Ngoku kungakafiki umbuzo ophuthumayo: indlela yokukhulisa unyana oyindoda yangempela. Kwimveli yanamhlanje, amakhwenkwe akhuliswa ngokukodwa ngabasetyhini, ngoko kunzima ukuba bafumane iimpawu zesintu. Kwi- kindergarten, ootitshala kunye nabanini abachaphazelekayo kwimfundo, uninzi lwabafundisi besikolo ngabasetyhini. Kodwa konke okufanayo, iimpawu eziphawulekayo zibekwe kwintsapho. Ngoko ke, abazali bafanele bazi ukuba bavelise njani unyana unyana.
Yintoni oyifunayo oku?
- Ukususela esemncinci kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba umqeqeshe umntwana ukuba azimele. Myalele ukuba enze yonke imisebenzi eyenziwa yintsapho, zifundise ukuba ugqoke, ulungele umbhede wakho, uhlambulule itafile.
- Awukwazi ukumisa inyana yonyana, umvumele ukuba enze into encedo, kodwa kubonakala ngathi awukwazi ukunyanzela umntwana. Makuphelise ngekomiti ephukileyo okanye ngamanzi achithekileyo, kodwa kungamaxesha onke amacandelo kunye noluhlu lweentsilelo ezifihlakeleyo ukuba imfihlo yendlela yokukhulisa indodana.
- Kubaluleke kakhulu ukudumisa unyana / inkwenkwe rhoqo. Bonke abantu kufuneka bazive beyimfuneko kwaye bancedo. Udumo oluqhelekileyo luphakamisa ukuzithemba kwenkwenkwe kwaye kukhuthaza ukuzithemba.
- Abo bangakwazi ukuphakamisa indoda kwindodana yabo, bakholelwa ukuba kufuneka bafundise le nkwenkwe ukuba ingabi nokukhala kunye nokuziphatha kwayo ngokugqithiseleyo. Kodwa oku kakubi. Umntwana omncinci akwazi ukubonisa iimvakalelo ngaphandle kwezinyembezi, ngoko akufanele utyhalele, kodwa ufundise indlela yokujongana necala. Ukunyaniseka kuyadingeka, kodwa ngokumodareyitha, mhlawumbi umntwana angakhula, angabi nantoni okanye angatshitshiswa.
- Ungalokothi umemeza ngunyana wakho, ungamthi, kwaye ungamthobeli nayiphi na indlela. Ukuthobela oku akuyi kufezwa, ngokuchaseneyo, kuya kuba nzima.
- Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba anakekele abo bathathaka kuye. Unokumthengela isilwanyana, kuya kunceda ukuvelisa umthwalo wemfanelo. Kwaye ukuphuhliswa kweempawu zobuntu kubalulekile ukufundisa ukunika indawo abafazi, ukubanceda.
- Kuye unyana wakho wakhula indoda eyinyani, kubalulekile ukumfundisa ukuba adlale imidlalo. Yenza imihla ngemihla ukuhlawula, ukukhuthaza imidlalo yangaphandle, ubhale kwicandelo lezemidlalo. Kuyinto enqwenelekayo ukuba sele isekwe ngaphambi kokuba isikolo ihambe, inkwenkwe iyakhweba ibhasikidi kwaye idlale imidlalo ethile yemidlalo.
- Kwaye ngokubaluleke kakhulu, yintoni abazali abafanele bayenze kumntwana wabo kukumthanda. Inkwenkwe, ingakumbi ebuntwaneni bayo, kufuneka ifumane i-caress kunye nokunyamekela. Ungesabi ukumbamba kunye nokumanga umntwana, xa ekhula, uya kukhanyela, ngoko akufanele umphoqe. Yaye ukuba umntwana omncinci akhula engenamthando, akaze afunde ukuthanda nokunyamekela abanye abantu.
Kuphela kwintsapho epheleleyo kunye nobudlelwane obuqhelekileyo phakathi kwabatshatileyo bayazi indlela yokukhulisa indodana yindoda. Kuye kwaziwa ixesha elide ukuba ukuqaphela nokuziphatha akuyona indlela yokufundisa. Ngomzekelo wakhe kuphela unokufundisa umntwana into ethile. Ngoko ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba akukho mpikiswano kwintsapho. Ungalokothi uxabane nomntwana wakho kwaye ungaphosisi, mhlawumbi uya kuziphatha kwiimeko ezifanayo. Kulo ntsapho ukuba isiseko somlingana wenkwenkwana, isimo sakhe sengqondo ebomini kunye nemibono yakhe. Kwaye indima ephambili kulo mdlalo idlalwe ngupapa.
Indima kayise ekukhuliseni unyana wakhe
Enyanisweni, ukuya kwiminyaka emithathu umntwana ukhuliswe ngumama ongundoqo, kodwa ukuba ufuna ukuba unyana akhule ukuba abe ngumntu wokwenene,
Kubalulekile ukuba inkwenkwe ifunde ukulungisa amathoyizi kunye noyise, ukunyanzelisa izikhonkwane okanye ukuncedisa iibhegi. Emva kweminyaka emi-5-6, qiniseka ukuba ushiye uyihlo nendodana isikhashana ngaphandle kwakho konke. Bamele babe neemfihlelo zabo zesintu kunye nemicimbi yabantu. Khuthaza umdlalo odibeneyo, umzekelo, ukuloba, ukudweba okanye ukulungiswa kwemoto. Bonke abazali bafanele bazi indlela yokukhulisa inkwenkwe indoda eyinyani. Kwaye emva kobudala obukufutshane nabo baya kuhlala bencedisayo.