Ukubonakala komntwana wesibini kubavuyo olukhulu kubazali. Ezinye izibini ezitshatileyo zicinga ukuba kuyimfuneko ukufumana umntwana osesibini xa uqala ukuya esikolweni, abanye bafuna imozulu, ukuzaliswa okwesithathu kwintsapho kuyenzeka naluphi na ucwangciso. Kukho nawuphi na, abazali basoloko befuna ukudala izimo ezintle kwaye zihle kakhulu kubantwana babo.
Ngethuba lethu, akusiyo yonke intsapho enokuziqhayisa indlu yayo yangasese okanye indlu enkulu evulekile. Ingxaki yezindlu, ngokwemibare, ixazululwa ngaphantsi kwesithathu kweentsapho. Ngoko ke, xa kubonakala umntwana wesibini, ezininzi iintsapho zijongene nengxaki yokuxhobisa ikamelo labantwana kubantwana ababini.
Inzuzo yegumbi labantwana kubantwana ababini
Abantwana abaneminyaka engama-3 ukuya ku-6 ubudala, njengomthetho, babonisa umnqweno omkhulu wokuhlala kwelinye igumbi. Oku kubangelwa kukuba abantwana banomdla komnye nomnye, nokuba ngaba kukho iingxabano phakathi kwabo. Abantwana, njengomthetho, akudingeki ukuba babe ngabodwa, kodwa kwiqela. Ukuxhasa umzalwana okanye udade kuyimfuneko ehambelana nokuphuhliswa komntwana. Ngako oko, akunakuqonda ukuba abazali bahlalise abantwana kumagumbi ahlukeneyo, nokuba ngaba kukho ithuba. Ukuba igumbi linamagumbi amabini aphumayo, apho ungakwazi ukuhlala khona kubantwana, kungcono ukwenza omnye wabo igumbi lokulala, kunye nelinye igumbi lomdlalo.
Igumbi lezingane eziqhelekileyo kubantwana ababini bezesondo ezahlukeneyo kunokwenzeka kuphela ukuya kwiminyaka eyi-10-11. Emva koko, umzalwana nodade baya kufuna ukuhlaziya okanye ukwahlula kwigumbi labo kwiindawo ezimbini ezihlukeneyo. Ngoko ke, kubalulekile ukunika abantwana ithuba lokuchitha ubuntana babo ndawonye, kwigumbi elinye. Igumbi labantwana babantwana ababini beesondo ezahlukeneyo livumela ukuhanjisa umzalwana nodade, kwenza ukuba bavelele ngakumbi kunye noxanduva.
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Igumbi labantwana labafana abafana
Ukuba ngaba abazalwana abafaniyo kwiminyaka engaphezu kwe-3, unyana odala uya kuwulibala, njengoko wayehlala yedwa egumbini lakhe. Ekuqaleni, ngokwemvelo, umntwana osekhulile uya kubonisa ukungabi nomsindo, ngenxa yokuba akayena umnikazi wegumbi. Kodwa ekugqibeleni unyana uya kusetshenziselwa umyalelo omtsha wezinto.
Ukuba ukuhluka kobudala kubantwana kubalulekile, ukungathandwa ngumntwana omdala kuya kuqina. Kule meko, abazali kufuneka bathethe nomdala baze bamkholise ukuba uneminyaka emdala kwaye uyabulumko, ukuba kufuneka athatyathele omncinci, kwaye ngoku igumbi lakhe liza kuba yinkwenkwe yamakhwenkwe amabini. Kukho amaxesha amaninzi xa unyana oyena mkhulu waba ngumlawuli wangempela kunye nomzekelo wokulingisa omncinci.
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Igumbi labantwana labantombazana amabini
Kwimeko yamantombazana, imeko iyafana. Ngomlinganiselo omncinci weminyaka, amantombazana ngokukhawuleza abe ngabahlobo abasondeleyo kwaye abamele babonise ubomi babo kumagumbi ahlukeneyo. Ngoko ke, isisombululo esona siza kuba yindlu yabantwana yamantombazana amabini.
Ngomlinganiselo omkhulu weminyaka, umntwana omdala uvame ukuvalelwa. Ukuba intombi endala sele ifikelele kwiminyaka yenguqu, ngoko ngezinye izihlandlo ifuna ukuba yedwa. Kule meko, udade omncinci uyamthintela.
Abazali babantwana abanomlinganiselo omkhulu weminyaka mabaqwalasele iimfuno zomntwana ngamnye. Kubalulekile ukuba ungenzi umntwana omdala unomntwana kumntwana omncinci ngentando yakhe. Oku kunokubangela ukungathandi phakathi kwabantwana.
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Ukuphila ababini okanye abathathu abantwana kwigumbi elinye libafundisa ukuba badibane kunye nokuxazulula iingxabano ngaphandle kokungenelela kwabadala. Abantwana balele egumbini elilodwa bancitshiswa kangangoko ukuba bahlutywa ngubusuku, bahlala bezimeleyo.
Ukuphila ngokuhlangeneyo kukuvumela ukuxazulula iingxaki ezininzi ezinxulumene nokukhuliswa kwabantwana. Kwaye abantwana bafumana umhlobo wabo osenyongweni ubomi!