise ubomi bakho. Emva koko, akusoloko kubanda kwiindawo zomntu onokungqina ukuba wayexhotyiswe yimpembelelo yomlingo. Mhlawumbi ufuna nje ixesha lokucinga kakhulu kwaye ngoku akunakulungele ukumbuza malunga nantoni na.

Ndingayichazela njani ukuba indoda yam iyandiqhayisa?

Makhe siqwalasele ngokubanzi iinkcukacha eziphambili, eziza kukunika impendulo kumbuzo othi "njani ukufumanisa ukuba umyeni wam wayeshenxisiwe."

1. Okokuqala kunye nenye yeempawu eziphambili ngumdla oqinileyo lomlingane kumntu owunqambileyo. Ekuqaleni lo mdla awubonakali kakhulu, kodwa kungekudala uphenduka ube mania. Kungekudala umyeni wakho ubonisa ukungakhathaleli kuyo yonke into, ukunganakwa, kodwa kungekhona kumntu ombethe umlingo. Ukulangazelela kwakhe imicimbi yentsapho, abantwana kunye nokukhanga ngokucacileyo kumntu onoxanduva lokuthandana, uyamlila. Into ebangel 'umdla kukuba indoda ayikwazi ukuvavanya imeko ngokucacileyo, iyaqonda ukuba yonke into eyenzeka ngaphambili iyenzeka nayo. Ngexesha elifanayo, uthando oluphambili lubhekisela njengobonakaliso beemvakalelo zinyani, ezazihlala zihlala emphefumlweni wakhe.
2. Umfazi aze atyelele kulowo otyunjweyo, kwaye, ngokukhawuleza, uqhubela kuyo.
3. Ukuze uqonde indlela yokuqonda ukuba umyeni wakhe wayetyunyiwe, kufuneka ujonge umlingane womlingane. Itshintsha yonke imizuzu. Ukuziphatha, ukungahambelani ngokungahambelani, ukungabikho kwengqondo. Intuitively, ungayibona.
4. Le ndoda iwela kwiimeko ezixinezelekileyo .
5. Ekhaya, yonke imicimbi yentsapho yakho iya kuhamba.

Indlela yokubuyisela umyeni othandekayo?

1. Indlela efanelekileyo yokubuyisela umyeni kwintsapho kukuba uthanda umlingo. Oku kuphela kufuneka kusetyenziswe ukuba kukho ukuvisisana ngaphambi kokupeliswa kwintsapho yakho.
2. Ukuba uye waba neengxabano kunye nomyeni wakho, kuyafaneleka ukuhlalutya ubuhlobo bakho. Hlola ngokuvisisana nokuziphatha kwakho kunye nokuziphatha komyeni wakho.
3. Ngaphambi kokuba uqhube isithethe, qaphela indlela indoda eziphatha ngayo. Kufuneka ugcine uxhumano lomzwelo kunye nomzimba. Ngenxa yesithethe sothando, sebenzisa umfanekiso weqabane. Sebenzisa i-lapel kwinto ekhongayo, ngoko wenze isithethe sokukhusela.

Makhe siqwalasele ngokubanzi inkcazo yeso sithethe siquka:

Umcimbi kufuneka uhlale uqhutywe ngumyeni wakhe.

Okokuqala kufuneka ukutyala umthi omncinane kufuphi nomthi wakho. Ukuba uyayazi igama lomntu oye wahlala entliziyweni yomlingane wakho, kwaye igama lihambelana neyakho, uze utshale i-spruce.

Emva koko kufuneka uthandaze kuyingcwele yakho. Umthandazo uya kubonakala ngathi:

"Thandaza kuThixo ngenxa yam, ongcwele oyiNgcwele kaThixo (igama elingcwele), njengoko ndihamba ngokukhawuleza kuwe, i-ambulensi kunye nencwadi yomthandazo ngomphefumlo wam."

Funda isalathwana ngentsasa yeentsuku ezingama-40 ezilandelelanayo:

Ndivuka ekuseni, isiphambano sam esingcwele kum. UMama uMhlaba uphambi kwam, uMsindisi uKristu unami. Hamba, ukulangazelela, ukudabuka, ukude, kude, fumana umkhonzi wam kaThixo (igama lakhe), thabatha umgca ngakwesobunxele, usizise kumnyango wam. Wena, idemon, musa. Wena, umkhonzi kaThixo (igama lomlingani), musa ukuvuya. INkosi ihamba nam, Umhlaba uphambi kwam. Nangona lo mthi uza kuphila, umkhonzi kaThixo (igama lomphikisana) kunye nekhoboka likaThixo (igama lomyeni) alikho kunye. Isimboli esingcwele, isithsaba sikaThixo, uMama weCheese Earth, kunye nomkhonzi kaThixo (igama lomyeni), kuphela mna. Isitshixo, ukhiye, ulwimi. Ngonaphakade naphakade. Amen. Amen. Amen.

Ngesandla, kufuneka ubambe umhlaba omncinci, owawuthathwa kufuphi nomthi owawutyala.

Ihlabathi elincinci kule mihla engama-40 ipakishe kwisikhwama, kwaye Xa ixesha lokufunda iqhinga liphelile, liphose ilizwe eduze kwendlu eyonakalisa intsapho yakho.

Ungakulibali ukuba ixesha lokufunda, funda "uBawo wethu" ngamaxesha alithoba ngokuhlwa.

Into ephambili ebomini bakho abantu abangenelisekanga abanempembelelo yamagqirha abazange baphazamise, badibanise ubudlelwane phakathi kwendlu, babale ukuxabana kunye nezikhalazo.

Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba ukwenzela ukuthintela abantu abangonwabi abaneempembelelo zemilingo ekuphazamiseni ebomini bakho, ukudala ubudlelwane obuvumelanayo endlwini, ukulibala malunga neengxabano kunye nezikhalazo.