Ngokutsho kweengcaphephe, intsimi yamandla yamadoda nabasetyhini inomlinganiselo omkhulu, ukuba ngaba kukholwa ukuba amadoda anamandla okukhanya kwelanga, kunye nabasetyhini-inyanga, emele ihlaziye kwaye ipholile. Nangona kunjalo, ubomi bunjalo kangangokuba umfazi usoloko echitha amandla amaninzi kunokuba ayifumana. Ngoko ke, ngenxa yesimo esiqhelekileyo esingokomzimba nesengqondo, ukuzaliswa kwayo kuyadingeka, kwaye omnye kufuneka azi ukuba ukwandisa amandla amabhinqa. Kodwa okokuqala kubalulekile ukumisela ukuba kutheni abesifazane beswele amandla.
Silahlekelwa phi amandla?
Iingcali zengqondo zikholelwa ukuba ukulahleka kwamandla kunye nokunciphisa amandla angabangela ukuba:
- iingcinga eziqhubekayo malunga naluphi na iingxaki;
- ayifakwe ekupheleni kwalo mbandela;
- ukukhathala okwaneleyo, okukhokelela ekuxinezelekeni , ukuxinezeleka, ukwanda kwentukuthelo, umsindo kunye nobudlova;
- Iingcali zithi zilimaza i-movie yamashishini yamabhinqa abukela amafilimu ama-horror, ama-militants kunye ne-melodramas yentsapho, kunye neenkqubo zolwazi kunye nemiboniso yezopolitiko, exoxa ngezinto ezintle zobomi;
- uthatha inani elininzi lombane umnqweno wokunyuka kwinqanaba lomsebenzi ngeendlela zonke;
- ukunxibelelana kunye nosapho kunye nabahlobo, abanoombane bamandla, nabo banciphisa amandla amandla omfazi;
- zichaphazeleke kakhulu ngokutya okungalunganga;
- Impilo ebuthakathaka nayo iyanciphisa inani layo elincinci.
Funda indlela yokomeleza amandla oomama, unako ngokuqhagamshelana neengcali. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba akukho nto inokwenzeka, okanye uthatha isigqibo sokwenza impilo yakho ngaphandle kokuncediswa kwangaphandle, lasela iingcebiso eziya kunceda ukubuyisela amandla omfazi, umsebenzi kunye nenjabulo yobomi.
Yintoni ebangela ukuba ukwanda kwamandla?
Lo msebenzi udinga ingqalelo kunye nomonde. Ukuze uphendule umbuzo wokuphakamisa kwamandla amabhinqa, iingcebiso kunye neengcebiso zeengqondo zengqondo kunye noogqirha baya kunceda:
- Kufuneka uzenzele ingqalelo ngokwakho ngokuya kwiiklasi ekuziphatheni, ukubhukuda, i-yoga, kwaye ungalibali malunga neenkqubo zokumisa;
- ukwandisa isangqa soqhagamshelwano, fumana abahlobo abatsha ngeemvakalelo ezintle, izinto zokuzonwabisa eziqhelekileyo kunye nezihloko ezimnandi zengxoxo;
- Ukuze kube njalo kwiimeko: ukuqhuba ekuseni, ukuhamba epakini, isikwere;
- fumana isazi se-psychologist-isilumko-mfazi kunye nexesha elizayo uze ufumane iingcebiso okanye uthintane kwi-inthanethi;
- rhoqo uhlambulule indlu, ukuphosa izinto ezindala, amaphephancwadi, amathoyizi athuliweyo, izipho ezingadingekile, ngaloo ndlela ukhulula indlela yokucoca amandla;
- xa kunokwenzeka, ncedisa abahlwempu; ngelixa kungengombuzo wokunyanga kweemali ezigunyazayo: phatha ummelwane omhle ngamapayi - kwaye ukubulela kwakhe kukunikezela ngenkonzo ebalulekileyo ekuzaliseni amandla;
- zizithande: funda ukutya okulungileyo, jonga impilo yakho nokubonakala kwakho.
Zonke ezi nyathelo ziya kunceda ukubuyisela amandla amabhinqa kwaye ube nempilo enhle kunye nomoya.