Umntwana ugubungela intloko

Oomama abaninzi abanobuqili baqala ukwethuka, bebheka abantwana babo ukuziphatha okungavamile phambi kwabo. Esinye sezizathu zokuphazamiseka kwabazali kukuba umntwana omncinci uyagubha intloko. Ndifuna ukuqinisekisa ngokukhawuleza umama nobaba: oku kuziphatha kubonakala kubantwana abancinci ukuya kwiminyaka emithathu ubudala. Esi siphumo esiqhelekileyo siqala phakathi kwabantwana abaseneminyaka engama-5-7 ukuya kweenyanga kwaye banokuhlala kwiinyanga eziliqela kunye neminyaka.

Kutheni umntwana egawula intloko?

Iingcali, njengomthetho, zibiza izizathu ezininzi:

• umntwana, ngoko, uzama ukuzola, ukunyakaza okuphindaphindiweyo kunomdla ekuphumuleni kwakhe, ngokuqhelekileyo oku kwenzeka ngaphambi kokulala okanye emva kokutshisa komsindo;
• umncinci uphaphazela aze agubungele intloko ukuze aziphazamise ekuvekeni okungathandekiyo, njengentlungu okanye kwintlungu;
• umntwana uzama ukutsala ingqalelo yabazali;
• Kwiimeko ezinqabileyo kakhulu, oku kuwuphawu lwesifo sokuphuhlisa, umzekelo, autism.

Unokukunceda njani umntwana?

Okokuqala, abazali kufuneka bafumane isizathu sokuba umntwana adibanise intloko yakhe, kwaye ngoko, ekupheliseni isizathu, cinga ngendlela ongakuphepha ngayo ukuphinda ukuphinda nokuziphatha kwesi sibetho. Ukuba umntwana uyagubha intloko yakhe ephupheni okanye xa elele, ke unokuncedwa ngokumisela isithethe esithile sokuhlwa: ukufudumala okufudumeleyo, ukufunda iifrikhi okanye ukuphulaphula umculo ozolileyo. Kwakhona, ngelixa ulala ulala, unako ukusibetha ngenyawo okanye ngasemva, kuya kusindisa kwaye ngelixa udibanisa ikhanda lakho ephupheni.

Umntwana uvame ukugubha intloko ngenxa yokungabikho kwengqalelo kubazali, ngoko kubalulekile ukuba uqinisekise ukuba unelungelo. Gxotha zonke izinto zakho ezibalulekileyo uze udlale kunye nosana, gxotha i-crumb kaninzi kwaye usho indlela oyithandayo ngayo. Ukuba oku akunakunceda, zama ukuba ungagxininisa ekuphatheni komntwana kwaye ungamgxeka, mhlawumbi uyabuhlungu. Kwimeko enjalo, khusela umntwana kwingozi, uqiniseke ukuba ngaphandle kwakhe kwakungekho nto ayenako u buhlungu. Abo bazali abanomntwana ogubungela intloko ngaphambi kokuba alele embhedeni baya kukucebisa ukuba bahlolisise ngokukhawuleza isikhalazo somntwana ngenxa yobuninzi beentloko okanye izigulane, kodwa kungabikho nhlobo ungagubungeli umntwana kunye nemigodi kunye neengubo zokubakho, oku kudala nje ingozi yokuxhatshazwa, iindawo ezincinci ezincinci ezixhomekeke kumacala iiflebhu.

Ukuba umntwana wakho unyikima intloko yakhe ngokungenasikweni, akaphendulanga kwimizamo yakho yokumphazamisa kulo msebenzi, akafuni ukuthetha, akajongi ukujonga, oko kungaba isizathu sokubiza ugqirha, ukwenzela ukuba angabandakanyi ithuba lokuphulwa kwintlalo yakhe. Iimeko ezinjalo ziqabile kakhulu, ngoko ungakhathazeki kwangaphambi kwexesha, kodwa bonisa ingqwalaselo ngakumbi kunye nenkxalabo kubantwana.