Abaninzi bethu baphupha injabulo yoxolo yentsapho - intsapho enobubele, ikhaya elihle, iintlanganiso kunye nezihlobo kunye nabahlobo ngeveki. Kucacile ukuba kuyimfuneko ukusebenza ekudaleni isidleke, akusiyo nto ukuba izalamane zakudala zithetha ngamazwi ahlukanayo "ulonwabo lwentsapho lusezandleni zakho". Nangona kunjalo, kula mazwi ahlukanayo aphelile, kwaye yintoni kanye eyimfuneko yokonwaba kwintsapho, ngamnye wethu kufuneka aqonde ngokuzimela.
Yintoni inwabe yentsapho?
Mhlawumbi, ngamnye umfazi ufuna ukufumana iresiphi yolonwabo lwentsapho, uzama ukucokisa indlela yakhe. Kodwa akukho zifihli apha, zonke izibalo sele zenziwe, kwaye i-theorems ziye zabonakaliswa ixesha elide. Imikhomo emithathu apho ulonwabo lwentsapho lwakhiwe uthando, intlonipho kunye nentembelo.
- Uhlala phi ulonwabo lwentsapho? Ngamnye uya kufumana ingqungquthela yayo, abaninzi banokubonwa njengolonwabo olukhulu kwintsapho encinci ngokubonakala komntwana, kuba umntu ovuyayo kakhulu uya kuthuthela kwindlu entsha, kwaye abanye baya kuqaphela umtshato. Kodwa akukho nanye yale nto iya kwenzeka ngaphandle kothando - ngubani ofuna ukulala ubusuku bonke nomntu ongabangeli nawuphi na umvakalelo?
- Kwaye kuthetha ukuthini ukudibanisa i-destiny yakho nomnye umntu, njengokungathi akazithembi ngokupheleleyo? Emva kokutshata, sithemba lo mntu ubomi bakhe nobomi bezingane ezizayo. Yingakho umfazi kufanele athembele kwiqabane elizayo, zombini ngendlela yothando, nakwikhaya. Ubungqina bokuthi umyeni uya kuba nako ukubonelela intsapho kubaluleke kakhulu, kwaye akukho moya ongenalutho kuwo.
- Abanye abantu abangazi kakuhle bathi kubalulekile ukubonakala malunga nentlonipho, kwaye uthando luphela ngokukhawuleza. Kodwa izibini ezitshatileyo zihlala ecaleni ngexesha elide zikholelwa ukuba ngaphandle kokuhlonela uthando kunye nokuthetha akufanelekanga. Ukuba awukhathaleli ngemibono, iimvakalelo, iingcinga zomnye nomnye, awuhloneli umlingane wakho njengomntu, ngaba lo lu thando?
Izimfihlelo Zolonwabo Lwentsapho
Ngezona zinto ziyinxalenye yendlela yokufumana ulonwabo lwentsapho, saqulunqa, kwaye yintoni enye imithetho?
- Yamkela umntu njengoko kunjalo, ngaphandle kokuzama ukulungisa kwakhona nokufundisa kwakhona. Ewe, kunzima, kodwa ukuba ucatshukiswa yimikhwa yendoda yakho kwaye awufumani nto engcono kunokuba "umbonise" ngokucaphuka kwakho, ngoko ayiyi kubakho ukudibana kunye nentuthuzelo kwintsapho.
- Isiqinisekiso sentsapho yolonwabo singabizwa ngokuba ngumnqweno wobafazi ukwenza konke kunye. Emva koko, intsapho iyindawo yoluntu, ngoko ke kufuneka kwenziwe izigqibo kunye, nokuba kwenzekani kwintsapho, uxanduva luhlala kunye nabini bomtshato. Kwaye, ngaphezu koko, uluntu olunomdla luyimfuneko nje ukuba luhlale luhlala ixesha elide. Ukuba akukho nto inomdla, emva kokuphazamiseka kwamahomoni kunye neemvakalelo, isibini esithile asiqondi nje into edibanisayo. Ubulili obuhle bukhulu, kodwa akwanele.
- Ngendlela, malunga nesondo. Ayikho imfihlelo yokuba ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, izinto ezinqwenelekayo, kunye nobomi obusondeleyo buba bukhulu kunokuba ngaphambili. Kodwa konke kusezandleni zethu, phantse bonke abesifazana baneengcamango ezilungileyo, ngoko kukuthintela ntoni ukuba zisetyenziselwe isizathu esibalulekileyo? Imidlalo yokudlala indima, isidlo sothando, iingubo zangaphantsi zobunxibi-ewe, awukwazi ukuba ungathini ukukholisa indoda yakho ethandekayo.
- Ngokuqhelekileyo, esi sibini siqala ukufumanisa ukuba ubani osebenza kakhulu, owenza okungakumbi ukonwaba kwintsapho. Kodwa le ndlela ayiyiyo yonke into, bobabini nisebenzela kanzima ukuba nandiphe iziqhamo zomsebenzi wenu kwisidleke esilula. Ekhaya elonwabileyo, abafazi abayi kukwazi ukukhuphisana nokuziqhayisa ngempumelelo yabo, kodwa baya kuzama ukuvuyela ukuphumelela komnye kunye nenkxaso xa kwenzeka ukungaphumeleli.
- Ngaphandle kokuxabana akunakwenzeka ukuba uphile, kodwa kubalulekile ukuba ukwazi ukuqonda iimpazamo zakho, wenze izinto ezonakalisayo. Awukwazi ukucaphukisa ixesha elide, ukuhlambalaza ukuba ipropati iqokelele, kwaye emva kweentsuku ezimbalwa, inkomfa yomfazi oyithandayo ayibonakali njengento encinci, ephukile ngentshukumo engathandekiyo yendoda yakhe. Ngoko musa ukulibazisa ngokuxolelana, kwaye ukhumbule - kwingxabano, bobabini bahlala bebeka ityala.