Ukunyuka kwamanzi kwixesha lethu kuye kwafikelela kwiindawo eziphakamileyo kangangokuba abafazi abaninzi banamhlanje abazi ukuba kutheni ukutshata. Bangakwazi ukuzibonelela ngokuzimela, ngesondo, unokufumana omnye okanye okanye nabathandana abambalwa, iinkonzo zabo zingasetyenziselwa ukukhulelwa umntwana, ukuba ufuna ukuqonda ubuncinane bakho. Kwaye, mhlawumbi, akukho nto emangalisa ngayo ukuba abafazi abazinzileyo abazicingi nje ukuba bayatshata, kodwa bayazibuza ukuba kutheni umfazi kufuneka atshate, azinikele ekukhonkeleni kwimizalwane? Emva kwakho konke, abaninzi ababetha umtshato ngokukhawuleza, bazibuze bona "kutheni ndatshata?", Engazi ukuba baphumelele, befumene isikhundla somfazi otshatileyo. Ngoko kutheni amantombazana ashade kwaye kutheni bazimisele ukukwenza?
Kutheni ufuna ukutshata: Izizathu
Kutheni umtshakazi engafuni ukutshata? Akunakuvuthwa ubomi bentsapho, okanye akayiboni intloko yentsapho kumyeni, okanye kuye iinjongo ezilandelayo azilungele umtshato.
- Ngokuqhelekileyo abafazi abazicingeli nokuba ngaba batshatile kuba umtshato wabo uyisisiseko sokonwaba. Bakhuliswa njengaye-indoda, abantwana abaningana, indlu ehlambulukileyo -
le yinto yolonwabo yowesifazane. Zonke iingxabano ezizimeleyo, zikhululekileyo zabesifazane ngabo ziyingozi. - Abanye abesifazana bayazi kakuhle impendulo yombuzo othi "kutheni ndatshata" - ngoko, ukuze uzive ukhuselekile, unokuzithemba ngakumbi. Ngona maxa wambi amaqhawe aqineleyo afuna ihlombe lomntu, i-waistcoat apho umntu angakhwaza khona, izandla ezomeleleyo eziya kuphinda ziqinisekise ukuba yonke into iya kuhamba kakuhle.
- Ngamanye amaxesha intsapho ibonwa ngumfazi njengethuba lokuziqonda, ukwakha ubomi bakho ngendlela abayifunayo. Abafazi abanjalo bafana nabasetyhini beshishini, kodwa endaweni yezoshishino banikela ubomi babo kwiintsapho zabo.