Enyanisweni yokuba amadoda angabonakaliyo abalingisi beendaba, akukho mfuneko yokukholisa nabani na, eli liyilo elide elide. Kodwa yinto enye ukuxelela ibali kumntwana ngaphambi kokulala okanye ukugqithisa ubungakanani bokubamba, kwaye nakwezinye - ukuhlala ukhohlisa abo bathandekayo. Kunzima kakhulu ukuhlala nomntu onjalo, kuba intsapho yakhiwe ngokuyinhloko kwithemba. Kodwa kuthekani ukuba umyeni ulala njalo, ufanele wenzeni?
Kutheni umyeni ehlala exoka?
Into yokuqala kufuneka uyenze ukuba umyeni wakho uhlala elele kuwe kukuzama ukuqonda izizathu zalo mkhuba. Mhlawumbi (kwaye ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunokuba kwenzeke), isizathu salo mkhuba nguwe.
- Indoda iyaqala ukukhohlisa, ukuze ingabi ngxaki. Ngokomzekelo, umfazi "uyambona" ngokulibaziseka emsebenzini, ukudibana nabahlobo kunye nokungaziphathi kakuhle.
- Amaxesha amaninzi abantu balala ngenxa yokuba abafuni ukuthukuthelisa. Ezi zezimpendulo zemibuzo malunga nokubonakala kwethu, ukukwazi ukupheka nokugcina indlu.
- Ukukhohlisa okuqhelekileyo "makhe sixoxe ngawo ngomso." Imiphumo yokwesaba, amadoda athoxisa incoko "kamva", enethemba lokuba amatyala aphuthumayo awanakuvumela ukufumana ubudlelwane.
- Umnqweno wokuqamba amanga uvela kumntu oye waqala ukukhula kubanda kwiintombi zentliziyo. Mhlawumbi wazityhaphaza ngeefowuni kunye nemibuzo, apho wayekhona, kunye noko akwenzayo.
- Abaxoki bamathambo abathanda ukubhala amabali ngabo kwaye abanakuphila ngokungafaniyo. Le yodwa imeko xa ibhinqa lingawuchukumisi lo mkhuba wendoda yakhe.
Indlela yokunyanzela indoda ukuba ixoke?
Ngokwemvelo, xa sifumene nomntu ondibathandayo, sihlala sijonga iindlela zokunyaniseka kwendoda. Kodwa eqinisweni, kwiimeko ezininzi, akudingekile ukuba ulwe nomqambimanga, kodwa ngesimo sakho sengqondo kuye nangezenzo zakhe.
- Ngaba ucinga ukuba umyeni wakhe wenza into engalunganga? Ngoko uthetha naye, cacisa umbono wakho, umamele kwaye ufumane indlela yokuphuma kwimeko. Ukuthi: "Uphosakele, andifuni ukuphulaphula nantoni na," uyisidenge kwaye ayinangqiqo.
- Yeka rhoqo ukujonga ubomi bomnye umntu. Uthando luhle, kodwa wonke umntu kufuneka abe nelungelo lokufumana indawo yakhe.
- Abanye ngombuzo othi: "Yintoni enokuyenza xa umyeni elele" - athambekele ekucebiseni "imilingo". Kukho icebo lendoda yakhe engayithethi. Yisebenzise ngokusebenzayo ayikufanelekanga - ayisebenzisi ukungakholelwa kwinto yakho emangalisa, kwaye uya kuchitha ixesha elingenalusizo, kunokusindisa imeko. Ewe, ukuba iqhinga lisebenza, kuya kuba nzima kumyeni wakho, ukuya kwiimpawu ezinzulu xa ezama ukulala. Ngaba ufuna ngokwenene umntu onjalo?
Abaninzi abasetyhini babuza imibuzo: "Indlela yokufumana ubuxoki bomyeni, ukuqonda ukuba ulala" - kodwa ngaba ufuna ezo zakhono? Ukunyaniseka kubudlelwane kubalulekile, kodwa ukunyaniseka ngokupheleleyo akunakwenzeka - iimvakalelo ezininzi kakhulu zingabandakanyi ukuba ngubani umfazi kunye nomyeni kunye, umtshato ngumhlaba oqhelekileyo, kungekhona ukuhlanganisana.