Abaninzi abameli bezesondo ezifanelekileyo bayaqiniseka ukuba "afunwa" - kuthetha ukuba into ephosakeleyo kuwe. Ngokuqinisekileyo, eli gama lithengisa, kwaye ukusuka apha kuvela ingcaciso elula kakhulu yento yesini yobundlobongela. Emva koko, oku akukona nje ukwakheka okwenzisayo kunye nolwazi olunzulu, kodwa ukukwazi ukuzithoba ngaphakathi kwi-side-sensitive side. Kwaye imfihlelo eyintloko yokuziphatha ngokwesini ikwazi ukuyenza.
Ziziphi iimfihlelo zobundlobongela besini?
Ngokutsho kweengcali, imbono "yobundlobongela besini" iquka amacandelo amaninzi:
- Ubuntwini buyindoda, "i-asexual", umfazi akayi kubangela umnqweno, kwaye ngoko, akanakucingelwa ngesondo.
- Ukuzithemba-into eyinkimbinkimbi, igxile kuphela kwiimpazamo zabo, intombi ayinakuze isondo.
- Imfihlelo yangaphakathi yinto ethile yokungaqiniseki; mhlawumbi ukunganakwa, okanye, ngokungafaniyo, ukungenakwenzeka; ukudibanisa okungalindelekanga kwamanqaku athile okanye izinto ezithandayo, oko kukho konke okukhankanyiswayo, ukujonga iimveli, into engalindelekanga.
Iimfihlelo zobundlobongela besini nazo zinokuchaphazela ubunzulu bokwakheka kokomoya. Oku kukhankanywe, umzekelo, kwimfundiso yesiTshayina yamandulo njengeTaoism.
Imfihlelo yaseTaoist yobundlobongela besini
Ngokwale mfundiso yefilosofi, umfazi ungumlondolozi wamandla angcwele, abuye asebenze nomyeni wakhe. Kwaye ukuze angaphumeleli amandla akhe, kodwa ukunyusa, kufuneka aqonde ngakumbi iimfihlelo zobunqunu besini. Okokuqala, unakekele impilo yakho; Okwesibini, musa ukulibala ngokuzithanda; wesithathu, ukuvuya imihla ngemihla; okwesine, ukufumana ubuhle kuyo yonke into. Kwakhona kuyimfuneko ukuba ufunde umzimba wakho kunye nemida yokuziphatha kwayo ukuze ukwazi ukuwusebenzisa ngokuchanekileyo.
Imfihlelo ye-Geisha Sexualality
Umzekelo wokubhenqa kwamabhinqa kwihlabathi lonke i-Japanese "abafundisikazi bothando" be-geisha. Kwaye nabo baneemfihlelo zabo zesini. Okokuqala, ukuqeqeshwa - umfazi okwenene, owaziyo umqondo wothando lwenyama, unokuba yindlela yokuqeqesha ixesha elide. Okwesibini, ingqondo ecebileyo yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yokuthandwa kwabasetyhini. Yingakho i-geisha iyadingeka ukwazi iilwimi eziliqela, ubugcisa beklasi, njl njl. Okwesithathu, ungesabi ukuba ngumzimba, ungabufihla ubulili bakho, kodwa uyenze ngokufanelekileyo kunye nesidima.