Ukuba ubomi kunye nomlingane, ongeke ube nexesha elide, awuzange ujabule, kwaye kanye nembono yokuba phantsi kophahla olulodwa kunye naye iyinto enyanyekayo - lixesha lokuba umfazi ahambe nomyeni wakhe. Akuyimfuneko ukubandakanya ekufumaneni ukufunyanwa kwisisiseko esiyinyaniso sokuveliswa komnqweno onjalo, kuba iimvakalelo ezicimayo, ubuninzi, azivuselelanga. Kungcono ucinge ngendlela enhle ngayo ukuhamba nomyeni wakhe.
Ngokwezibalo, kubaninzi abasetyhini, ixesha elivela kwimvelaphi yeengcamango ngesihloko esithi "njani ukuphuma kumyeni wakhe?" Ngaphambi kokuphumeza kwimpilo yangempela kuthatha inyanga ukuya kunyaka. Ungazami ukusabalalisa ebomini bakhe ngobusuku omnye - esi sigqibo esingenangqondo singabangela iingxaki ezinzulu kwixesha elizayo. Nangona ucinga ukuba akukho nto ingabuyiselwa, ngaphambi kokugqiba isigqibo sokuba ushiye umyeni wakho, cinga kwakhona malunga nemfuneko yangempela yekhefu. Thetha kumlingane odidekile malunga neengxaki eziqokelelweyo. Kodwa, ukuba umntu akafuni ukwenza nantoni na ukuba abuyisele intando yakhe yangaphambili, uphakamise isandla sakhe okanye ayihloneli, awufanele umgcine.
Unokufumana njani amandla okubaleka kumyeni wakhe?
Ngokuqhelekileyo, abasetyhini bahlala besatshatile "bengabi nabubele" okanye bangaphantsi kwefuthe lenkcubeko yabo yokubeleka. Akufanele uhlaselwe, ukuhlaziswa kunye nokungahloneli ngokuqhelekileyo, kuba, njengoko ucinga ukuba, umyeni ongaphambili akakwazi ukuhlala yedwa. Akudingeki ukuba uchithe ubomi bakho ekuboneleleni ubomi bomntu owayesithandayo. Ixesha lihamba kwaye kunye nonyaka ngomtshato nomyeni ongathandekiyo unokuba ngumnyaka wokonwaba ngokwenene kunye nomlingani ofanelekileyo.
Ukuba uhlushwa yimibandela malunga nendlela yokuphuma kumyeni wakho, qalisa ngocwangciso olufanelekileyo lwezempilo yakho. Ngaba ungumfazi wendlu kwaye uxhomekeka ngokupheleleyo kwiqabane lakho? Ngaphambi kokuqhawula umtshato, zama ukufumana umsebenzi kunye nemali engenayo, okuya kukuvumela ukuba ufumane ubomi obukhululekile. Yenza ikhadi lekhredithi, lingafumaneka ngokufanelekileyo kumaxesha amanzima kakhulu. Funda ukucwangcisa iindleko - akufuneki ukuba uchithe kwiinyanga zokuqala emva kokuqhawula umtshato yonke imivuzo yezityalo okanye iimpahla. Mhlawumbi uya kufuneka urente indlu, ngoko ngokuthenga ityhulo yakho oyithandayo, "iD & G" iya kufuneka ilinde.
Indlela yokuphuma kumyeni wakhe, ukuba kukho okanye sele uya kuba ngumntwana?
Ekubeni kubantwana abancinci, inkqubo yokuqhawula umtshato isenziwa ngeenkundla. Kungcono ukusombulula ingxaki ye-alimony kusengaphambili - yenza isivumelwaneni ngokubambisana neenkonzo zecwetha eliyingcali. Ukuba "isiqingatha sesibini" siya kunqumla kwisigqibo sakhe, unamathele kumgwebo umyalelo wokubuyiswa kwe-alimony.
Nangona umfazi ushiye ukukhulelwa komyeni wakhe, uya kuphazamiseka ixesha elide ngemvakalelo yeemvakalelo malunga nokuchaneka kokukhethwa. "Indlela yokuphuma kumyeni, ukuba kukho umntwana?" - Lo mbuzo uvame ukucelwa nje kuphela ngabagwebi, kodwa kunye nabafundi beengqondo. Ewe, ithemba lokuba ngumama ongatshatanga liya kuthusa nayiphi na intombazana. Ungesabi, kumntu owayengumlingani wangaphambili ukukhanya akuzange kuhlangane kunye nomda. Khangela inkxaso kwiintsapho kunye nabahlobo. Xa umntwana ekhula, ungayithabatheli entlokweni yakhe ukuhlambalaza uyise kunye naye, mhlonele ngenhlonipho, okanye, ubuncinci, ngokuthintela. Musa ukuthobela ukugwetywa kukagogo kumnyango,
Indlela yokusinda kumyeni womtyholi okanye utywala?
Uyabetha, ubeka ubomi bakho engozini, kodwa awukwazi ukuba unqume njani ukushiya umyeni onjalo? Emva kwesinye isxabano, tyelela i-Bureau ye-Forensic Medical Examination kwaye ucele ukuba ubhale phantsi ukubetha. Emva kokuba umxelele ngomnqweno wakho wokuqhawula umtshato, uya kukhangela ukuzama ukukusongela ngogonyamelo. Yithi ubhala le nkcazo kumapolisa kwaye unamathele kwisigqibo sesicatshulwa kuyo - ukukhwela komntu kuya kuphelisa ngokukhawuleza.
Kodwa ukuba umyeni wakho udla ngokufakela kwiglasi, akufanele ube nokungabaza kunye nokucinga ngendlela yokuphuma kumyeni wotywala. Le yimeko xa kufuneka usebenze ngokukhawuleza. Ukuqokelela izinto, ukuvimba ii-akhawunti eziqhelekileyo kunye neempahla ezixabisekileyo kunye nepropati yomntu kunye nokuhamba-kubazali, abahlobo, ekugqibeleni, ehotele. Umntu ojongene nokulutha utywala okanye ukusetyenziswa kweziyobisi akaqinisekanga ngokupheleleyo.