Kubonakala ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuba ngumntu onomusa, kufuneka uzalwe kuphela. Kodwa ukuba ube nomnene omncinci, ukunyamekela ngakumbi, ukuphendula ngokubanzi, ezi mpawu zingaphuhliswa ngokwakho, kwaye ngenxa yoko kwengqondo, kukho ukuqeqeshwa okukhethekileyo kunye nokuzivocavoca. Ngaphambi kokuba uqalise ukuphuhliswa kokuphendula ngokomoya, kufuneka ukwazi oku kulandelayo:
- Ukuphendulwa kwangempela kwemvakalelo kufanele kufikelele kuwo wonke umntu, kwaye kungekhona nje kwintandokazi entliziyweni kunye nabathandekayo. Umntu onovelwano uthatha inxaxheba kubo bonke abayifunayo ngokwenene.
- Yonke into ilungileyo ngokumodareyitha, kunye nokuphendula. Ingxaki yokuphendula kukuba ukuphendula ngokugqithiseleyo kunokubangela uxinzelelo oluqhubekayo, ukukhathala kunye neentsholongwane. Siphila kwihlabathi elingaphelele, kwaye akunakwenzeka ukunceda wonke umntu. Yingakho kufuneka ufunde ukubonisa ububele, ukuthatha inxaxheba nokuphendula ngokubanzi, kodwa kungabikho kwingozi yenkqubo yakho yezempilo kunye nempilo. Ngamanye amaxesha ufuna nje u- egoism ophilileyo, oko kukuthi, ububele kunye nokuphendula kwisithandwa sakho, iimfuno zakho kunye neemfuno zakho.
- Khetha, bonisa uvelwano, uvelwano kunye nokuthatha inxaxheba kuphela kwabo bafanelwe. Sonke siyazi ukuba sizungezwe ngabantu abaninzi abanamaqondo abanobuchule. Ngoko akukho nto ibalulekile ukuphonsa umsebenzi wakho kumlingane onokwethenjelwa, ukuthethelela umgangatho ophantsi we-manicure, izinwele okanye izigqoko zokugqoka ezigciniweyo kunye nokunye. Yizilumko, funda ukukhanyela abantu ababi.
- Funda ukubonisa inxaxheba kunye nokuphendula "entliziyweni", kwaye akunjalo. Emva koko, kwenzeka kwakhona ukuba ezi mpawu ngokwenene ziba nje "ukungazi" ububele, izizathu zokuba zifuna ukubizwa ngokuba yizinto ezibucayi, eziza kubakho ubuqu kunye nobuze.
Ukuphendula, isimo sengqondo esinyanisekileyo kubantu - iimpawu ezingenakusiza kuphela kubahlobo, kodwa nakuzo. Kuyaziwa ukuba abantu abanobubi, umona kunye neemeko zengqondo zihlala zihlushwa yi-migraines, zonke iintlobo zesifo sokugula, izifo zentliziyo. Ngokwahlukileyo, abantu abonisa ukuqonda okulungileyo, ububele kunye nokuphendula (ngendlela efanelekileyo) kwiintsapho zabo, izalamane kunye nabo bafuna ngokwenene, baziva benemvakalelo enamandla , ukufumana umoya kunye nolonwabo lokwenene kule ndawo. Nokuba izazinzulu zenza ukuba abantu ababonakaliswe ngokuphendula, ukunyaniseka, abagula kakhulu, ngokuqhelekileyo babonakala bancinci kunabo ababi nabangenalo, abahlali baninzi.
Imfundo yokuphendula ngokomoya
Namhlanje, abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba yonke into oyenzayo, ubuyela kuwe, ngendlela enye okanye enye. Iingcamango zizinto eziphathekayo, kwaye oku kuyinyani, kungakhathaliseki ukuba isandi kangakanani. Umntu onovelwano novelwano ubona abantu abaninzi abakuye, kwaye ehamba ngendlela ayenzela ngayo inkampani efanayo.
Ingxaki yokuphendula komntu kunye nokuncedisana kunye ngoku kunxamnye kunanini ngaphambili, kodwa ukuba umntu olungileyo akulula, ngumsebenzi onzima, umsebenzi oqhubekayo ngokwakho, ukunyamezela, ukunyaniseka, ububele. Musa ukutshintsha ngokukhawuleza, ngolunye usuku, ungazami ukunceda wonke umntu ojikelezayo-qalisa encinane. Ungakwazi ukuxolisa ngokuzenzekelayo uxolo ekuphenduleni ibinzana elibukhali, ukondla i-kitten elambile engenakhaya, ubeke indawo kumfazi osekhulile kwi-tram, biza abazali bakho okanye ugogo kwakhona. Ngokukhawuleza uya kumangaliswa ukufumanisa ukuba uqala ukuziva uhlukile, ubomi bufumene intsingiselo entsha, kwaye iimeko ezintle azikushiyi!