Ihlabathi le-gloss kunye nemifanekiso, ekhethiweyo ne-Photoshop, ilahlekisa, iyalula imigaqo yayo kwaye inokubangela ukuba abaninzi banzima kwi-shape yayo. Ngako kunjalo ngaba ngabafazi abaye bazala amanqaku atyulayo, isisu esiswini, izithanga ezipheleleyo kufuneka zibheke zibi?
Umfaki-zithombe waseMelika waseChicago, u-Ashley Wells Jackson, ngoncedo lweefoto zakhe, ufuna ukufikelela kuluntu, kulabo bavelele abasandul 'umama.
"Khawubheke nje kwisibuko kunye namanye amehlo! Ulungile, ungumthombo wokuphefumlelwa. Kuphela kufuneka uzithande ukuba ungubani. Ihla nge 90-60-90, imigangatho yokukhohlisa yobuhle. Ngamnye wethu ngumntu ngamnye, elowo ngendlela yakhe enhle, "- umdali weprojekthi" 4 trimester. Umzimba wesifazana emva kokubeleka ", ejolise ekuncediseni oomama abatsha ukuba bazithande baze baziqhenyise ngomfanekiso wabo, baqale ukuzonwabisa ngexesha lokuba ngumama.
Le projekthi yabonakala ngo-2013. Ukudalwa kwakhe komfaki-zithombe wayephefumlelwe ngokuzala kwakhe, abantwana. "Ngo-2000, ndandithwele umntwana wam wokuqala. Kuye kwacetywa ukuzalwa ekhaya, kodwa ngeveki ezingama-28 ndaqalisa ukuchasana, kwaye kwafuneka ndiye esibhedlele. Unyana wam wachitha iintsuku ezingama-46 kwinqununu yokukhathalela. Emva kweminyaka engama-6, ndikhulelwe ngamantombazana amawele. Ngeveki yama-24 ndanyanzeliswa ukuba ne-carear. Ngenxa yoko, enye intombi ayizange iphile, kwaye iintsuku eziyi-100 zichithwa ngononophelo olunzulu, kwaye kwakudingeka ukuba zenze usebenze kwingqondo ukuze zonyango i-hydrocephalus. Emva kokuzalwa, umzimba wam ushintshile. Ndayeka ukuzibamba. Ngokuqhelekileyo eshazini wayezibandakanya ngokugxeka, akucaci ukuba kutheni, wazithukuthelela. Ukukrazula le mvakalelo emibi, ndidale le projekthi. Ndandifuna ukuba abafazi abanjengaye babelane nabanye ngamava abo, bafunda kunye nokwamkela, "u-Ashley uthe. Yintoni eyenziwe yiprojekthi esebenzayo, ungabona ngezansi.
1. Ngamnye wethu ngomntu uye waba yihlabathi eliphela, indawo yonke.
2. Ubomi ngethuba elihle kunazo zonke kubomi bomfazi.
3. Akukho nto ilungileyo kunegama elithi "unina".
4. Kulula kakhulu ukuthanda umzimba wakho.
5. Umzimba wesibhozo zonke iinyanga ezili-9 yindlu epholileyo yobomi obutsha.
6. Ubuhle bokwenene abukho emzimbeni, kodwa ekukhanyeni kwentliziyo.
7. Ixesha elizayo lohlanga lusezandleni zonina.
8. Kukhona italente ekhethekileyo-italente yobubele.
9. Ukubeleka kunzima kakhulu kumsebenzi, kuzisa uvuyo.
10. Ukubeleka kubona kunzima kakhulu kumsebenzi, kodwa kunika uvuyo olukhulu.
Isipho esona sihle kunazo zonke kwihlabathi sikummotheka ummangaliso omncinci.
12. Akukho nto enhle kwaye enhle ngaphezu kokuthinta umama.
13. Ukuba ngumama sizathu esona sizathu sokuba umntu angafanelanga ukuzibulala.
14. Uthando lomama luyisipho sangempela esisithunyelwe sisentla.
15. Umama ngumhlobiso oyintloko wowesifazane.
16. Into ekhangelelana nothando ibonakala ihle.
17. Kwindoda yonke into enhle kwimimitha yelanga kunye nobisi lomama.
18. Ukususela kumntwana ekuzalweni, intliziyo yomfazi iqala ukubetha kwelinye isifuba.
19. Ngokukhawuleza xa umntwana evakalelwa kukuba unina uyavuya kwaye uyazinyamekela, kuya kuba kuhle kuye.
20. Akukho mculo omnandi ngaphezu kokuhleka kwabantwana.
21. Ukuba unabantwana, uyazi isizathu sokuba uhlala.
22. Unina ngumfuziselo wegama lengelosi.
23. Abantwana bayizikhonkwane zabo bonke oomama.
24. Ngokufika komntwana, uyaqonda ukuba uthando alupheli.
25. Intsana ihlala ikhumbula unina ngokumomotheka.
26. Intsapho enothando kunye nomama ovuyayo yinto abantwana abayidingayo.
27. Umzimba wesetyhini uhlala uhle - uvelise ubomi obutsha kwihlabathi.
28. Into kuphela indoda engayikhohlwayo yiphunga lomama.
29. Ngokuqala koomama, ngamnye wethu uba ngowesifazane kwaye uyamhle.
30. Ukufumana ukungafi - oko kuthetha ntoni xa abantwana bevela.
31. Uthando lwabantwana luthembekile kakhulu kwihlabathi.
32. Ukuba ufuna ukwazi indlela iingelosi ezibukeka ngayo, jonga umntwana wakho.
33. Ngamnye umntwana uthatha unina ukuba unobulumko kakhulu, unona mhle kunabo bonke kwaye unamandla kunabo bonke.
34. Kuphela abantwana bakhe banokuba banhle kunabesifazane.
35. Umama ungcwele.
36. Umthandazo kaMama uthatha ukusuka elwandle.
37. Ukukhulelwa kunika ibhinqa ithuba lokwenza ihlabathi libe lihle, likhanyise kwaye libubele.
38. Ibhinqa elinomntwana lihlala li nera ekhethekileyo.
39. Abazali bayavuya xa abantwana babo bevuya.
40. Abantwana kuqala bahlala phantsi kwentliziyo, kwaye ke baba yintliziyo efanayo.
41. Wonke umfazi unomfazi omhle. Kufuneka ukwazi ukuzibona kuwe.