Enye yeminqweno yabazali yiphupha abantwana babo abangazange bakhule. Kodwa umntu ngamnye uba ngumdala, kwaye, ngokwemvelo, azimeleyo. Ukuzimela kwabazali kuza kancane kancane. Okokuqala umntwana ufunda ukuhlala, ukukhwela, ukuhamba, ukugijima. Kamva umntwana usenokusebenzisa ukusika, ukugqoka, ukunyamekela. Emva koko umntwana uya kufunda ukulungisa ingxaki yemihla ngemihla kunye neengxaki. Nangona kunjalo, abanye abantwana abakhawuleza ukuthatha inyathelo, oko kubonakala ngathi, kufuneka bafunde kakuhle. Isizathu esibalulekileyo sale ndlela, ngendlela, ngabazali ngokwabo. Zingaphi ixesha lokugcina ixesha umama uzimisele ukubeka iimvuthu zokuhamba ngezandla zakhe. Umzekelo ofanayo yimeko xa abantu abadala benganiki umntwana oneminyaka elilodwa ubudala i-spoon ngokuzidla, abafuni ukuhlamba izinto ezingcolileyo kunye netafile. Kwaye emva kokudala, i-decision making will fall down on the shoulder of parents. Ukukhula ngaphandle kwenkqubo, umntwana ongenakwenzeka ukuba uphumelele. Ngoko ke, ukuba unomdla ngekamva lomntwana wakho othandekayo, kubalulekile ukufumana ngokukhawuleza kwaye wenze umgudu.
Indlela yokufaka ukuzimela komntwana: izakhono eziyimfuneko
Ukuba ufuna umntwana wakho akhule akwazi ukwenza isenzo kwaye angabi nokwesaba iimpazamo zakhe, qwa lasela ukuba ukuphuhliswa kokuzimela kubantwana kufuneka kuvele kubuntwaneni bokuqala, oko kukuthi, ukususela kwiminyaka eminyaka ubudala. Yilapho umntwana efunda ukutya kunye nesandla sakhe. Abantu abadala kufuneka baqonde ukuba zonke izakhono zokuzinakekela aziveki kumntwana ngokwazo. Intsana ifunda, ixelisa abantu abajikelezile. Kwaye ukuba yonke into iphendulwe ngokufanelekileyo, abazali kufuneka baqondise i-crumb, bancede baze bavuselele. Ukongeza, ukusuka kwiminyaka enye nesiqingatha ungafundisa umntwana ukuba agqoke ngokuzimela. Kodwa vunyelwa kwaye ube nesineke, ungaphakamisi ilizwi lakho kwaye ungalugxininisi iifowuni ezingenakulungile. Funda amaqabunga ngesimo somdlalo ngexesha lakho lokuzikhethela, umzekelo ngamadonki okanye kumathoyizi athambileyo. Kwaye akuyi kuvela imeko xa ukhawuleza kwaye ngenxa yokuba ubeka umntwana wakho ngokwakho, zama ukuqokelela ngaphandle kwimizuzu eyi-10 ngaphambili.
Ukususela kwiminyaka emibini, xa umntwana ebonakalisa ukuzimela kwakhe, ngokuqhelekileyo kubonakaliswe ngombono wobunini ngokubhekiselele kumathoyizi akhe, iimpahla, ukunqunyulwa, ukujwayela ukucoceka kwigumbi elithekileyo. Ngoko kulo xanduva luya kunyuswa - ibalulekileyo yecandelo lokuzimela.
Indlela yokukhulisa ukuzimela komntwana: mnike ilungelo lokukhetha
Ukuqwalaselwa kwimbono kunye nomnqweno womntwana ngoku uya kuvumela umntwana othandekayo ukuba enze izigqibo kumntu omdala onzima kwaye angadluli phambi kobunzima. Umntwana wakho uya kuba ngumntu ozimele, uya kuvuma ukuba lo ngumgangatho obalulekileyo kakhulu. Qala encinci, umzekelo, mbuze malunga naluphi u-porridge onokukhetha ukuyidla isidlo sakusasa okanye sisiphi isiqhamo-i-apula okanye ibhanana - ukuya kwintyatyambo yokusa. Xa umntwana ekhula, mamela iimfuno zakhe ekukhetheni iimpahla. Buza ukuba yintoni i-panties okanye ingubo enqwenela ukuyambatha namhlanje. Yaye makumke umntwana athathe iimbali ezisele ezisekhohlo phantsi kwesikhokelo sakho esibucayi: zombini ngexesha elifanayo kuya kuphuhlisa umqondo wesitayela. Xa uthenge izinto kumntwana, ungalibali ukuthetha naye. Kakade, kukho imilinganiselo kuyo yonke into. Ngoko ke, ukuba ukhetho lomntwana luwela kwi-blouse, indleko leyo iya kuba yindleko kubhajethi yentsapho, cacisa indleko ephezulu yezinto. Ndikholelwe, kuya kuba luncedo ekuphuhliseni ukuzimela komntwana wakho.
Qinisekisa ukusebenzisa iindlela ezinjalo zokufaka ukuzithemba kubantwana njengentuthuzelo kunye nodumo. Ziyimfuneko kumadoda amancinci, kwimeko yokuhluleka. Gqugquzela umntwana kunye namabhaso amancinci, igama elinobubele. Nangona kunjalo, musa ukunyanzelisa umntwana ukuba enze nantoni na ngokuchasene nentando, ukuze angabangela ukukhishwa.
Kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu - fundisa ngokwakho umzekelo omhle womntwana, kuba uyaziwa ukuba abantwana bajolise kakhulu kubantu abadala.