Ndifuna ukuhlambalaza umntu ngenxa ye-chauvinism ngokubhekiselele kubomi bentsapho, siyacaphuka: "Ewe nguDomostroy abanye". Kodwa ngaba le ngongoma kule ncwadi ichanekile, mhlawumbi kwiimeko zentlalo yanamhlanje, ezinye iingcebiso zayo ziya kuba zifanelekileyo?
Domostroy: Inqaku elincinane
Igama elipheleleyo le sikhumbuzo seencwadi zaseRashiya "Incwadi Ebizwa ngokuba yiDomostroy." Kukholelwa ukuba umsebenzi ngumphumo wendibano ehlangeneyo yezizukulwana ezininzi. Nangona iinguqu ezidumileyo zakwaSyvester - umvumeli we-Ivan onkantyala. Kamva, "Incwadi ethi iDomostroy" yahlaziywa yi-hieromonk yaseMoscow yaseChudov Monastery, kamva nguHegumen Karion ngekhulu le-17. Kule nguqulelo, zonke iinguqu ezazikhoyo ngexesha la zidibene.
I-Domostroy iqulethe imithetho yokuhlonela i-tsar (inkosana), yathi malunga nokulawulwa koqoqosho, uthetha malunga nokugcinwa kwemithetho yezenkolo, kwakukho umyalezo osuka kubaba kumntwana. Yaye ininzi yazo yonke imfundiso kaDomostroi ngokuziphatha komfazi, indoda kunye nabantwana kwintsapho bayathandwa. Le miyalelo ibangela ukusabela okuqinileyo, amaninzi amaninzi awakhathalela ngokunyanisekileyo kwaye azinikele ngokunyanisekileyo kunye nabasetyhini babo ababehlala kuloo maxesha. Kodwa ngaba okhokho bethu bafanelwe uvelwano, okanye ngaba sithatha iziqwenga kwaye sasingakwazi ukuqonda okoqobo?
Imithetho yeDomostroi yeentsapho zanamhlanje
- Incwadi ithi umfazi onobubele, othulileyo, osebenza nzima uyisithsaba kumyeni wakhe, umenza abe nobuhle. Kodwa ngaba akunjalo? Emva kweminyango yabantu abaninzi abaphumelelayo ngabafazi babo abahlakaniphile. Enyanisweni, ukuba abafazi besimanje babe semthunzini womyeni ophumeleleyo bangabonakala bengavumelekanga, kodwa ukuxhasa umyeni wakhe akuthethi ukuba ungaphumeleli kummandla wakhe, into eyona nto kukukhetha ilungelo lakhe.
- Kwiqoqo yemiyalelo kukho iingcebiso zokunxibelelana imihla ngemihla malunga nendlu. Kweli hlabathi lanamhlanje, le mfundiso ifanelekile-mhlawumbi kungekhona yonke imihla, kodwa ubuncinane kanye ngeveki ukuthetha ngemisebenzi yasekhaya kwaye uhlahlo lwabiwo-mali lufanelekile. Ngoko unokwazi ukubona ngubani othengisa abasebenzi ngaphakathi kwindlu.
- U-Domostroy ufundisa umfazi ukuba athethe kuphela nalabo abaya kuwamkela umyeni, kunye nokuvakatyezela ukugcina ingxoxo enomdla kwaye uqaphele ukunxila. Zonke iingcebiso zinengqiqo, ngaphandle kokuba ukufumana imvume evela kwindoda inokubamba umfazi wesimanje. Nangona kubuza umyeni wam imvume yokudibana nabahlobo yindlela enhle yokuziqhenya ngokuzikhukhumeza kwamadoda. Imvume indoda yonke iya kunika (ukuba akukho zinyanzeliso zokunyanzeliswa), kwaye emva kokuba umbuzo onjalo umvakalelo wokubaluleka kwawo kuyenyuka ngokuphindaphindiweyo.
- Kwakhona kwincwadi kukho iingcebiso zokungagxeki abantu onxibelelana nabo, kungekhona ukuba usasaze inhlebo kwaye ungathethi amagama amabi. Kwakhona isiluleko esihle - ukuhleka kunye neentleko ezimbi kakhulu akuzange zenze nantoni na, kwaye idumela lomntu onamarhefi angcolileyo ngabantu abambalwa kakhulu ebomini kunceda.
- UDomostroy wacebisa ukuba angahlali phantsi kwiphathi kwaye angaxhatshazwa kakubi. Kwaye ezi zicwangciso azikho into enyanisweni - iindibano ezininzi kakhulu kunye nabanikazi ngumthwalo, kwaye sonke siyazi oko ngokuqhelekileyo kugqiba zonke iintlobo zamaqela amashishini kunye nemikhosi enomsindo. I-scandals, ukugwenxa, iziganeko zokuhlekisa kunye nokuhleba-konke oku akuyimfuneko kunoma ubani, ngoko kufuneka uhambe kwiholide, de kube yinto evulekileyo ibe yinto "yokuxoshwa."
- Kukho izicwangciso zokubamkela izibhedlele, le ncwadi iyala ngokukhawuleza ukuba yamkele wonke umntu, uthethe wonke umntu kunye nento enokuyikholisa. Yaye akusiyo le siseko kuwo onke amanxibelelwano anamhlanje? Yiba nobungane, thola ilizwi elimnandi kwaye utyumle kuyo yonke iindwendwe, kwaye abantu baya kukubulela.
- Ukuba indoda ibona ukuba ifama iyinkathazo, kuba ngumsebenzi wakhe ukufundisa umfazi wakhe. Ukuba uyayiqonda yonke into, bulela kwaye ubabonge, kwaye ukuba umfazi akahambanga amazwi omyeni wakhe, ngoko kufuneka ajeziswe. Wayehlwaya, waxolelwa,
kodwa emva komnye ububi akahlali kwaye aphile ngothando kunye nokuvisisana. Le ngongoma yeDomostroi ibangela ukungavumelani okukhulu, kodwa ngokwenza isaphulelo kwithuba elithile kwaye iguqule ingcebiso kwiimeko zanamhlanje, siyafumana isincomo ukuze sikwazi ukuqonda iimpazamo zethu size sivumele iimpazamo kwenye. Kwaye ukusombulula nayiphi na ingxaki, inhlonipho kunye kwaye, ke, uthando kufuneka luncede.
Kuvela i-Domostroy kunye neentsapho zanamhlanje zinganika iingcebiso ezininzi, kwaye i-chauvinism kwimfundiso ayigcinwanga. Kwaye abo bakholwa ngenye indlela, imbali imele ikhunjulwe - ngamaxesha eemfazwe rhoqo kunye nezikhwama zomda, akunakwenzeka ukuba, ngaphandle kokuba umfazi onoxanduva lomkhosi akakwazanga kuthatyathwa njengentloko yentsapho, ngoko ke ilizwi lomyeni wakhe lalingumnqophiso. Kodwa kwiintsapho apho isimo sengqondo sasilungile, abafazi baqulunqa kunye, ngoko ke umnqweno "Ululeko kunye nothando".