Xa umfazi ehlukanisa, kunzima ukuba aqonde, ukukholelwa ukuba unokuvuya kwakhona. Iingcali zengqondo zikholelwa ukuba abafazi bayaxinezeleka emva kwalokhu, kuba oku kuyindlela yokukhusela yomzimba. Oko kukuthi, i-psyche ye-female ikhusela kwihlabathi elingaphelele. Siza kuzama ukuqonda indlela yokonwaba emva kokuqhawula umtshato kunye nokuba kungenzeka ukuba uthandane kwakhona.
Indlela yokonwaba - isiluleko sengqondo sengqondo
Makhe sinike imizekelo yeengcebiso zeengqondo zeengqondo kule ndaba:
- Funda ukuxolela nokuyeka. Wena, nangona ungazi, kodwa qhubeka ngaphakathi kwakho ukuhlambalaza okukucinezelayo. Qonda ukuba xa uxolela bonke abo ubandezelekileyo, uya kuphucula ubomi bakho. Ukugxeka kungonakalisa umzimba wakho. Iingcali zenzululwazi ziye zabonisa ukuba kukho ukunxibelelana ngokuthe ngqo phakathi kwemizwa engathandekiyo ebanjwe ngaphakathi, nomhlaza. Ubomi bakho buya kukhanya xa uvumela ukuhamba kwezikhalazo zakho. Zininzi iindlela zokunceda ukulahla izikhalazo. Ngokomzekelo, kwinkolo ngumthandazo, ekusebenziseni kwaseMpumalanga kukucamngca, kwaye kubantu kuyinkqubo yokubhaliweyo kwiphepha, kwaye liyitshise. Ukhetha ukhetho lokususa izinto ezimbi, kodwa kubaluleke kakhulu ukwenza okukhawuleza kunokwenzeka.
- Vula ehlabathini. Abasetyhini abasinda kwisiqhawulo-mtshato, baxela ngesibindi ukuba akukho nhlekelele, akukho nhlekelele. Oku kukuqala kwexesha elitsha ebomini. Into ephambili kukuba kuthathe isigqibo malunga nezinto eziphambili. Qaphela zonke izinto ode waziphupha. Hlangana nabantu abatsha.
- Kholelwa kuthando. Musa ukukhanyela ukuba ukwahlukanisa kwabasetyhini abaninzi kunokuchaphazela, kwaye bayeke ukukholelwa othandweni. Ungalibali ukuba ubomi bakho bubonakalisa iingcamango zakho. Yikholelwa othandweni kwaye iya kuphinda ibonakale ebomini bakho.
Indlela yokuba ngumfazi onoyolo?
Emva kokuba uqaphele ukuba usaphila ngendlela ophupha ngayo ixesha elide, uvuyayo, qwalasela iingcebiso malunga nendlela onokuzonwabisa ngayo.
- Musa ukugxininisa ngokupheleleyo kunye nokuhlala kwakho kwintando. Nangona utshatile kwakhona, ukuze ungaphindi iimpazamo zakho, ujabule kwaye awuhambelani nabathandekayo bakho. Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba unomlutha kulolu thando, sebenzela ukuqeda ukwesaba ukulahleka.
- Musa ukutshintsha umyeni wakho. Qonda ukuba wonke umntu uphelele ngendlela yakhe. Fumana izibonda kwiimpazamo zakhe. Kwaye ke, xa uyeka ukudala intloko eyongezelelweyo indoda yakho ngokuhlambalaza kwakho, uya kufuna ukuba yiloo nto ufuna ukuba yona.
- Musa kuba nomona. Ubukhwele bubonakaliso bobunini, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo kungekhona uthando. Ukuba uthe wabukrokrela into ethile, mxelele ngokucacileyo oko kukukrakra kwaye kukukhathazayo.
Ukuvuya emva kokuqhawula umtshato kulula. Into eyona nto kukufumana amandla okunqoba ibhola elimnyama ebomini bakho. Thatha upende ngesandla kwaye wenze izinto eziqhakazileyo zobomi ngokwakho.