"Ubaba uRalph, ndiya kufa, ndinomdlavuza!" - loo mazwi awela emlonyeni womfana oseMaggie Cleary (i heroine yencwadi ethi "Ukucula ngameva"), owagqiba ekubeni athembele kumntu omthandayo nomcebisi. Le ntombazana yavula imfihlakalo embi kumhlobo wayo: sele isele iinyanga ezintandathu ukususela egazini lakhe lihamba nganye inyanga kunye neentlungu kwisisu esisezantsi.
Iimeko ezinjalo zenzeke ngokuqinisekileyo-kwaye ngaphezu kweyodwa - ebomini bokwenene, xa oomama belibalekile, kwaye, mhlawumbi, neentloni ngexesha lokuba nencoko ebalulekileyo nentombazana malunga nenyanga. Okwangoku, isihloko esibucayi akufanele sifihlelwe kude kube ngumzuzwana xa umntwana odidekile eza kunye neenkcazo ezihlambulukileyo zeengcaciso - ukuba, ngokuqinisekileyo, uzimisele ukuvuma kubazali bakhe ukuba kukho "into engalunganga kuye." Kungcono ukulungiselela intombi kwangaphambili, ukuya kwiminyaka elishumi, ngenxa yokuba Amakhosazana amancinci anamhlanje akhula ngokukhawuleza kunokoko noomama. Ukongezelela, ngexesha lokutshintsha kuya kuba nzima kuwe ukumisela intombi yakho ngencoko ephosakeleyo. Ngendlela yokuxelela intombazana malunga nenyanga, siza kuthetha kwinqaku lethu.
Inketho 1. Incwadi
Ukubeka unomxholo umntwana ngokufumaneka kwaye kunye nemifanekiso ichaza ngokuguqula intombazana ukuba ibe yintombazana - indlela elula kakhulu ehambelana nale ntsapho apho kungekho nithethe yeengxoxo eziyimfihlo phakathi kwabazali nabantwana. Okanye unganqikazi, ungayazi indlela yokuchaza intombazana malunga nexesha lokuya esikhathini. Nangona kunjalo, kwimeko enje, kubalulekile ukubuza ukuba yonke into iyacaca kwintombi efundwayo. Ukuba le ncwadi ayinayo icandelo lemigaqo yokucoceka ngexesha lokuya esikhathini okanye iimpawu ezinxulumene nezinguqu kwimvelaphi ye-hormonal (ukubonakala kweemfumba, ukukhula kweenwele ze-pubic, njl.), Xelela malunga nawe.
Ukhetho 2. Ukuthetha intetho
Ukucinga malunga nendlela yokuthetha ngayo ngentombazana eneminyaka ekhulayo ubudala, uninzi unina akwazi ukuqala incoko. Ewe, ukuba umntwana unomdla, kutheni uthengela iimpahla kwivenkile, okanye yintoni intombazana ekhangisayo, ithetha xa kungabikho iindawo eziyimfihlelo. Nangona kunjalo, ungakhetha ixesha elifanelekileyo: xa intombi ingenaxakeka, ayikhawulezi, ayiphazamiseki ngetoni okanye umabonwakude. Ngoko, ilixa X lifikile:
- Buza ngobumnene intombi yakho ukuba uyazi ukuba isini. Kule nqanaba, unokonwaba ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba umntwana sele esele akhanyiselwa ngamantombazana "aphakamileyo", kodwa akusikho isizathu sokuphazamisa ingxoxo: akunakwenzeka ukuba abantu bexesha banokunika iimpendulo kuyo yonke imibuzo evela entloko. Kubalulekile ukuchaneka kwaye ngokucacileyo uchaze indlela yokwenza inkqubo, ulwazi oluchanekileyo oluchanekileyo olufunyenwe kwezinye iindawo.
- Qala kunye nenyaniso yokuba inyanga zonke - oku akusiyo isifo, kungekhona isifo. Intombazana kufuneka iqonde ukuba le nkqubo ayinakuphepheka, kwaye kufuneka ibonakale njengesiganeko esivuyisayo, ebonisa ukuba iya kuba intombazana. Ndixelele ukuba le nyanga yimeko efunekayo ukuba abe ngumama kwixesha elizayo.
- Thetha malunga nesakhiwo somzimba wesetyhini kunye nezitho zangasese. Chaza ngokufutshane indlela yokwenza i-ovulation yenyanga nganye (ukuphuma kweqanda elivuthiweyo ukusuka kwi-follicle).
- Ukuxelela amantombazana konke malunga nokuya esikhathini, wena, ngenye indlela okanye enye, uya kuthinta umxholo wokukhulelwa. Gwema oko akufanelekanga, kuba nonke nisetyenziswe kwingxoxo ebalulekileyo yebhinqa. Kodwa kwiindlela zokuthintela ukukhulelwa okungafunekiyo, ungcono ukubuyela emva koko, xa kuqho ngenyanga.
- Yilumke intombazana malunga ne-premenstrual syndrome kwaye leyo nyanga nganye inokuhamba kunye neentlungu ezibuhlungu. Le nxalenye ifanele ibe mfutshane, akukho mfuneko yokuzimela ngokuzithemba ukuba wena "uya kufa iintsuku ezimbini zokuqala" (ukuba kunjalo). Umntwana akufanele abe nokwesaba kokuya esikhathini.
- Yithi nangona "iintsuku ezibomvu zekhalenda" zenzeka rhoqo ngenyanga, umjikelezo oqhelekileyo awukwazi ukuqala ngokukhawuleza.
Ngamanye amaxesha ukuhlukana phakathi kokuqala kokuya esikhathini kunokubaluleka kakhulu, ukuya kwiinyanga eziliqela. - Yiya kwimimiselo yococeko. Chaza ukuba kule mihla kubalulekile ukuhlamba ngokucokisekileyo kwaye utshintshe iifayile ngexesha elifanelekileyo. Ngendlela, unokukuqinisekisa ngokukhawuleza intombi yakho ukuba ukuthengisa akuxoxanga, kwaye ingozi yokuba i-gasket iya kumnciphisa.
- Qiniseka ukuba ubuze ukuba intombi ayinayo nayiphi na imibuzo.
Emva kokugqiba ukuthetha nentombazana malunga nenyanga nje ngomntu omdala, umntu oqondayo, ubeka isitena esibalulekileyo kwisiseko sobudlelwane bakho bokuthembela. Kwaye emva kwexesha lexesha elivisayo, uya kuvuma, oku kubaluleke kakhulu.