Naliphi na umntu onokumisela ukusuka kwintlanganiso yokuqala ukuba uyayithanda isini esahlukileyo. Oku kunokwenziwa ngoncedo lwezinto ezibizwa ngokuba yimpawu ezifihliweyo. Ngombulelo kwimpawu , iimpawu kunye nesimo sombuso siyacaca. Ukujonga okulula kunye nentetho encinci kunokuthetha kakhulu. Kule nqaku, siqokelele iimpawu zesondo ezifihliweyo.
Izibonakaliso zesondo zabantu
- Xa umntu ethinta iincwele zakhe, uthinta umqala wakhe, ulungisa intambo yakhe, ngegama-pretties, ibonisa ukubonakalisa isihawu. Kwakhona, oku kungaboniswa ngunyana womlenze, uphendukele kwisikhokelo sakho. Kodwa musa ukuqalisa ukuvuya ngaphambi kwexesha-oku kungenomdla olula, mhlawumbi ishishini.
- Unomdla kakhulu unokuziva uvelwano kuwe, ukuba umntu uyavuya kakhulu ngentlanganiso yakho. Oku kunokuthiwa ngoomotheka, uvuyo emehlweni kunye nobuso obunobungane. Izibonakaliso zesini zesini zithandwa kakhulu, ngoko phantse zonke iintombazana ziqonda ngokukhawuleza into ephosakeleyo.
- Ukuba izandla zendoda ziphantsi kakhulu, le nto ibonisa umdla wesondo. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba uyabamba izandla zakhe ezinqeni okanye kule ndawo. Kule meko, amadoda ayesoloko ebeka iinyawo zawo, ebonisa intshukumo yesondo. Ukuba iintendelezo zezandla zakhe ziphendukele kwicala lenu, le yimiqondiso engqalileyo. Kule meko, awukwazi ukukhangela i-subtext.
- Xa umntu evala kuwe, umzekelo, uwela iingalo kunye nemilenze, ufihle izandla kunye neentende, oku akukhulumiyo kuwe. Kodwa musa ukucaphukisa, mhlawumbi le miqondiso ibangelwa ezinye, izizathu ezingaphandle.
- Xa umntu ethinta indlebe okanye ezinye iindawo zobuso bakhe, oku kubonisa ukungapheli. Kule meko, kungcono ukuyeka ukuthetha okanye ukuxoxa ngesinye isihloko.
- Ukuba udibanisa iqhosha, oku kungumqondiso oqinisekileyo ukuba uyakuthanda. Ukubamba isandla ngokufanelekileyo kuthetha into efanayo. Xa umntu ebeka izandla zakhe emhlane okanye ehlombe, akafuni ukulahlekelwa nguwe. Mhlawumbi oku akukokuhle, kodwa uthetha ngokucacileyo umdla wakhe.
Imiqondiso yesondo yabasetyhini
- Umnxeba osondeleyo uthetha ngokuqhelekileyo umdla. Le ntombazana ingaze ifune ukuba isondele kwaye ichukumise into oyithandayo. Lo mqondiso unamandla kakhulu; kukho kuye ukuba singakwazi ukufumana izigqibo ezifanelekileyo.
- Umdlalo kunye neenwele uphinde uthethe ngomdla okwandayo. Ngaloo ndlela, umfazi uzama ukunyamezela abanye, okanye kumnye umntu. Unokudlala kunye nemihlobiso, ivela ngokusemthethweni, kuba indoda ayithandayo yenza ube nexhala. Abafazi abangakumbi abavuthiweyo bangadlala ngengozi ngeemzobo ukuze bawunake nayiphi na inxalenye yomzimba.
- Ukuba ebusweni bendoda intombazana ibonakalisa ngengozi ihlombe lakhe okanye ibona ibhokhwe, ayiyi kulungisa nantoni na. Unako ukuphosa iinwele zakhe, ubonise intamo yakhe. Ezi zimpawu zesini kwaye zicele ukuba zenzele ingqalelo.
- Ukuba intombazana ihleka ihlaya lomfana, mhlawumbi sele iphumelele inxalenye yesantya. Ukuqhaqhaqhaqhaqhaqhaqha kunokuthetha kwakhona ngovelwano. Ukuba uyonwabile, kwaye uziphatha ngendlela engumntwana, uyamthanda.
- Kwimpumelelo kunokuthi utshintsho oluqhelekileyo lwezithuba okanye xa iisokisi zenyawo zijoliswe kumntu abathandayo. Ukujonga imilinganiselo kunye nokuzibonakalisa komntu kubonisa ukuba,
ukuba le ntokazi ibhekiswe kunye naye kumatshini ofanayo. Ngelo xesha, unokukwenza ngokungazi. - Xa uthetha nendoda enhle, ibhinqa liyakwazi ukuluqhawula. Kodwa ukuba uyayifaka isandla sayo kunye nezandla zakhe kwaye iphendukele ngasemva, ngoko ayikhathaleli.
Iimpawu zesini zesini kunye neyesini zineengxaki ezahlukeneyo, kodwa yonke into yazo zonke. Xa ugqiba iimpawu zesondo ezifihlakeleyo, sinokucebisa ukuba uqwalasele imeko, i-degree of trust kunye nezinye izinto ezifihlakeleyo, kuba ezi ndlela zingasentla azibonakalisi uvelwano. Ngako oko, ngaphambi kokuba uguqule indlela yokuziphatha ngesini esahlukileyo, ufanelekile ukuxhoba ngokufanelekileyo.