Ngelishwa, ukunyamekelwa kweqabane elivela kwintsapho alikho nto. Akumangalisi ukuba abaninzi abafazi banomdla kwimpendulo yombuzo wokubuyisela umyeni wakhe ekhaya ngelinye ilanga. Akunakwenzeka ukuba le ngxaki inokusombulula ngokukhawuleza, nangona kunjalo, kunokwenzeka ukuba uzame.
Iingcebiso zeengqondo malunga nendlela yokubuyisela umyeni wakhe ekhaya
Iingcali kwiintlalontle zentsapho ziyacetyiswa, okokuqala, ukuzola. Ukuxazulula ingxaki indlela yokubuyisela umyeni ekhaya, kunokwenzeka iindlela ezimbini: ukumbumba isinyithi ngelixa kushushu okanye ukusebenza ngokuthe ngcembe. Yonke into incike kwiimeko ezithile kunye nohlobo lomlingane wakho. Ukuba sele sele enqumle ukugqiba kunye nawe kwaye wayenomthandi omdala, apho washiya khona, ukuba ubuhlobo kwintsapho yakho buhlala lude kakhulu, ukuba unabantwana abaqhelekileyo kunye nezoshishino, ngoko kunokwenzeka ukuba uzame ukubuyisela loo mntu uya kuba engenamsebenzi. Kufuneka ucinge malunga nokuba lo mtshato kufuneka ugcinwe nonke. Mhlawumbi kungcono ukufumana uthando olutsha kunye nomntu osondeleyo, uvumele ukuhamba kwexesha elidlulileyo?
Ukuba, nangona kunjalo, iqabane lakho, njengoko libiza, umtyholi uyakhohlisa, isigqibo sakhe sokushiya sasihamba ngokukhawuleza, kwaye yena ngokwakhe akayena mntu ozimisele, ngoko kufuneka usebenze ngokukhawuleza. Kuya kuba yinto efanelekileyo ukubeka uxinzelelo kumyeni wakho: ukuqhayisa isicaphulo, ukukhawuleza ukuba ungenele, ukwesabise, uzame ukubiza umnxeba, ukubhenela unembeza wakhe, ukunqumla ifowuni kunye nomdla wakhe omtsha, ukuza emsebenzini wakhe, ukudibanisa izihlobo, njl. Ngelinye igama, ukwenza yonke into ukumnciphisa uxolo, mhlawumbi iqabane liya kuqonda ukuba likhawuleza okanye liloyiko nje ngemiphumo engathandekiyo yesenzo sakhe kwaye iya kubuya.
Indlela yokubuyisela umyeni wakhe ekhaya, ukuba yena ngokwakhe uxoshiwe, ngoncedo lwenceba?
Buyisela umyeni ngokukhawuleza unako ngokusebenzisa umlingo. Eyona nto iphumelela ngayo iingxoxo kunye nemigangatho, xa kwenzeka ukuba ekhohliweyo ayizange ihambe ngokuthanda, kodwa ngaphambili yayikhutshwe nguwe.
Kufuneka wenze oku okulandelayo:
- ulinde ubusuku obucacileyo, xa esibhakabhakeni kuya kubakho inyanga ekhulayo;
- bamba intloko yakho ngaphandle kwefestile uze ufunde isalathiso esinjalo (kungcono ukuyikhumbula nge ntliziyo): "Umkhonzi kaThixo wahamba waya endlwini, wangena etempileni, wakhothamla kuThixo waza wahlamba isitshixo ngamanzi, wamangaliswa indlela ukukhanya nokubandayo endlwini kaThixo. Ukuba endlwini yam kwakuhle ukuba umkhonzi kaThixo aphile (igama lomyeni) kunye nomkhonzi kaThixo (igama lakhe) kuye nothando aze aphumelele ade afe. Amen! ";
- Ukongezelela kuyimfuneko ukushiya indlu, kathathu ukuhamba ngeenxa zonke, ukuhamba phambi kwethu ngamanzi angcwele;
- buyela endlwini, thabatha isithombe somyeni wakhe uze umkhangele ebusweni ngamehlo amade.
Ngomso olandelayo, umyeni uya kuqinisekiswa ukuba abuyele, ngokwemfundiso.