Ungaphila ukuhlukana kumyeni wakhe?

Kutheni ukuhlukana nomyeni wakhe kunye nengcamango yokuphila kwinto eyenzekayo kukuba intlungu, nokuba awukwazi ukubonana? Ukwahlukana , njengokwenza nayiphi na enye ikhefu, akuthethi nje ukulahlekelwa koxanduva lomntu, kodwa kunye nokuwa kwezithemba zothando kunye namaphupha. Uthando luqala ngamanqaku aphakamileyo: uthando, ithemba ngekamva. Xa la mathemba ewa, siziva sidangele kwaye sibuhlungu ngokwenene.

YoNcedo lokuqala

Sifumana kwintsimi engatshatanga. Yonke into iyatshatyalaliswa: imikhwa, indlela yokuphila, ikhaya, ubudlelwane kunye nenxalenye yezihlobo kunye nabahlobo kunye nesimo sethu sengqondo. Kwaye kwimihlaba enelungelo lokuba nokwakha into entsha. Yakha into eyobaluleka kwaye ibaluleke kakhulu. Khumbula amagama: indlela yokusinda ukuhlukana nomyeni wakhe, ilingana nendlela yokuqhubeka ubomi obupheleleyo kunye nolonwabo emva kokuqhawula umtshato.

Okokuqala, thabatha ikhefu. Vumela inxeba ikhule, jonga yonke into esuka kwindawo efunyenwe-yezokwelapha. Yintoni ebuhlungu kuwe. Vumela ukuthetha ngokuvulekileyo malunga neemvakalelo zakho, vumela isiphepho siphephe. Kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu - khumbula ukuba unayo ikamva. Imvakalelo inokuphikisa okuchaseneyo, kodwa ingqiqo isitsho ukuba usaphila, kwaye iimpawu zakho ezilungileyo, iitalente kunye nezifiso zakho zihlala kuwe.

Yintoni ongayenza ngokulandelayo?

Nazi ezinye iingcebiso ezibalulekileyo zokukunceda ukujamelana nokudakumba emva kokuhlukana nomyeni wakho.

Gwema iindlela zeekhemikhali zokujongana nokudandatheka. Qala ukuhamba nge-yoga. Qalisa uhambo. Yenza oko kukukholisayo, kodwa ayichaphazeli amaziko okuxhomekeka.

Unakekele impilo yakho kunye neenxa zonke. Thola ukulala ngokwaneleyo, jonga ukutya. Yenza ukuhlanza kwentwasahlobo uze uzalise indlu ngeentlobo zeentombi ezicocekileyo. Iibhawusi ezikhanyayo, iintambo ezithambileyo kunye namakhandlela aqholiweyo ziya kutshintsha isimo sakho sokuphucula.

Musa ukuthi "ukulahla"

Yeka ukhathazeka ukucinga malunga nento oyithethayo kumyeni wakho ekuhlukaneni. Ezi ngcamango azikuncedi ukuba usinde kwi-gap, kodwa kunoko, ukunyusa imeko esele ilukhuni. Ukuba kunokwenzeka, ukunciphisa oonxibelelwano, sebenze ngezihlobo, oommeli kunye neenkonzo zokuhambisa (ukuba ufuna ukujongana nezinto). Ubomi bakho bubalulekile kuwe, kwaye ukususela ngoku uqala ngephepha elitsha nelicocekileyo.