Enyanisweni, nayiphi na ibhinqa inokujamelana neengxaki zokugqiba ukuba ngaba ukhulelwe emangcwabeni. Emva koko, le nto ibaluleke kakhulu kwaye iyatshisa. Uninzi lweefolk dolophu ludinga ukuba umama ozayo akakho "udibana" nomfi. Kodwa kukho elinye icala kwicala: ungakhokelela umntu kumzila wokugqibela, kodwa akudingeki ukuba uthathe inxaxheba kuyo nayiphi na imihango okanye uye kwibhokisi.
Iinkalo zeengqondo zengxaki yokuba ngaba ngabafazi abakhulelweyo banokuvakashela amangcwaba
Ngamnye wethu unomqobo wakhe wokumelana noxinzelelo, iimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo. Udidi oluthile loomama abalindayo alulahlekanga naliphi na ixesha ukucinga malunga nokuba umfazi okhulelwe angaya emangcwabeni okanye cha. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba le nto ingaqhelekanga njani, kuba baninzi, ithuba lokuya kwindawo yokungcwaba yomntu othandekayo kuthetha ukukhutshwa kwengqondo, ukuthoba kunye nokuthula.
Izinto ezihlukeneyo zikhona, ukuba umnqweno wokutyelela ingcwaba okanye ukuya emngcwabeni, kodwa ukwesaba kwazo zonke ezi zenzo kunye nokwenzeka kokulimaza umntwana kubakho. Ingxaki kukuba, yinyani kakhulu, kwaye ukhetho lufanele lwenziwe malunga nomntwana wakho. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba akunakwenzeka ukutyelela emangcwabeni yowesifazane okhulelweyo kuya kubangela ukuzisola okunzulu kunye nokunyanzeliswa kwengqondo kwengqondo, ngoko omnye akufanele athathwe ngumkhethe.
Nokuba abakhonzi becawa bakholelwa ukuba abafazi abakhulelweyo emangcwabeni bangahamba, kwaye ukuhlala "kwindawo enomdla" akakho nantoni indlela yokuhambela indawo yokungcwaba, ukutya okungcwaba kunye nemingcwabo. Baye bakhanyela ubukho bezinto ezibizwa ngokuba yi-negative energy, ekuthiwa inokulimaza umntwana. Yonke le nto ayikho ngaphandle kweempawu zokumangalisa kunye nokukrokrela kwimizi yemimandla eyasasaza imbono yokuba umntwana osesizalweni akanalo ingelosi yakhe yokugcina. Ngoko ke, kucingelwa ukuba ukukhulelwa kunye namangcwaba ayinxalenye engqinelanayo.
Ziziphi ezinye iindlela ezikhoyo?
Ukuba iinkolelo zokuba abafazi abakhulelweyo abavunyelwe emangcwabeni, baqhubeka bephumelele, ngoko kukho ithuba lokuba "bangabikho" ukuthetha okanye ukuthetha nomfi. Unokwenza ngokwengqondo ngokutyelela icawa uze ubeke ikhandlela umphefumlo wakhe. Akufanele uhluthe ukuzisola, unesizathu esilungileyo. Enyanisweni, umngcwabo kunye nokukhunjulwa ngumthwalo onzima kakhulu, ongenakukwazi ukugcinwa ngumfazi ngamnye. Ukukhulelwa unokuya emangcwabeni ubuncinci ukwenzela ukubonelela ngenkxaso efanelekileyo kwiintsapho kunye nabahlobo bomntu ofileyo, bonisa intlonelo kunye nembeko.
Ngaba kuyingozi ukuhamba emathuneni?
Ukuba usenqwenela ukuya emngcwabeni okanye kwingcwaba lomthandayo, akuyi kuba yinto engafanelekanga ukuba igcobe impumlo ngeoli ye-oxolin. Emva koko, inani elikhulu labantu lingaba ngumthombo wentsholongwane ngezifo zokuphefumula ezahlukahlukeneyo, okungafunekiyo loo mfazi kwimeko.
Kwakhona, icala elibi leengxaki nokuba ingaba yini na ukuya emangcwabeni
Akukho imfuneko ukukhangela isigqibo sombuzo, nokuba ngaba ngabafazi abakhulelweyo emangcwabeni, kwiibhola kunye neeblogi ezahlukahlukeneyo. Oku kufanele kube sisigqibo sakho.