Ukuba uqaphela ukuba inhlanhla ebomini bakho yinto engapheliyo, kuya kuba luncedo ukuphendukela kwiindlela ezingezizo zendalo zokufuna izizathu. Kukho ithuba lokuba ukuze usungula ubomi bomntu, kufuneka ususe ukutshatyalaliswa kwedwa - unokukwazi ukuzenza.
Ulwaphulo-mthetho ukusila: izizathu kunye neempawu
Ngethuba lethu, xa bambalwa abantu abakholelwa ekubhubhiseni kunye noqhinga, kukho abo basayisebenzisa. Ngokuqhelekileyo ukubeka umonakaliso kumdlali omhle, intshaba elide, nokuba ngumhlobo osondeleyo - ngoko kunzima ukuqagela ngaluphi uhlangothi olumele ulinde ukubetha. Emva kokuba umonakalo owenziwe, le ntokazi ibodwa kwaye ayibangele nayiphi na inzala kwisini esahlukileyo-okanye, ubuncinane, kunye nabameli abafanelekileyo.
Ngokungafani nesithsaba se-celibacy, loo njongo ichaphazela kuphela umntu owenziwe. Isithsaba se-celibacy sinokudluliswa zizizukulwana.
Iimpawu zomonakalo onjalo zigqamile, kwaye unokukwazi ukubona ukuba oko kwenzeka kuwe:
- Unomdla, unobulumko, uhlakaniphile kwaye unemihlali, uzibukele ngokugqibeleleyo wena, kodwa ixesha elide ngaphandle kwama-cavaliers.
- Nomaphi apho uvela khona, awuxhaphali ngesini esahlukileyo, nangona ukhangeleka kakuhle.
- Inkosikazi yakho iya kuba izidakwa, izidakamizwa zamachiza, i-psychopaths, njl.
- Ubudlelwane abuhlali kwaye bu thembisa.
- Uhlala uphuma kwaye unamava amaninzi aqhelekileyo, kodwa akukho namnye wabo ofuna ubuhlobo nawe.
Ukuba uninzi lwale miqondiso lu malunga nawe, zama ukufumana abantu abaqhelanisayo kakuhle ukuba uya kukwazi ukucacisa ukuxilongwa kwaye mhlawumbi unike uncedo.
Fumana ukuba umonakalo uyasuswa, unakho kalula: emva kohlu lwemiba ubomi bakho buya kutshintsha, abantu abatsha baya kubonakala kuyo. Kubalulekile ukwenza ngokwakho: ukutyelela ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwiindawo ezixubileyo, kumacandelo, kunye nje kwisitalato, ukwandisa amathuba okudibana nomntu onyanisekileyo.
Ulwaphulo-mthetho ukuba lube yedwa: njani ukususa?
Ukuba uzimisele ukuxilongwa, kodwa awufuni ukufaka isicelo kwiingcali, unokususa umonakalo ekhaya. Into yokuqala okufuneka uyenze kulo mzekelo kukukhangela ngenyameko indlu, ekhangele kuzo zonke ikhonkco, emva kokubeka iiglavu zasemakhaya kuqala. Ukhangele izinto ezinokukrokra: iimbombo, izikhonkwane, ibhola yemicu, iibhegi zetyuwa okanye i-croup. Yonke into oyifumanayo, kufuneka utyumle, utshise, uthele amanzi angcwele kwaye uphonye ngaphandle - kwaye ulunge ngakumbi.
Khumbula xa kufika ilungu. Ngaba ukhohliwe izinto ngelo xesha, awuzange ufumane izipho? Musa ukucinga ngabantu abakude: ngokuqhelekileyo loo ndawo ihlaselwe ngumhlobo osondeleyo. Ukuba ukhumbule ezo ziqendu, ezi zinto zifuna ukutshiswa. Ukuba ujikeleze ngexesha elifanayo ufumene into yokugqoka okanye uthenge naziphi izinto kunye nezinto ezisetyenzisiweyo - zilahleke. Kungcono ukumema umbingeleli okanye uhlambulule indlu ngekhandlela kunye namanzi angcwele. Emva koko, uya kubona ngokukhawuleza utshintsho ebomini bakho.
Ulwaphulo-mthetho ukuba lube yedwa: njani ukususa amanzi?
Susa umonakalo ekhaya ngeyona ndlela. Ngokuqhelekileyo kuqhutyelwa ukuba akukho zilingo ezifunyenwe endlwini, njl. Lo mkhosi uhambelana namanzi, kwaye unceda kakhulu ukuba ukutshatyalaliswa kuhanjiswe kumanzi.
Uya kuyidinga amanzi, uhlawuliswe ngamandla afanelekileyo - umzekelo, ungcweliswe ecaweni okanye uthathwe emthonjeni wamanzi angcwele. Geza ngelinen, susula amehlo akho, uthi: "Ingqondo icacile, intloko iqaqambile, kuba yayiyiyo - yishiya ngonaphakade."
Ukongezelela, ukuba ususe ukuphangwa, uza kufumana umkhuseli okhuselayo, kuba amanzi angcwele iyintetho enamandla kakhulu. Ngaphambili wenze i-rite, ngcono. Emva koko, zama ukufumanisa ukuba ngubani onokumonakalisa umonakalo. Kodwa ukuphikisana nalo mntu akufanelekanga, zama nje ukubuyela emva kwaye ungathethi.