Yiyiphi ibhinqa ayifuni ukuba yodwa kwaye iyingqayizivele kumntu wayo? Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba "uyamthanda" umlingane wakhe, ngokwenene akamvumeli ukuba ahambe kwaye ahambe, okukhokelela kumphumo ochasene ngokupheleleyo kunye nokulahlekelwa ngumntu obiza. Indlela yokuba ngumthande kwaye ufuna ukuqwalasela kweli nqaku.
Indlela yokuthandwa nokufunwa yindoda?
Okokuqala, ukukhula ngokwayo iimpawu zowesifazane - ukukhuseleka, ubuthathaka, ukhuseleko, njl njl. Kwixesha lobuchwepheshe obutsha, kuyaqhelekile ukulinganisa amadoda nabasetyhini abaneempawu ezifanayo. Kodwa ukuba umfazi akafuni ukukhuphisana nomlingane wakhe, kwaye ekugqibeleni alahlekelwe yintlonelo kunye nomdla wakhe njengomntu olahlekileyo, kufuneka azi kakuhle ukuba ungumfazi wokwenene-kwaye uyafuna ukukhuselwa, kungekhona ukuphikisana. Kuloo nto kuthiwa ngababingeleli namhlanje, bekhalaza ukuba abafazi ngeendlela ezininzi baqala ukudlala i-violin yokuqala kwintsapho, bephethe indima yindoda kwintsapho - umcebisi kunye nomkhuseli.
Abo banomdla wendlela yokukhanga kunye nokuthandwa, kufuneka benze konke ukugcina umdla womlingane. Njani ukwenza oku? Fumana i-hobby, i- hobby . Ungabhalisa kumdaniso okanye kwiklasi yeelwimi zangaphandle. Akunandaba, into ephambili kukuba kwakukho into yokuxoxa ngalo ngokuhlwa ngokudliwayo ngaphezu kokubonisa okuthandayo kunye nephupha lakhe lokugqibela. Awukwazi ukugqiba ngokupheleleyo kwimicimbi kunye nempilo yabantu bakho, uthathe indima yomama onakekelayo. Kubalulekile ukufumana intsingiselo yegolide phakathi kokungahoywa ngokupheleleyo kunye nokucwiliswa okupheleleyo ebomini lakho.
Unokufunwa njani kumthandayo?
Okokuqala, ukuzihlonela, kuba elinye ixesha elinye xa umfazi evuma ukungahloneli, unokuphelisa ulwalamano. Awukwazi ukugijima emva komntu, umbize uze umhlambele ukuze uncede. Kwindoda enjalo, indoda ilahlekelwa ngumdla ngokukhawuleza kwaye wonke umntu ofuna ukwazi ukuba ngumntu onqwenelekayo kumntu othandekayo kufuneka akhumbule oku. Kusoloko kuyimfuneko ukugcina ubudlelwane obunjani bokungena phantsi kunye nemfihlelo, ukuvuyisa umcabango wendoda yakhe, ukuba yenzeke kwaye ngexesha elifanayo lilinge.
Zibambelele kumdla wesondo, kodwa ungafumaneki. Amadoda athanda abesifazana abathokozelayo, kulula ukunyuka, ubomi obumnandi nabonwabileyo. Ukufudumala kunye nokudibanisa, bayakuphepha umgca, ngoko ibona elivuniweyo liye lishiya ixesha elide, ukuba awufuni ukulahlekelwa ngumhlobo wakho. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukukwazi ukuphulaphula iqabane kunye nokumdumisa, kodwa ungadluli.