Umlinge womntu luyisakhiwo seengqondo ezingapheliyo ezichaza iimpawu zobuhlobo bomntu kunye nokuziphatha. Kulo mlinganiso kukho amaqela amane eempawu ezibonisa isimo sengqondo somntu kwiinkalo ezahlukeneyo:
- uvelwano, intlalontle nokuphendula kuthatha umntu kwabanye abantu;
- ukunyamekela, ukunyamekela emsebenzini, ukunyaniseka ekudaleni umntu osebenzayo;
- Ukugxeka, ukuthozama, ukuqhosha kubonisa isimo sengqondo somntu kuye;
- ukuchaneka, ukuphathwa kakuhle kwezinto ezibonisa umntu kwizinto.
Olu dlelwane lomntu lujoliswe kwiindlela eziqhelekileyo zokunxibelelana, ukuziphatha kunye nomsebenzi.
Kule nqaku, sicinga iqela lesithathu lesimilo-ulwalamano lomntu kuye, oko kukuthi ukuzigxeka, okubonakaliswa ngokukwazi ukuvavanya ngokunyanisekileyo izenzo zabo nokuvuma iimpazamo. Ukuzigxeka kungumgangatho obalulekileyo onceda abantu ukuba baphuculwe. Le yinjongo ebonakalayo evela ngaphandle, ekuvumela ukuba ubone zombini inzuzo kunye nokungalunganga. Nangona kunjalo, kufuneka kukhunjulwe ukuba ukuzigxeka akufanele ukuya kwi-samoyedstva (ukugxeka ngokweqile), enemiphumo emibi.
Abantu abanokuzithemba phantsi kwezinto zobomi bemihla ngemihla bafuna ubungqina beengcinga ezimbi kubo. Kubo, nganye impazamo ibonisa ukungabonakali. Ngenxa yokungaphumeleli okanye naluphi na ubunzima, bazinqabile kwaye bazibonakalisa ngokwabo ("abanakho ukuqonda", "abazizithambile", "abangathandekiyo" njalonjalo). Ngaloo ndlela, aba bantu ngokumalunga nabo baphika ngokupheleleyo iimpawu ezilungileyo baze bazibonele kuphela kuphela. Ngenxa yoko, banokugxeka ngokweqile. Le meko inceda ukunyaniseka, njengoko ivelisa intloni, ityala kwaye ivuselela uxinzelelo.
Uvavanyo lokuzihlaziya
Unokuvavanya impembelelo yokuzigxeka wena ngoncedo lwemibuzo elandelayo:
Imibuzo yeshumi elinantlanu, khetha enye yeengxelo ezisixhenxe (1-no-2-akukho ngaphezu kweewe-3-kunoko akukho; -na-andiyazi; , echaza kakuhle iimvakalelo zakho.
- Kunzima ukonwaba, ukuba kungabutyebi, kungabonakali, kungabalulekanga kwaye kungenalo talente.
- Abantu baya kucinga ngakumbi ngami xa ndenza iphutha.
- Ukuba ndihlala ndizenza izinto eziphosakeleyo, abayiyihlonela.
- Uphawu lobuthathaka luyisicelo sokuncediswa.
- Ndibuthathaka ukuba andiphumelelanga njengabanye.
- Ukuba akukho ndlela yokwenza kakuhle, ngoko ke akukho mfuneko ukuba uyenze.
- Ndiya kuthathwa njengengaphumeleli xa ndihluleka ukusebenza.
- Ukuba abantu abavumelani nam, mhlawumbi kuthetha ukuba andithandi.
- Ndiya kubukeka ndisicwenge xa ndibuza umbuzo.
- Ukuba ndifuna ukuba ngumqeshwa obalulekileyo, ngoko andifanele ndingaphumi nto enye.
- Ukuba andizibekela iifowuni eziphezulu kum, ndiza kuba ngongoma.
- Ukuba abantu bayazi ukuba ndiyintoni na ngokwenene, abantu baya kucinga ngakumbi kum.
- Abantu abanemibono emihle, bangcono kunabo abangenayo.
- Ukuba ndenza iphutha, ndiya kuthukuthela.
- Ukuba ndiyaphula nantoni na, ngoko kum kuba kuya kuthetha ukungaphumeleli ngokupheleleyo.
Ngoku balala amanqaku: akukho nxalenye enye; Akukho ngaphezu kweebo - ezimbini iingongoma; kunokuba zikho - ezintathu ngongoma; Andiyazi - amanqaku amane; kunoko ewe-amahlanu amanqaku; ngaphezulu ewe ngaphezu kweengongoma ezithandathu; ewe - amanqaku asixhenxe.
Khangela umphumo:
- Amanqaku angama-54 okanye ngaphezulu yinqanaba eliphezulu lokuzigxeka;
- 39 - ephakathi;
- 24 nangaphantsi kwinqanaba eliphantsi.
Kwaye ke, uqhube uvavanyo kwaye wachaza ukuba uninzi kangakanani. Ngoku kuya kukwenza isigqibo sokuba ngaba ufuna ukugxeka okanye awukho. Kubaluleke kangakanani kwaye kubalulekile kuwe nabathandekayo bakho lo mgangatho.