Ngelishwa, imeko xa umfazi engazi ukuba yintoni eyenzayo, xa ethanda umtshatile, akuqhelekanga. Uninzi lwesondo olufanelekileyo nje aluqondi indlela yokusombulula ingxaki efanayo kunye nokuyeka ukuzihlambalaza.
Kuthiwani ukuba ndiyathanda indoda esatshatileyo?
Okokuqala, zigqibo ukuba ulungele ukuyeka imizwa yakho, okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, ufuna ukutshabalalisa umtshato wakhe okanye ube yinkosikazi, kuxhomekeke kwimpendulo yakho, kufuneka uphuhlise isicwangciso sokuziphatha.
Siza kuhlalutya zonke iinketho zento enokuyenza xa uthandana nomntu otshatileyo.
Enye indlela - ufuna ukulibala yonke into. Kule meko, kupheleka ebomini bomi ngonaphakade, musa ukusho ngeze "ngaphandle kokubona-engqondweni", kwakhona uzame:
- Gcwalisa lonke ixesha lakho lokukhulula. Akunandaba nokuba wenza ntoni wena, ngokubaluleke kakhulu, ungalala phantsi embhedeni kwaye ungakhathazeki.
- Zazi iimvakalelo zakho. Ukugatya ukuthanda, umntu ufumana iimvakalelo ezahlukahlukeneyo, uvelwano, ukunciphisa ukuzithemba, intukuthelo, umsindo kunye nokunye okuninzi. Bhengeze ngokuthetha nomgulana weengqondo, umhlobo osondeleyo okanye nje kwidayari.
- Ungazivumeli ukukhupha okungekho nto. Ufuna ukukhala, ukufuna ukubetha izitya - ukubetha. Into ephela ongayifuni ukuyenza kukuba ube yinto ephakamileyo yoluntu kwaye uvakalise iimvakalelo zakho kwintanda yakho, ngoko xa iphezu kwakho ayiyi kuzidumisa ngokuziphatha okunjalo.
Option ezimbini, ulungele ukulwa. Iingcali zengqondo zinika iingcebiso ezilandelayo malunga nento enokuyenza kumfazi othi: Ndiyamthanda indoda esitshatileyo kwaye andiyi kuyinqabela:
- Kufuneka ube yindlela ebonakalisa ngayo iimpawu azifunayo kumantombazana, khumbula ukuba uyaziqhathanisa nomfazi wakhe, kwaye oku kuthelekiswa kufuneka kukuthande.
- Qala ukwakha ubudlelwane obusondeleyo nomntu, fumana into efanayo okanye intlonipho naye. Ixesha elithe xa lichitha kunye kunye nokuthetha, ukuphakama kwinqanaba lokuthembela kwakho kunye nomntu oyaziyo ukuba wabelana ngeembono zakhe ebomini.
- Ungaphenduli ube ngumhlobo, gxi ninisa ububhinqa bakho kunye nobuntu bakhe, ngaphandle koko unobungozi ukuba "yintombi yakho."