Ejongene neengxaki zokusela kubafundi, abazali bahlala becala ukuthatha izigwebo ezinzulu ukuze oku kungenzeki kwakhona kwikamva. Siyaqaphela ngokukhawuleza ukuba ukuphendula ngokufuthekayo akusiyo inqobo yokukhusela, kunokuthi kwandisa imeko. Ngento enokuyenza xa umntwana sele abe isela kunye nendlela yokuyiqonda kakuhle ngayo le nto, siya kuthi xelela.
Ubusela ngexesha lomncinane
Kubantwana abangaphantsi kweminyaka emithandathu, igama elithi "ukweba" alisebenzisi. Into yokuba phambi kweminyaka engama-4 ayayazi indlela yokwahlula phakathi "wam" kunye "nomnye umntu". Yonke into abayithandayo, abantwana bayazicingela zabo baze bathathe izinto ngokuzinzileyo. Masiqaphele ukuba ukuqonda iindleko eziphezulu zezinto abazithathileyo akusasazo kubo. Ngokuqinisekileyo ixabiso elifanayo linokuthi umntwana abe nentonti yeplastiki kunye nezinto zokugqoka.
Xa uneminyaka engama-4-6, abantwana sele besazi ukuba banayo into okanye bengenayo. Ubunzima kubo kukulawulwa komnqweno wabo wokufumana into abayithandayo. Ngokukodwa ukuba umnqweno unamandla kakhulu.
Ukuba umntwana uthatha amathoyizi kunye nezinto ukusuka kwabanye ubudala, abazali bafuna:
- yakha umqondo wengane "wam", "umntu womnye";
- ukufundisa ukuba ucele umntwana ukuba angathatha into eyintandokazi okanye ithoyizi.
Kwakhona kwithuba eliphakathi kweminyaka emi-4 ukuya kwe-5 kunye nabantwana kunokwenzeka ukuba ubambe ingxoxo malunga nokweba, apho kuyimfuneko ukuchaza ukuba yintoni. Kwaye ngokubaluleke kakhulu, yintoni ekufuneka ihanjiswe kumntwana kule minyaka - umntu oba le nto uziva njani.
Ubusela ngexesha lobudala
Isihloko sentshisekelo kubaqalayo ukuba babambe abantwana besikolo kaninzi babe yimali. Umntwana unokuba imali ekhaya kunye noontanga kunye nokuxoka ukuba akazange akwenze.
Abazali abafunde ukuba abantwana babo beba kufuneka bazibuze isizathu sokuba benza oku. Ngokuphindaphindiweyo, ukweba ngumphumo weengxaki ezingaphendululwayo. Ezi ziquka:
- Ukungabikho kwemali kwiindleko zesikhwama kunye nokwesaba ukubabuza kubazali babo;
- Ukutshitshiswa kwepokethi ngemali evela kumntwana ngabafundi abakwizikolo eziphezulu;
- ukuzingca nokungaqondi kakuhle ukuba ungayisebenzisa;
- iinzame zokuzibandakanya kwisangqa seontanga;
- ukunqongophala kwabazali;
- ukutyeba.
Indlela yokufundisa umntwana ukuba imali kufuneka igwetywe yintoni eyamshukumisela ukuba akwenze.
Ukuqhuba iingxoxo, kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba akukho mcimbi ongenakwenzeka:
- kubiza umntwana isela;
- buyela kwimeko emva kwesisombululo sayo;
- ukujonga amehlo engxaki;
- ukubonisa ubundlobongela kumntwana.
Qinisekisa indlela yokujezisa umntwana ngokuphanga kuphela emva kokuba imbangela yabangalunganga icacisiwe. Ukuhlwaywa akufanele kube ngumzimba kwaye umntwana kufuneka aqonde ubulungisa bawo.