Enye yeempawu zomntu onempilweni ephilileyo i-self-esteem. Yenziwe ngokuxhomekeka kwimeko yomntu, izimvo zabanye, imeko yakhe yentlalo kunye nexesha elide. Ukuzithemba okuphantsi kwamanye amaxesha kunokubakhokwa kulabo baye bafuneka banqobe ubunzima kwixesha elide, nangona ukuba lo mntu unelungelo lokujonga.
Makhe siqwalasele ngokuchanekileyo oko kukuzithemba okuphantsi kwaye kufuneka wenze ntoni ukuba unayo.
Ukuzithemba okuphantsi kunye nezizathu zayo
Umntu onesidima esincinci ahlale engakwazi ukuqonda ukuba kutheni abanye bengamkelekanga ekukhulumeni naye kunye nalapho bafuna khona izizathu zengqondo enjalo.
Kufanelekile ukuphawula ukuba ngamanye amaxesha izimbangela zokuzithemba eziphantsi zibekwa ebuntwaneni bomntu. Ukuba ayishiywanga ingaphendululwa, ngoko ke uninzi lwezinto eziya kukhula, oko kuthetha ukuba ekudala umntu uza kujongana nobudlelwane obunzima kwiqela, intsapho, ukungakwazi ukukhetha umsebenzi wabo, izinto ezizithandayo, njl njl.
Ukuzithemba ngokunyanisekileyo kwintokazi kumbeka kwindawo engavumelekanga kuluntu. Uya kuyika ukuphazamisa umntu, ukukhubekisa into, ngelixa ezama ukuvuyisa abanye. Oku kubangelwa ukwesaba ukulahlwa. Ngenxa yokungabi nantlonelo, kunzima kuye ukuba unomdla, kwaye ke ukugcina, indoda ekhangayo.
Iqondo eliphantsi lokuzithemba lingabangelwa ngamava abuhlungu, emva kokufumana ukuba ngubani, umntu wenqaba ukuzibona ngokwakhe. Le nto ikhupha iziganeko ezimbi ebomini bakhe kwindawo yecandelwana, ekukhawuleza okanye ekuhambeni kwayo iya kuzingca.
Ukuzithemba okuphantsi kunye neempawu zayo
Uphawu oluphambili lokuzithemba okuphantsi kukukwazi ukuthelekisa impumelelo, ukubonakala kwabanye abantu. Ukuzithemba okunjalo ngumkhuba wokuhlala uphazamiseka kukuba "abanye bacinga ntoni ngam?", Ukwesaba ukuba uluntu aluyi kuqonda kwaye lwamkele uxolo lwalo lwangaphakathi, umdla. Umntu uvame ukukhumbula ukungaphumeleli kokuphila kwakhe, amathuba akhethiweyo. Ngamanye amaxesha uqala ukuzixolisa, ukuba emva kwexesha uhlakulele ukukwazi ukuphila ubomi bakhe.
Imiqondiso yangaphandle yokuzithoba:
- Inkcazo yokunxibelelana.
- Ukoma okweqile kuya kukukholisa wonke umntu kunye nonke.
- Ukunganakwa ngokubonakala.
- I-Stoop.
- Ubuso obubuhlungu.
Ukuzithoba okukhulu kakhulu kubonakalisa ukungakwazi komntu ukwakha ubudlelwane obusondeleyo ebomini bakhe (kuthetha intsingiselo yentsapho kunye nokukhangela abahlobo ).
Ngokuqhelekileyo umntu onjalo ubonakala ngathi ihlabathi elikujikelezayo lichasene naye. Ngengqiqo, uzimisele ukucinga ukuba akanalo nto ayithandayo, ukuba akafanelanga uthando. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, kunzima ukuba aqiniseke ngeemvakalelo kunye neenjongo zeqabane lakhe, abahlobo, amalungu omndeni.
Indlela yokulahla ukuzithoba?
- Ukuze ulahlekise ukuzithemba kwakho kanye kunye nabo bonke, okokuqala, khumbula ukuba ufanele uzithande. Kwaye oku kuthetha ukuba emva koko uza kuthanda ihlabathi.
- Khumbula ukuba ukuze ukholise umntu, ungaze ube yikhophi yomntu, ungayixelisa.
Gcinani umntu ngamnye. - Abantu abanokuzithemba okuphantsi bayakulibala ukuzinyamekela nangona bahlala kwiindonga ezine kunye kunye nabo.
- Jonga ukutya. Hlonipha umzimba wakho. Nika ixesha lakho lokukhulula kwinto enomdla kuninzi.
- Musa ukugijima emva kokuvunywa kwabanye. Zivume njengoko ukhona. Khumbula ukuba ubuntu ngaphakathi kwakho budalwe nguwe kuphela kwaye akukho mntu.
- Kwaye ekugqibeleni, khumbula ukuba ebomini umgaqo wakho oyintloko kufuneka ube: "Ukuthanda, xabisa kwaye uzihlonele."
Ukuzithoba okungekho nto kuzisa utshintsho oluhle ebomini bakho. Yilahle kwaye ujabulele ubomi.